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Xenophobia, homophonic, transphobia

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spstchmu · Today 01:52

Are you gonna do anything about it? Like, i know the line is that shoving the madness in the feminism board means it's not transphobia. And I know it's been done to death but I'm sick of it. It's not acceptable. Xenophobia, racism and homophobia also increasing.
And no. I won't leave. This is the biggest forum of its kind and it needs to represent and respect us all. And care that it's not.

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Differentforgirls · Today 09:30

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Lexibletheflexible · Today 09:30

Soontobe60 · Today 09:25

Why do you think that is? Because they darent. It’s not hard to figure it out, female prisoner won’t complain about a man being incarcerated with her because she’ll be seen as transphobic, possibly punished and still have to have that possibly violent male locked up alongside her.

No it's because a) there arent many trans prisoners overall b) prisoners who encounter trans prisoners have bigger problems including direct threats to safety and c) some of them will genuinely believe trans women are in the right prison.

I know this from both being a prisoner (albeit a while ago) and now having contact with prisoners most days through my volunteering.

Lexibletheflexible · Today 09:32

Soontobe60 · Today 09:27

And if you think that locking men up with vulnerable women is perfectly ok then you have no right to be working with those women. You clearly have no regard to safeguarding,

I think I have a pretty good perspective on the most pressing issues for female prisoners (as I had to Prisoners Abroad in relation to a British female held in a foreign prison who is to be tranferred here soon).

callmeLoretta1 · Today 09:32

Lexibletheflexible · Today 09:03

Lots of women see trans women as women, so to some extent, trans women are accepted as women in society. Like it or not.

Only those that confuse trans men with trans women and don't realise trans women are fully intact males with penis and testicles. When women are told transwomen are males with penis and testicles, NO, they overwhelmingly are not, as polls show, accepted as women.

outdamnhot · Today 09:32

Lexibletheflexible · Today 08:15

Have you been to prison?

Probably not.

I have.

The sexual exploitation, bullying and mistreatment wasnt coming from trans women. It came from some of the screws, many of the (totally female) inmates and the system itself.

I bet most of you who speak about the plight of female prisoners haven't done a single thing to actually support them. They are just convenient examples for your quest against trans people.

Can anyone list any way they help female prisoners other than supporting single sex prisons (which most women experience anyway).

You are attacking the person, not the argument.

This is another common tactic of people who seek to defend gender ideology.

The fact is, locking women up with male prisoners increases the risk to women from male sexual assault. The fact that there was a risk from male guards, is no argument at all to add another layer of risk, and remove another layer of safeguarding.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · Today 09:32

cannibalfish · Today 06:29

Is isn’t different from saying ‘men are biologically designed to reproduce with women’ as an argument against homosexuality. Technically a fact but still doesn’t change the fact that they are gay and aren’t going to do that. Would you go around arguing that point unprompted?

What genitalia a person might have has nothing to do with you, doesn’t change them as a person and makes no difference to anything really. It’s a Mumsnet obsession at this point, I know quite a few trans people, through work and in my personal life, and it really is a non issue in real life.

Something doesn't have to affect me directly for me to have a view on it, @cannibalfish - and I abhor the trans ideology that says fully male bodied rapists and violent prisoners can self identify as female and demand to be housed - and locked up with vulnerable women. My concern is for the women who have been sexually assaulted by these men, not the men themselves.

I care about the dignity, safety and privacy of women in single sex spaces, and will not concede these spaces to males.

Differentforgirls · Today 09:33

RedTagAlan · Today 09:29

I am not taking part in this thread, just reading it.

The case is here:

Female prisoner claims she was blocked from parole over 'trans' abuse of inmate - Daily Record

The claim of being transphobic was found not proven.

Jayney is herself in jail for muder (her father), and she claimed the accusation of transphobia against her prevented her parole.

She didn't murder her father. She murdered A 40 year old father.

callmeLoretta1 · Today 09:33

Lexibletheflexible · Today 09:03

Lots of women see trans women as women, so to some extent, trans women are accepted as women in society. Like it or not.

Only those that are confused with the differences between trans men and trans women. When told that trans women are males with penis and testicles, as polls show, women overwhelmingly don't see transwomen as women.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · Today 09:34

Lexibletheflexible · Today 08:23

Id encourage my 16 year old to train harder and beat the old person. You may instill different values in your children.

This is one of the more idiotic posts on this subject I've seen. Women's bodies and men's bodies are different. You can train as hard as you like but if you are female you're not going to win the men's 100m at the Olympics. You're not even likely to win at your local sports club against men and older boys. This is not sexist, it's just fact. Women's bodies are extremely complex because of our reproductive roles, which are there whether we choose to reproduce or not. Men's are simpler and thanks to testosterone they are usually taller and stronger and have lots of other advantages that help them with sporting performance. https://boysvswomen.com/#/

If boys are faster than elite female athletes, should males compete in female athletics?

See how the best high school boys stack up against the best female Olympians and World Record holders in Track & Field and Swimming.

https://boysvswomen.com/#/

Shedmistress · Today 09:34

Differentforgirls · Today 09:06

Are you dismissing the views and experience of the only ex woman prisoner posting on this thread?

