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Do you think it's a good idea to have a non-public, password-protected area for special needs parents to vent?

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JustineMumsnet · 17/10/2006 08:26

Following on for the discussion on this thread we'd like to know your thoughts.
For a little while now some of our special needs parents have said they don't feel Mumsnet is working for them in certain situations when they need to vent/rant/talk honestly about their situations and we've been thinking about whether there's anything structurally we can do to help. We feel very strongly that the special needs boards are a core part of Mumsnet and indeed for most of the last six years have been an exemplar of what we're all about - a place where parents can gain support and tap the experience of others to make their lives' easier. That said, we do understand that special needs parents are under extraordinary pressure and therefore more than most could do with a bit of privacy to vent when needed.
One idea that has been raised is a private, password-protected area for special needs parents on Mumsnet. This area would not be automatically visible to all but those who wanted to join could do so - though obviously you wouldn't have to join to discuss special needs - the existing public boards would remain. Clearly this is a break from the norm for Mumsnet and in some ways it feels an anathema because as we all know Mumsnet is an open forum and free access to all who need it is one of our underlying principles. But it's clear the current format is not working for many and if it's not helpful then we need to change things. We've thought about it a lot and feel it could be worth a try.
So what do you think? Special needs crowd, would this work for you do you think? Would you use it? NT parents how do you feel about it? Is it worth a go?
Let us know...
Thanks,
Mumsnet Towers

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GhoulsToo · 17/10/2006 20:58

over-reaction!

FioFio · 17/10/2006 20:58

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GhoulsToo · 17/10/2006 20:59

no! at the deletion - I read it - I've seen far worse, in fact trying to think what was so bad .......

FioFio · 17/10/2006 21:00

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zippitippitoes · 17/10/2006 21:02

fio I'm trying to think what you wrote too..

Marina · 17/10/2006 21:02

Fio, I've been mailing a pal all day and her spam filters have rejected "fancies", "child" and "rendezvous" for starters. I kept getting these bossy notes telling me I was trapped.
Chin up

Mercy · 17/10/2006 21:02

Fio, have no idea what you said obv. I'm finding Mn itself a bit arbitrary.

I asked for a post of mine to be deleted, request was refused.

Please feel free to CAT me (dd is ill but will do my best)

EnidVorhees · 17/10/2006 21:07

fine let them have it

doesnt bother me

shame though but there you go

JustineMumsnet · 17/10/2006 21:08

Hi Fio - was deleted because it was a personal attack. Not sure that you could think it otherwise really...

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EnidVorhees · 17/10/2006 21:10

sorry www I missed all that (thank goodness)

I think its a terrible shame that you were rounded upon (yes yes I know you dont want sympathy) and that you feel you have to go.

Ok, really, deeply personally I think having a seperate sn area is pretty pretentious, but fine if people really want it, you feel happy about changing the site in this way and mumsnet are willing just lets do it and stop all this ridiculousness.

MegaLegs · 17/10/2006 21:12

I'm a sn mum. I've been overwhelmed with the support, advice and wisdom of so many on mn. How sad that it's come to this. Maybe now that this has all come to light thoughtless posters might be more aware and so action need not be taken at the moment. Does that make any sense?

EnidVorhees · 17/10/2006 21:14

no I think its been going on for ages and wont get better

nt parents seem to piss sn parents off here whatever

in fact I now DEMAND that sn is made a password protected area

TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 21:16

a freidn of mine ( honest) said that she thinks on here the sn parents feel they are above criticism

i htought harsh meslef

wonder if posting on here makes sn parents feel better or worse thoguh tbh

MegaLegs · 17/10/2006 21:18

OK scratch that last post of mine. Atleast two of the last posters have proved that some on mn will never be sensitive towards the sn side of things

TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 21:19

oh come on
your posst also shows over reaction
i am merely wuoting what an outsider thought
ccalm donw

EnidVorhees · 17/10/2006 21:21

erm excuse me wasnt it SN parents who wanted the private board?

do they want it or not?

if they want it then let them have it

otherwise this stupid argument will go on FOREVER

GreenSepticStumps · 17/10/2006 21:21

ccod havve yoou beeen onn the saauuuce aggaiin??

Blossomhowl · 17/10/2006 21:21

Exactly megalegs. Enid obviously finds the whole thing a joke

MegaLegs · 17/10/2006 21:21

It's hardly over reaction is it?

TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 21:23

nope

EnidVorhees · 17/10/2006 21:23

Yes go on

blame it all on me

I havent actually read any of the threads leading to this

but honestly, do you want a separate board or not? if you do, have it, because I am sick of it. This isn't a debate, its a ridiculosu slanging match perpetuated by both sides feeling they have the moral high ground.

TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 21:24

yes am htinkign thsi is Pr DISASTER FRO A sn board!

also when you come back on to main board no one will be abel to say "ah well your potty trianign ( fro eg) will be different because algernon has whatever"

Blossomhowl · 17/10/2006 21:25

Both sides???? FFS I have a perfectly nt son. So what side does that make me on? What are you talking about????

I am not a sn mum. I am a mum, with 2 children. 1 who happens to have sn.

MegaLegs · 17/10/2006 21:26

Why are you two so offended by this idea? Enid you seem really angry about it.