Why is Sex topic now in Active?

[clarrylove]

It never used to be there before. It doesn't really seem appropriate with some of the titles.

I haven't tried to use it for anything and it's purely for women to share their personal experience of whether they have been harassed or not.

It makes no difference who asks the question the only thing that's important is the (female) content

It's got to be better than hearsay and assumptions from both sides though it's far to early to be able to say anything much.

Don't be so disingenuous. Of course you have, you have been trotting that out on every single thread about the sex forum. Oh I started a thread about pms and only 1 person had a negative experience so it's fine. You absolutely have been trying to say it's not a big deal, repeatedly, on multiple threads.

Perhaps the women who have been harassed have left that board or the site completely.

Harassment of women, children and vulnerable men is underreported and is even less likely to be reported to a man.

Just change the name of the site to Horny Mumsnet. In the spirit of the site and all.

What bothers me is that they always have consulted users before but they so blatantly haven't this time.

Generally when a new topic has been been proposed there have been numerous threads on site stuff, often running to the full 1K posts discussing the pros and cons. Same for changes to topics or talk guidelines. Sometimes things have got so heated that there have been mass deregs, sometimes mass bannings. You can see in the links provided in this thread and others that there were discussions going on for the best part of a decade before the introduction of the sex topic.

I haven't always agreed with all their decisions but never before have I felt like MNHQ think I am stupid. Everyone can clearly see that there has been a policy change.

Pervsnet?

EVERY single time I've mentioned it I've qualified it by saying there aren't enough responses to tell anything.

Just because I'm a man doesn't mean I can't have a genuine concern that women are being targeted by predatory men.

I have female friends, a sisters, a daughter, her mother who i respect more than anyone, nieces and I see what they have to put up with and it isn't fucking ok. I push back against shit misogynistic bollocks every day in my real and online life.

Isn't that what decent people are supposed to do?

If its happening here and not being swiftly dealt with I'll be shouting as loud as anyone.

Not for one minute am I trying to take anything away from yours or any other women's lived experience and neither do I pretend I know what is like.

I know enough to know it has to change but what's the point in changing the wrong things?

@Surplus2requirements it does matter who asks the questions, who claims to be giving women a platform, and it speaks volumes that you can't understand that. And in your earlier post you literally wrote that you started it for the purpose of seeing if concerns were valid or not. The sheer entitlement really is something.

You start one then, I only did so because its a concern I share and nobody else had.

I'm very happy to ask for mine to be deleted

Jfc "some of my best friends are women". Is there a bingo card yet?

The platform is MN

Only MNHQ can judge any results.

Are the concerns valid? Some women say yes, some women say no. I haven't got a clue because I'm a man...so I asked.

@Surplus2requirements the platform is the thread. Do not patronise me.

Why thank you kind sir

@LangClegsInSpace 🤣

@LangClegsInSpace I do like a hat

I mean JFC as if we don't already have our work cut out with all the new style misogynists without having to rehone our skills against these retro types!

I bet you do Surplus. What can I say?

I guess that makes me useful for something, almost a compliment in comparison 🙂

@LangClegsInSpace I'm glad you're asking him first, give him a chance to give you a platform to speak and all that... 😉

The last few pages read like a bunch of school bullies. The treatment of @Surplus2requirements is actually disgusting. He has been polite and courteous throughout. It’s embarrassing.

It's OK @Mermaidparades I'm open to learning though the technique is a little brutal I'll admit.

I’m not sure what childish bullies are actually going to teach you though.

If you believe anyone on here is being bullied then report it. 🤷‍♀️

4/5 of the 740 people who posted on this thread want the sex topic off Active

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/amiibeingunreasonable/4746037-sex-topics-appearing-on-active-please-vote?reply=124047018

Not all for the same reasons though. A lot of us want it off Active to stem the tidal wave of abuse of the people who post on it.