Why is Sex topic now in Active?

[clarrylove]

It never used to be there before. It doesn't really seem appropriate with some of the titles.

Can we have an honest discussion about AGP on the sex topic? <silver linings?>

There were lots of concerns expressed about women being targeted with unsolicited DMs after posting on the board by predatory men.

To me that would be totally unacceptable so I asked for womens experience.

As I said previously it's to early to tell but nothing very concerning so far apart from one man who was quickly banned which I thought reassuring that MN mods are taking it seriously.

How is that naive?

Me.

'but is suddenly full of adult content that you have to actively opt out of.'

It really isn't, you are absolutely overreacting.

Discussing sex toys - normal. Sex problems - normal. What on earth bothers you about these very, very tame chats?!

There isn't 'adult content'. There is discussion about sex including problems and there is a lighthearted chat. Harmless and perfectly normal. It isn't compulsory to look. Even women's magazine feature sex problems it isn't all cooking tips and knitting patterns.

You are totally wrong to dismiss this out of hand. I clicked on a sex topic that was in active, and it read like a porn magazine I would read in the 90s as a student. All explicit description masquerading as advice, about what they did to their partner, and what their partner did to them. It was sordid and revolting and could only have been written as a way of getting off. It had no other meaningful use.

You don't think a sex hook up thread is adult content? You don't think someone looking for sex chats and cheating on their partners is adult content? What on earth do you think adult content is?

God only knows what Janiie looks at on the internet if she doesn't think that explicit details of sex acts are adult content.

If you think HELP WITH ANAL isn't adult content then that's a problem.

There isn't 'adult content'.
FFS - you are suggesting that threads with titles containing 'anal sex', 'fleshlights' and 'rimming' aren't adult content???
Does anything constitute adult content in your world?

It is problems and advice, not descriptions of sex acts for fun. Anyone would think the sex chat was full of porn descriptions. It isn't.

Leave them to it, hide it and stop policing other people's behaviour

Apparently they are perfectly ok subjects for all ages and absolutely not adult content whatsoever.

Those things may be 'normal' but they are only normal for adults. Definitely not for children. Therefore, they are adult content, the term doesn't just mean porn.

stop policing other people's behaviour

But you are doing that by telling everyone on this thread what they are and aren't allowed to think.

@Surplus2requirements I didn't say it was naive. I find it cringeworthy that you've decided it's down to you to judge if women's concerns are valid or not, and that you're very confident in your ability and right to do so. But that's just my opinion obviously, other people might be grateful, I don't know. Hope it works out!

Some of the comments on here are reminiscent of those perverts who were inviting school aged children in to the theatre to talk to them about masturbation, gang bangs and love having no age.

This is a valid point. I just googled sex chat forum and mumsnet popped up in one of the first Google results. That's probably why it isn't hidden away anymore. Gotta get them clicks in no matter where they come from.

Decades of sexual harassment have taught me not to rely on men for support. And lo! A man starts a thread about sexual harassment and uses it to prove it's not that bad. SHOCKER.

And MN aren't even making a token effort to protect underage site visitors - there is no warning that you should be over 18 to view that board. Given that it's hosting adult men soliciting explicit DMs, shouldn't there be a pop up saying for over-18s only?

Yes, some posters have a complete lack of boundaries. It's really disturbing on a parenting site.

Exactly.

I’m convinced that MN don’t bother doing any user research before they make changes.

Nor do they seem to listen when users tell them something. Repeatedly.

It's absolutely not for me to judge. It's up to MNHQ.

I've simply asked a question about something I and many others are concerned about.

I would never assume to judge for others here.

It has started to look like Justine - aka Mumsnet Limited - is happily pimping out Mumsnetters now on the Sex Chat thread, some of them potentially vulnerable.