DH is doing CC...

[CoodleMoodle]

Or a version of it, anyway. I don't quite know what he's doing.

We're on our knees with DD and her almost 15 months of crap sleep - last night up every hour near enough, including an hour where I had to rock her back to sleep in the chair. DH is up there now, trying CC because I'm just not strong enough.

I've rocked her to sleep nearly every night since she was tiny, and right now she's in her cot, moaning and shouting, likely wondering where her Mum is and what the hell is going on. She was singing but now she's just crying, getting more and more worked up, and I don't know what's going to happen.

Sometimes she'll settle with shh/pat if she wakes in the night but she's never done it to actually fall asleep, and I just can't see it happening now. She's slept through the night a few times but for three months solid we've had absolutely horrific sleep, and it just has to stop before we collapse.

Her eating is crap (pretty much nonexistent, today) and her sleeping is worse. She's still in our room because having to get out of bed 20 times per night was bad enough, traipsing across the hall was torture. We did that for three nights at the start of the year until I cracked and brought her back in. I know this was stupid but I was struggling so much. She can be so happy but she's so tired and grumpy and so are we.

I want DH to succeed, but I'm not feeling positive. I should turn the monitor off and not listen but I can't help it.

I want to go up there and just rock her to sleep like I always do. Tonight is going to be so awful, and I'm just so bloody tired.

Woo!

Brilliant! Well done all of you

Marvellous!! Well done to all of you

Spanner in the works...

Been up and down with her since 3. We suspect teeth. Given her some Calpol and currently rocking her, of course she's now wide awake! Poor thing, she's had her fingers in her mouth all day but nothing to show for it yet.

So we're going to have to start all over again when she's back to normal She's only got four teeth so far, we've got a loooooong way to go!

The sun is going to start shining through our curtains shortly, as we've moved the blackout blind into her room. Hope she drops off before it does or she'll never get back to sleep.

I'm right there with you with the teething, my DS is 14mo and has 9 teeth and two molars with just points sticking through at the minute. He was asleep by 6.30pm then up at 11, 12.30 until 1ish, 3.30 until 4.30 then up at 6.30. I'm quite stubborn about not picking him up even when teething though as he has basically being cutting his molars for 4 months on and off now and I really didn't want to start any habits. I just soothe him as best I can in his cot until he drops off again. Maybe you should invest in some blackout curtains for your room since she has so many teeth to come yet!

That's rough timing with the teething. But take heart, we found that when the DC were into a decent sleep routine, they would easily drop back into it once the unusual event was over, be it a cold, teething or odd routine disruption such a family party.

At least you have had a few decent nights sleep banked before the teething started. Think how awful would be feeling now if you hadn't started this.

Hope the tooth is through soon.

And I agree about the blackout curtains. We still have blackout blinds in all our bedrooms.

Good grief, the terminology in this thread is heart-wrenching. "Brutal", "trauma", "screaming", "sobbing"...and that's from the ones condoning CC! Please, please, please don't put your babies through this CRUEL practice. It IS damaging whether you choose to accept it or put your fingers in your ears and go "la la la" to drown out the screams of your child who NEEDS your comfort.

www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out

ODFOD

Well, if it makes you feel better, I've been sat up with DD (yes, bolt upright) all night. I've had twenty minutes sleep so far and not expecting more. She's 'in' my bed, except not because she won't let me move from the edge of the bed. But I'm doing it because right now that's what she needs.

We all have awful colds and have chucked the CC for now. Once she's better, we're going back to it. But to say I don't give my child comfort when she needs it is ridiculous.

She was so much happier after a good sleep. We all were. Now we're miserable just like before, only this time it's for a reason other than she just wanted me to hold her all night (but not actually touch her because DD doesn't really do comforting).

Fuck off with your shitty links MissAnn.

Sorry to hear you've had a bad night Coodle

Thanks undoubtedly. Think it's a day of Cbeebies today!

Cry it out is not the same as controlled crying. As a parent I feel it is my responsibility to teach my children the skills they need. Including how to self settle and get a good nights sleep. Have a good sofa day coddles,

Exactly, Sweep. I wouldn't do CIO. I know people do but I couldn't. CC is hard but DD is comforted after short intervals.

We're doing okay so far - actually got a bit of Wheetabix and fruit puree in her, which is more than yesterday. She's asleep now, and if she lets me put her down I'll be off for a nap too.

I hope she gets over this asap, I'm going away from Thursday night to Saturday morning - my first ever time away from her, and DH's first time fully solo. It was the main reason for doing CC and now she's not well

I hope she goes down for you tonight Coodle.

I've done some CIO in the days when dd was around a year old. My exh left, I was working FT and some nights she just screamed and screamed.

I'd try everything,and eventually I'd shut the door and go to bed with a pillow over my head. It was hard for both of us, but you cope because you have to. I'd wake up later on and she'd have finally cried herself to sleep.

I'm not proud of it but neither was I in a place where I could sit up all night with her.

That's just life.