Why are you allowing people to troll the Sex Board?

[HornyBee]

If it was any other board you wouldn't allow it.
If I went on another board and started posting recipes and taking the piss out of the posters I'd quickly be banned.
It is flooded with people trolling it.
Every single thread.
It's really horrible.
Take it off active or just shut the whole board down.
It's disgusting.

Absolutely nothing. But the comment that you replied to was factual.

... although I notice you didn't take exception to the description 'cheap'

So MN's decision means users see references to rimming, fleshlights and anal popping up and if they don't like it, a bloke calls them prudish. It makes the site lose its USP rather, doesn't it? As in, everywhere on the internet (/world) is full of sleazy men insulting women who object and this used to be a respite from that. But now they want to partner with sex shops and sell vibrators so never mind.

I expect there's a while forum somewhere dedicated to anal popping

This is probably a call to me to deactivate. I am really unhappy with this.

There's been a lot of threads in the last couple of weeks regarding the sex board, especially the fact it now appears in Active, and HQ seem very adept at ignoring and skirting round the issue. Definitely feels like they're trying to appeal to a different demographic. I have no problem with the board itself but I really don't feel there's any need for it in Active. People will find it if they want to.

Yes, I'm thinking about it too 🙁. Been here nearly 20 years!

I'm sick of it.
It's vile and inappropriate.

Yes I'm glad you agree with me!
It's completely vile and inappropriate to troll a load of threads of the sex board.

Thank you to MN for acting promptly to the reported posts. Hopefully they'll get bored soon hey TheShellBeach?

Hopefully MNHQ will remove the sleazy hook up thread too. I'm sure they have plenty of reports about that to get through.

I'm fairly sure they don't come from ANAL, rimming or fleshlights. Unless you're doing it wrong.

No, but there’s no reason to make sex shameful

Nobody is trying to make sex shameful. (Although I do think the sleazy hook-up thread is shameful, on this site)

It’s really not about shaming sex or whatever though.

It IS the case that encouraging lots of sex contact alters the user base and tone of a site like MN.

Seeing sex chat threads in active will put off existing users - it does. The ones complaining are the often long-standing users who are already invested in MN and value it such that they are willing to take measures to hide the sex topic. Less invested users will just not return.

People who might have become regular users may well look through active and decide it’s not the site for them based on all the threads about sex chat in active. So you get a slew in newer users to those who want that kind of content.

I mean, maybe that’s MN’s business plan. They feel there’s more money to be made from that user base.

It’s really offensive to insist that anyone who objects to sex threads in active as the default is some sort of dreadful prude or a frigid cow who hates sex.

@BIWI I appreciate you were thankfully not involved, but some people were absolutely trying to shame specific posters on the sex board.

The sex chat thread seems to cause a lot of issues for the ones who do use it. They are always flouncing and moaning that people are 'ghosting' them.

@LucyLeave you seem very interested for someone so appalled by it 😜

Definitely

It does seem to be that thread. Which is weird because it's woman who get swamped with messages and men whinging their inbox is empty. There seems to be a decent amount of disrespectful men. Why would you want to protect something like that? There are a million hook up sites, just for this sort of thing. With I'm sure added protection for the user's against creeps.

This. Pretty dismayed at HQ's refusal to take on board criticism about this - plus the appearance of vibrator ads when I am browsing.

I don't like the sex hook up thread. I was cheated on by someone who used a hook up site and I feel upset that mumsnet are encouraging that sort of behaviour here.

Additionally, the website crashes my browser on my phone, so I can't get it to hide the section.

But. I don't want to have to hide the whole section. I'd like to be able to ask questions about sex, as a menopausal woman who has no one to ask, but the whole tone of the board now is just sleazy.

It's full of what seems to me to be creepy predatory men using the board as a wank bank and hook up site.

I didn’t even know it existed, took a look and a few posters are openly stating that they are married. It’s yuck that MN is facilitating adultery, especially when moralising on ‘not in the spirit’ with certain aspects of moderation.

I've lurked much longer than I've posted and there does seem to have been a significant shift in tone very recently. I don't imagine most of us were unaware of what a vibrator is and were perfectly capable of sourcing one without having endless ads for Shrek's Ear popping up. The fact this "campaign" coincided with the sex board appearing in active and the posting rule being reduced to 7 days is not coincidental IMO.

I'm not against a sex board in principle but feel it should be opt in, as it was, rather than opt out and the issues app users are having in hiding it should have been considered well in advance. It had rather passed me by but I did look over there this week and like so many others really, really cannot understand why Mumsnet is hosting the pick up thread (and it is a pick up thread, dominated by men) If married people want to find FWBs (etc) they have an incredible variety of options open to them, why do they need somewhere that is still principally positioned as a parenting website with a predominance of women users?

My six pennyworth and put much better by others, but wanted to add my view. Before this I was about to sign up for Premium. I won't be doing that now.

I would have assumed that a board on a site called MUMSNET would have been relevant to women and mothering.
There might well be issues that could be useful to discuss anonymously with other mums about sex. Issues around sex after childbirth, medical difficulties, managing time around family etc etc are relevant here.

But finding that part of the website is used by men to discuss their sleazy activities in an immature 'naughty-naughty' way, knowing that it's inappropriate and offensive, is nasty.
It's like going to a meeting of mums, only to find a load of blokes with their dicks hanging out, having a wank.

I only signed up to Mumsnet recently and some of the boards are incredibly thoughtful and positive. There's a real woman-positive vibe to some of them. But if the site is going to become more male's sleaze and snigger, I'm off.

They are encouraging adultery?
That's sickening.

The so-called hook up thread (the sexchat thread) was an initiative of one of the many, many women users of that thread who have enjoyed its existence for several months now. Some of these women invite chats from male users of the thread, others wish to chat only to other women. Articulate, intelligent people in large numbers, drawn from all walks of life - lawyers, teachers, health care professionals, the list goes on. Women who are doubtless no less exercised by matters of safety, boundaries, respect and so on as are many other MN women. Some of these women users have cautionary tales to offer of past experiences, some are there just to have fun, some because they find it life affirming. Many are long term users of the thread, some come onto it for only a short while, but almost without exception they are good-natured, polite and non-judgemental of others. So let's treat them with a bit of respect shall we? And also stop the pretence that this thread serves the interests only of so-called pervy and seedy middle aged men.