That poster seems to think that male staff are a threat and that male inmates aren't, and that prisons are single sex for 'privacy' yet a man locked in the same cell as a women is considered a woman even if he is a rapist.

Talk about confused dot com.

Either men as a class are a threat to women as a class or they are not.

callmeLoretta1 · Today 09:36

Lexibletheflexible · Today 09:23

No the argument is that if you care about female prisoners, you'd care about the issues they actually feel are most pertinent to them.

And many female prisoners have come out and said this is a big issue to them.

So I believe them.

callmeLoretta1 · Today 09:37

Differentforgirls · Today 09:25

Oh so the trans men arent mentally ill perverts then just the trans women?

Whether they are or aren't isn't the issue. The issue is, they are female. Not male.

Nothing else matters.

callmeLoretta1 · Today 09:38

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I'm the one that's insufferable? Really?

You're the one repeating thousands times over debunked tropes.

And I'm proud that someone who wants to prevent facts being told finds me 'insufferable'. It means I am foiling their plans to misrepresent and deceive. Not on my watch! Feminists will always bring the receipts.

Shedmistress · Today 09:40

Can we also remember that the Trans Lobby directly targeted changing prison policy to get men into female prisons, because it was thought that nobody cared about female prisoners; and if they could do it there they could replicate that anywhere.

And it seems they were right. Even someone who purportedly works with vulnerable women in prison has never heard of this and thinks it is no threat whatsoever.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · Today 09:41

crikeymikey123 · Today 08:32

I sort of get it.
As a lesbian with very little access to lesbian-only spaces, I don’t necessarily want to be pursued by a man in a dress who identifies as a woman. That said, it’s not a massive issue for me, it’s happened once and I simply said “no thank you.” I couldn't give a shit whose in the changing room / toilet next to me
I don’t want to exclude anyone. I see trans people as cousins within the wider LGBT+ family and I’d much rather we unite than divide. I don’t believe most people would put themselves through surgery and that level of heartache unless they were in significant distress.

Very few trans-identified males have sexual reassignment surgery, and thank god for that, as it's barbaric and carries significant risk of lifelong health problems. What they are more likely to have is facial surgery or breast implants. The trans people getting surgery are young women having double mastectomies.

Ereshkigalangcleg · Today 09:41

Lexibletheflexible · Today 09:23

No the argument is that if you care about female prisoners, you'd care about the issues they actually feel are most pertinent to them.

That’s not actually an argument as to why men should use female spaces, is it? 🙄 whataboutery.

callmeLoretta1 · Today 09:43

There are not that many transwomen in female prisons, says a pp. Really? Really? All evidence to the contrary.

Xenophobia, homophonic, transphobia
Igneococcus · Today 09:43

Lexibletheflexible · Today 09:32

I think I have a pretty good perspective on the most pressing issues for female prisoners (as I had to Prisoners Abroad in relation to a British female held in a foreign prison who is to be tranferred here soon).

One of the most outspoken opponents of putting men into women's prisons in Scotland, Rhona Hotchkiss, has spent years working in prisons as health inspector and as a governor. I take her opinion on this over random person popping up on MN making claims we can't verify any day.

RedTagAlan · Today 09:43

Differentforgirls · Today 09:33

She didn't murder her father. She murdered A 40 year old father.

Ahh sorry. Happy to be corrected. And double checking, she pled guilty to culpable homicide.

Differentforgirls · Today 09:44

RedTagAlan · Today 09:43

Ahh sorry. Happy to be corrected. And double checking, she pled guilty to culpable homicide.

Thank you for the link btw.

Ereshkigalangcleg · Today 09:45

The majority of posters on MN, as in the wider world, do not believe that trans identified male people are the same as women or have the right to use female only spaces. Thankfully the law has now been clarified. Mumsnet has been instrumental in providing a space to challenge the misogyny of trans rights activists, and that’s why its detractors throw their toys out of the pram over women having freedom of speech on it. Very simple.

backformoreofthesame · Today 09:45

I think it’s quite horrid that when you say that transwomen don’t belong in cells with women you are automatically accused of thinking of all transwomen as mentally impaired sex offenders , that it’s automatically assumed you wouldn’t call them by their preferred name or treat with basic respect

RoundedRobin · Today 09:47

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · Today 06:20

I agree it is generational in part. Fortunately, the younger people who have been brainwashed at school, university and online into believing that gender identity trumps sex are now out in the real world and slowly grasping that they've been sold a pup. The generation behind them see gender ideology as old hat so are not interested in it.

This ^^

ChamonixMountainBum · Today 09:47

Lexibletheflexible · Today 09:21

Do you guess that based on their appearance? Or do they wear a badge or something?

Why the snark? If someone who is obviously male who has clearly put a lot of effort into presenting themselves as female and have adapted female pronouns it is hardly unreasonable to assume to that they are trans.

Lexibletheflexible · Today 09:48

callmeLoretta1 · Today 09:32

Only those that confuse trans men with trans women and don't realise trans women are fully intact males with penis and testicles. When women are told transwomen are males with penis and testicles, NO, they overwhelmingly are not, as polls show, accepted as women.

No lots of women are fine with trans women being accepted of women, irrespective of their stage of transitioning or their plans for future procedures.