After the SN-not-in-Active-Convos but only in own link thing...

[hub2dee]

I never see any, because old habits die hard, and I keep clicking 'Active Conversations - All Topics'.

And I think that's a real shame.

Is that just me being dense and lazy ? It's obviously not hard to click the other thing...

I just wish it was integrated into the normal 'view' you get. I don't want to not be able to see it.

Am I alone ?

[Twiglett]

but hub if rather than going top left to click on active conversations you merely went top right to click on active conversations to include SN then you would be in the same position

I do feel this is a mountain out of nothing

[hub2dee]

I appreciate that Twig... but am just wondering how people feel about it now it's been a few weeks. I don't think it's just about whether you click to the left or the right, it's about inclusivity and also about whether the implementation serves the community in the way it was designed IYSWIM. I am just wondering about that, that's all.

Anyway, do you have man flu or what ?

[Twiglett]

I asked on SN and some people felt more comfortable and more able to talk openly whereas a couple felt sidelined .. I think its a difficult to win thing because you can't please everyone

I certainly have not felt like an interloper when posting there at all .. I think its down to self-perception .. we're all parents .. I am interested in the lives of many of my online friends and some of them happen to post in SN too so I've changed my favourites and habits

I have some weird I feel dizzy no I don't yes I do bug

[hub2dee]

ears eh ?

[IdrisTheDragon]

I hadn't realised that there was now an enable special needs conversations button .

[MegaLegs]

[Twiglett]

don't know what it is .. its like when you watch your kids on the roundabout then think oh god I wish I hadn't watched them go round and round and round ... its that nausea / dizzy / eyes blurry sensation ....I believe its a bug cos friend had similar last week for a couple of days .. this is day 2 .. if no better by monday will check out with doc

[NomDePlume]

I never look at the SN boards now because the old talk without buying/selling is saved to favourites and I always log on using favourites.

[Kelly1978]

I was thinking about this. I never remember to click include sn neither. Wouldn't it be better if it was put at the beginning of the line, to the left of all messages? Then users wouldn't click all messages out of habit.

[doggiesayswoof]

Hijack
Twiglett it sounds a bit like labyrinthitis - inner ear thingy.

[doggiesayswoof]

I don't think we need to be spoon-fed do we?
Easy enough to click the include one or change your faves.

[hub2dee]

It would mean more people use that view Kelly, yes, but this wouldn't address on of the main reasons for the separation which I think was to reduce dumb / insensitive posts by people who 'wandered' onto the thread without realising it was SN IYSWIM.

[coppertop]

I sometimes forget to click on the 'include SN' button but now use the link that was posted that includes SN but without buying and selling.

I think I prefer it that way (for now at least) because it means that people are more likely to realise that posts like "My child only sleeps for 4 hours a night" or "My child only eats turkey twizzlers" are not really the place to post comments like "But don't you realise that your child needs at least 12hrs?" or "Don't give in to him and he'll eat when he's hungry enough".

Justine - Have you made a decision yet about the proposed SN glossary?

[Jimjams2]

Thank you Twig - for common sense.

[Jimjams2]

I aslo prefer it as it is now.

[Cappuccino]

I hate it

yesterday I really wanted to post about my daughter and I was feeling very sad and in need of support

I knew if I posted in special needs no-one would see it so I wouldn't get the immediate feedback I wanted

so I dithered about putting it in other subjects but realised that maybe the special needs people wouldn't look there either

I didn't bother in the end. And I was really and about it

if I want support I want it from whoever is kind enough to give it to me. I know a lot of people on mn and I would have liked to have heard from any one of them

I've made it very, very, very clear on other threads how totally opposed to this move I am

[Cappuccino]

for an example

I once was very sad and crying and I asked for people to tell me jokes

people did

not all people with SN kids know the best jokes

and not all SN threads have to be treated with kid gloves imo

but the SN board is making it sound that way (the gloves, not the jokes) and I do feel that that is the view of a very vocal minority

so flame me

[popsycal]

same as you hub

[Jimjams2]

Why on earth would you post a tell me a joke thread in SN? I would always have posted that in other subjects whereever SN is.

This is getting ridiculous. And I also can't be arsed to argue about it anymore.

[Cappuccino]

I posted a thread saying how fucking upset I was after my meeting with the OTs and asked for help to pull myself out of it

I posted about dd's bloody condition which is why it was on special needs - why the hell shouldn't it have been? are there rules, ffs? where are they printed?

not everyone needs the same kind of support

and now you're telling me I can only post on special needs if I want to moan and cry and not if I want to be positive?

this is so ridiculous

[MamaG]

Perhaps we should have a proper vote on it, with majority rule?

[Jimjams2]

NO I'm not - but I don't see that having to post a thread asking for jokes on other subjects is that big a deal. Why would it have to be posted on SN?

All I want is not be bloody stalked.

I'm happy to go with the majority of users of the SN board. It would be a lot of work but the fairest way would be to find out who used the SN board in the month (whether their children are all NT or SN or a mix) before the change and then poll them and ask them what they want.

I'm more than happy to go with a majority decision from the users of the SN board.

[MamaG]

Yes, I meant a vote from users of the SN board rather than teh whole board.

Think its the fairest way really

[Jimjams2]

Agree MamaG- looking at users in a month would allow the regular users to be picked up.

Might be to much work for Mnet Towers to work out the regular users, but it would at least stop all this. I'm more than happy to go with any majority- I know that some people do feel strongly that they prefer it this way. The split seems pretty 50:50 to me so best to put it to a vote.

[kandi]

Cappuccino, please do post about your dd, I don't really get much time to get on MN, so I'm a bit clueless about the separate SN board, but post where you feel appropriate and I'm sure you'll get support