Here's a quick tour of the history of the MN sex topic:
2008: Just to let you know that we're not really convinced that having a sex topic is the best of plans.
www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/491115-please-could-we-have-a-topic-about-sex-please?reply=9916422
2009: We do think that, as many of you on this thread have pointed out, having a separate Sex topic might attract a shedload of pervs some rather strange posters to Mumsnet.
www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/747198-Can-we-please-have-a-sex-topic?reply=15287409
2012: We have absolutely no problem with discussions about sex (unless they're pervy to the point of true obscenity) but we do think a Sex topic would be a troll magnet.
www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/1593235-So-I-was-wondering-A-sex-topic?reply=34913031
2013: we have been asked for this before and our answer is likely to remain the same. We don't really want to attract that kind of attention.
www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/1742844-Should-we-have-a-sex-section?reply=38774736
2014: When the sex topic idea has been proposed before we've always decided against it on the basis of it being an absolutely massive troll-magnet. That's probably still our viewpoint but as ever we're happy to listen to your views.
www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/2082521-Do-you-think-its-time-to-reconsider-a-sex-topic?page=4&reply=47105108
2015: MN started a sex topic. I couldn't find a thread announcing it or describing how it would work but posters needed to be registered for 90 days before they could post there and threads did not show up in active, as a way of mitigating the risk of the aforementioned pervy trolls.
So what has suddenly changed? Are there fewer pervy trolls on the internet now than in 2015?
Until it suddenly started showing up in active this month I gave the sex topic little thought. It's not my bag but I have no objection to the topic's existence in theory. I stupidly imagined it would be mostly women, discussing sex in the same kind of robust and/or caring tone as we discuss everything else here, but it's not that is it?
I hid the topic as soon as the threads started to appear in active but I went and had a look earlier today and honestly, it's like being on a different site. It was incredibly jarring.
There are SO MANY MEN!
I am sure some posters NC for their posts there but I seriously wonder what proportion of them ever frequent other areas of the site. While all these upstanding gents are getting their jollies on the sex topic, Dadsnet remains filled with tumbleweed. On a parenting site.
What are you FOR Mumsnet? The sex topic looks like a seedy side hustle incongruously attached to an otherwise excellent parenting forum.
I'm not accusing any particular poster there of being a pervy troll, despite having read some seriously grim posts today, and despite the 'sexchat' thread being both the most tragic and dangerous thread I have ever seen left standing on this site. But sex threads showing up in active and reducing the waiting period from 90 days to 7 absolutely will attract all the heavy breathers and pervy sex trolls that MNHQ were keen to discourage for all those years.
Posters there seem to agree this is a bad move. I'm sure there's nothing more offputting when you're trying to have a lovely exciting sexychat than a bunch of mums reading it and giving their opinion.
Have you received any positive feedback at all on your decision to include sex threads in active? (I mean from MNers, not the purveyors of Shrek's ear)
On the subject of sex toy ads, I found this from 2011: We do understand that for many folks this type of advertising crosses a line that they'd rather not be crossed and we have taken careful note and will certainly bear it in mind in future. Cheers.
www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/1316089-Lets-talk-about-sex-toys-well-ads-for-them-on-Mumsnet-please?page=16&reply=27847666
Thank you for tearing up your 'careful note' I guess. Cheers.
I don't like this new direction that MN is going in. It looks like the soft end of 'sex positive' / sex industry capture to me. It doesn't make parents' lives easier and it is not 'in the spirit of Mumsnet' as I have always understood it.