Moderation Sex Board

[onirgellep]

Back in February Justine* committed to an urgent review of moderation of the Sex Board subsequent to the considerable concerns mainly arising from the longstanding Sex Chat thread

Unsurprisingly, issues continue

Would it be possible to have an update on the progress of the review?

And hear when do you anticipate it being completed and the new moderation put into action?

Thank you

I'm afraid I'm unable to link Justine's post on the thread References to Underage Sex on the Sex Board* page 13

God that’s grim.

I noticed one of the ‘sex people’ trying to ‘help’ someone on different board. A woman asked a question about a clothing choice and he added a touch of perv to the thread. Just subtly. Once they’re here, they have to keep pushing the boundaries.

Can't have anything without it getting infiltrated and stained by filth.

Has anyone from mnhq/a single mod even bothered to comment on this thread?

Which is, after all, in site stuff

TBH I can understand why this hasn't been replied to tho' a quick 'thanks for getting in touch' would have been polite

The answer to my question was largely provided early on and in retrospect I should perhaps have asked to have the thread deleted before so many people posted. That said I don't have any positive experiences of my asking for other things I've posted to be removed so.........

Also arguably 4 significant transgressions of the new moderation rules in 6 weeks [3 by the same poster] is probably not sufficient to trigger concern with MNHQ about how tighter moderation is panning out. Maybe the next 6 weeks or more usefully 6 months is a better timeframe

Having said that it's not a good idea IMO not to step in early when things go seriously awry - this and other issues surrounding the sex board have been plagued by long drawn out inaction- obviously over reacting isn't helpful either -

I really didn't want to make my OP personal about @Mermaidparades but to focus on policy/process although it was probably inevitable that the thread would go that way. Any anyway I didn't want to reward her with more attention.

@onirgellep you aren’t rewarding me, I have no desire for your attention. Seriously, can you please stop now.

PS to above post

Para 2 is a bit ambiguous - I've not actually asked for this thread to be deleted as
there are some excellent posts here plus so many posts on this issue have been deleted already

I think you're right, OP.
Leave it for now, but keep an eye out for any further transgressions.
And YY to no more oxygen.

Personally, the times in my life when I've been having loads of really hot and adventurous sex have not been characterised by spending hours arguing about moderation rules on a website for middle-aged mums.

That seems kind of... antithetical to eroticism. I'd find it pretty much impossible, and disturbing, to be trying to get my rocks off on a website with thread titles about domestic abuse, disability, illness, bereavement, cat and dog care, potty training, childbirth, and so on. If I were the sort of person who had to get my sexual kicks online, rather than in real life, I'd go to a site that was dedicated to sex and erotica. Not a site about parenting. Because that's kind of.. weird. Isn't it?

But perhaps I'm missing something.

It’s lame to take such a reductionist view of Mumsnet in order to mock the people who use the Sex Board. It’s a pretty busy board too, so I’d be inclined to say yes, you probably are missing something. I’d also like to remind you that the current issue arose when I tried to alert people to another website which hosts chats.

How can that be appropriate for mumsnet? I wonder if OPs link had a section on ‘poultry sex’ to go with teen sex and incest. Ffs. What is wrong with people?

I think you mean what is wrong with mumsnet. They allow the threads to stand. They gave consent to the chat thread.
Don't hate the player, hate the game!

Perhaps you'd like to suggest a suitable alternative site for people like that to go to then?

@everywhichway are you suggesting there isn't anywhere else apart from Mumsnet where these needs can be met? Do you not have access to Google?

@everywhichway don't you have google then? You really can't think of a single site to spaff on about fisting and wanking so have to do it here?

@StraightOuttaContext snap

@TheBayTreeMurder glad it's not just me who didn't quite believe what I'd just read!

If pervy men are capable of accessing MN I'm sure they can use Google, @everywhichway

Why do you need other posters to find sex sites for you? 🧐

@Mermaidparades may feel an obligation to ‘help’ out men in this way, I doubt many others feel the same.

Hi @onirgellep - we're really sorry for the delay in responding. We'll do our best to answer the issues you've raised in due course but we're a bit thin on the ground just now.

As TheShellBeach pointed out at the start of the thread, we did respond to many of the queries that were raised on this thread - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/4753533-the-sex-topic-an-update-on-moderation - if you use the Filter/See All option on the OP posts on that thread, you'll see that YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet posted 17 times, most recently on 14th March.

We appreciate your suggestions for additional warnings to be placed at the top of the Sex topic. The HQ message currently says:

'Only those who have been a registered user of Mumsnet for at least 7 days can post in this topic. Mumsnet is a site for grown-ups - you can choose what you want to share with other users but please don’t send unwanted PMs or be otherwise disrespectful.'

but we're open to reviewing this text if necessary.

As ever, please report any posts, threads or posters that concern you - we're always happy to check things out behind the scenes and will take action if we think someone's not here in good faith.

Thanks again for sharing your concerns. We'll be back to respond in more detail after the weekend but in the meantime we'd be grateful if this thread could remain about policy, rather than personal comments about individual posters.

So odd right? Must be part of the thrill for him, getting posters on a parenting site to suggest sex sites. It says a lot about who they are, no normal, healthy boundaries whatsoever, seemingly he thinks this is a normal thing to do. The mind boggles.

Thanks for acknowledging the ongoing discussion @JoMumsnet. Looking forward to a more detailed response after the weekend.

More inappropriate behaviour. Why do you think asking people to find sex websites for you is ok?

Thanks for your reply @JoMumsnet

Just briefly

I did see @YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet thread and considered asking to have this thread deleted, as above

A small point about the warning For me at least it's written in very small writing - when I went to check it yesterday, before making that post, I had to go and find my glasses in order to read it!

It looks like a bit of a 'shy' warning that doesn't want to stand out to much
Anyway

Look forward to hearing your further thoughts after the weekend - hope things improve staffing wise

For the avoidance of doubt, I have no interest in using other sites for the purposes of talking about sex and neither have I ever used one.

I'm concerned about the under age aspect now. Should there be some ID requirement to view or post?