Why are you allowing people to troll the Sex Board?

[HornyBee]

If it was any other board you wouldn't allow it.
If I went on another board and started posting recipes and taking the piss out of the posters I'd quickly be banned.
It is flooded with people trolling it.
Every single thread.
It's really horrible.
Take it off active or just shut the whole board down.
It's disgusting.

Here's a crazy, batshit idea, just a random shot in the dark, but here's an idea...... For you - AND the others who cannot hide the sex topic on their phone.......

LOG ON TO MUMSNET ON AN ACTUAL COMPUTER/PC/LAPTOP, AND HIDE THE SEX TOPIC.

You're welcome.........

Who cares?
The men who are wanking on the threads?
Because my heart bleeds for the poor fellas.

Hmm yeah this! ^

As I said, @HornyBee is, for some reason, very offended by the sex topic being allegedly trolled, and weirdly over-invested in it. Odd.

No the issue is that people don't want it shoved under their noses without consent.

Remove it from active and it can continue to be pervert's corner quite happily.

Maybe the juxtaposition in active convos next to questions about infant care or schooling is part of the appeal for some people.

Do you realise how hysterical you sound? Take a deep breath. No, the posters on the Sex Board have been posting questions about sex to like minded, inquisitive folk for our own development. Men and women, sharing ideas. I’m a Mum, but I’m not a 2D character. I am also a grown up with an active love life. I don’t want to have missionary position PIV every night so I look there for help. The male posters are all respectful, helpful, humorous without exception. Maybe hold a mirror up to the disgusting comments on this thread and have a good long think if they are likewise.

Whilst I don’t agree that the subject or topic is disgusting, I do agree with the rest.

And OTBT and other topics are hidden, so their justification is bollocks.

Anyway it's not 'trolling', as per the MNHQ definition; it's a harmless peaceful recipe protest.

I might sidle over to the sex board and see if anyone wants my fish pie recipe.

Unfortunately I think if you got rid of the sex topic the same threads would just turn up in Relationships or Women’s Health, 2 really useful MN for women (I remember the pushback on getting a Women’s health section set up due to worries about possible trolls, it’s actually been really helpful for women who’s sexual health issues don’t fall under menopause or birth control, Relationships has been a lifesaver to so many posters). Can’t it just be hidden from most active?

@TheShellBeach keep an open mind while you’re there, you might pick up some useful information!

I suppose if you don't like the recipes, you could always scroll past.

I do occasionally read and post on the sex topic and there are sometimes some good and useful discussions there.
However I agree with PP that
(1) it shouldn't be on the active board,
(2) that MN promo threads related to sex shouldn't be on the active board,
(3) that there should be a 30+ day posting history to post on the board, and
(4) that trolling and piss-taking should be deleted.

HQ should be sorting this out, it is a poor customer experience if the poster has to log into a different device to amend their board preferences. And if a compter/PC/laptop is not easily available, what then?

Surprised to see there is now a thread for people looking to meet others for 'sex chat'. Of course, people can hide the thread or even the whole topic, but I hope it doesn't spill over into other topics.

That explains all the sex threads in my active feed. I thought we'd been overrun. I thought I'd hidden it but will try to do that now.

A disproportionate number of men on those threads compared to the rest of Mumsnet 🤔

Ah. Both hysterical and ‘mums like sex too’.

I’m a mum and I like sex too. But, like many others, I don’t want to see sex topic threads in active convos. There are lots of MN users who feel the same.

Given that other topics are opt in for various reasons, it seems reasonable that the sex topic might also be opt in.

It’s not like anyone is restricted from using other websites either. There’s no reason why Mumsnet should be necessarily be the place people go to to ask about anal beads.

I wouldn’t sign up for pistonheads to ask about how to deal with toddler tantrums or to whinge about MIL. Even if I really, really liked talking about cars otherwise.

Previously the sex topic was something that longer term users could opt into. But without making it part of the default user experience. So there was more of an argument that it was serving wants of some users. Putting it front and centre, unless you opt out, and making the waiting period pretty trivial is a big change.

Or hide the threads. You know. since it’s so easy.

@hryllilegur yes, hysterical. Insinuating that the posters are paedophiles without any evidence at all is completely unhinged.
You like sex too? Awesome! You can choose or not to use the board!
I agree that the board should be opt in. But it is a sex board, therefore a completely appropriate place to discuss anal beads.

I think it's shocking that MNHQ has not listened to users and taken the Sex board threads out of Active. It's what both sides of the argument want.

As an intelligent, single woman, I am interested in anything from parenting to politics to relationships. I have no issue discussing sex and have found the vast majority of posters on the Sex boards to be polite and respectful. Anybody looking for wank fodder usually gets very short shrift.

That said, I respect that many other women don't want sex titles popping up on their active feed. And it's certainly not easy to hide the board on the app. I do hope MNHQ sort it out soon... like this weekend!

What I would ask is that people don't make assumptions. I get that you might be offended by talk of anal beads, you might think that kind of thing is disgusting and grim. But the rhetoric that only dirty, wanking men frequent the sex boards is simply not true. There are many ordinary women like myself on there. Your vitriol towards the whole group affects us too. Please rein back the nastiness.

And yet I've reported the trolling recipe comments and mumsnet have now removed them.

It's not the thread that needs hiding.
The threads are people posting questions about sex on a sex board.
It's the immature comments and abuse on the threads that is the issue.

Thanks for reporting them.

They don't show as 'message deleted for trolling ' which they should do! Just zapped like they never existed.

According to Wikipedia and various other sources it is trolling.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Troll_(slang)

Hopped over to have a browse. Not offended by anal beads, but surprised by the amount of married people looking for sex chat.

It's disgusting that I now have to see titles about rimming and flesh lights and anal whilst browsing MN at the breakfast table with my 12 year old nearby.

I mean, you could always put your phone down and talk to your child instead.
I know it's a novel idea, but it might catch on one day.