After the SN-not-in-Active-Convos but only in own link thing...

[hub2dee]

I never see any, because old habits die hard, and I keep clicking 'Active Conversations - All Topics'.

And I think that's a real shame.

Is that just me being dense and lazy ? It's obviously not hard to click the other thing...

I just wish it was integrated into the normal 'view' you get. I don't want to not be able to see it.

Am I alone ?

[Greensleeves]

Stalked?

[2Shoes]

Cappuccino i felt like that the other day so I posted in chat. people supported me. tbh though it wasn't a true sn situation and something that all parents dread.

[MamaG]

I've emailed MN to ask Jimjams....although its really nothing to do with me

[MamaG]

I saw your thread 2shoes - I think it is quite importnat for parents of NT children to be able to offer support too (as we did on your thread), but I do think a majority vote wo uld be fairest to settle this?

[hamstermunker]

If I click on With SN, I get peed off with the buy and sell threads and I'm unwelcome on SN threads anyway so I don't bother.

[hamstermunker]

Unwelcome the wrong word - surplus to requirement better but still not right. Will think.

[emkana]

You can set a link up in your favourites which will give not the for sale stuff but will include special needs:

www.mumsnet.com/SearchTalk?nobuy=y&lastn=60&o=&sn=y

[hamstermunker]

Still feel as though there's little or no point me reading or posting on specifically SN threads though, Emkana, after the recent furores. Happy to chat to anyone (as you know, I hope!) but feel like I'm intruding on the SN section.

[Enid]

I feel like a weird intruder clicking the includes SN - so I never do

I hate the new arrangement - but you probably all know that by now

[Enid]

I feel utterly unwelcome hunker

[curlew]

If the SN parents are happy with the new arrangements then so be it. I just think it's a shame that I no longer regularly read their thoughts and learn from their wisdom. I also think it's a shame that people on that thread don't get input from those of us who do not have SN children but who still might have something insightful to contribute. Was life really so bad for SN parents under the old system? Or was it just a few loonies who are easily identified and ignored?

[Jimjams2]

I agree with Fio. I think I have started posting MORE in SN since the change. Would be interested to see how it panned out.

Yes Greensleeves stalked. By someone I had never come across before. And like Fio, I've had CATs from total strangers. I don;t think the current arrangement makes much difference to the risk of that tbh.

[Jimjams2]

This will probably get twisted - so be it- but when I read threads like this I am shocked by how many people who have never posted in SN ever, not once AFAIK, say its a huge shame that its gone because they can't read the posts anymore (although they could actually). I'm a bit uncomfortable with it tbh, stepping outside our front door turns ds1 into a freakshow, feel like that's been happening on here. And yes I know that will get twisted, but its how I feel.

[hub2dee]

Agree with the point you make about stalkers / weirdos jj... If someone is intent (for whatever odd reason) on posting in SN offensively, or in contacting people the way you were, they'll do it whether SN is listed in topics / included in Active Convos / apart from Active Convos. They'd probably do it even if it was password protected by bluffing a story about a non-existent child tbh.

[Greensleeves]

The stalking thing is worrying . I hope you reported it.

[Flamesparrow]

Surely a lot of MN is reading and not contributing though?

I know that I tend to read a lot of the aspergers threads because my sister has very very mild (or the appropriate term) aspergers, and it is very helpful to get an understanding of her behaviour and also in some ways her childhood. We didn't know then, and she doesn't open up now, and here is the main place I can learn to understand her. I don't post on them though.

[Jimjams2]

yes, but if the regular poistersd in say feeling depressed (an area I occasionally read and learn from, but rarely post in) said they wanted to be out of active convos I wouldn't feel like I'd lost some huge part of mumsnet. If I wanted to read I'd go direct. I don't read areas that I never post in regularly though.

Agree with dino- it's not that difficult to find if you'rew genuinely interested. hell I spent my first years on mumsnet reading by topic, never used active convos at all.

[Jimjams2]

hmm to clarify- I don't regularly read areas that I never post in- that's what I find a bit weird about all this outrage.

[Jimjams2]

sorry GS- should have said, yes MNHQ were very good and were able to reassure me that it was almost certainy nothing sinister- but it left me feeling freaked. Just made me more aware about posting.

[Twiglett]

I regularly read threads within SN

My children are, so far, NT

I think anybody who feels uncomfortable clicking on the available to all link to include SN needs to look inwards at themselves because nobody there makes me feel uncomfortable for joining in and I don't think its a secret club