You are digging a deeper and deeper hole MNHQ

[amillionyears]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1664850-to-be-furious-with-dh-for-eating-cakes-he-knew-were-destined-for-the-bin

[Hullygully]

Satan, no, but that isn't the point.

Equally, no one has to refrain form having a joke because they don't know what some people may or may not find funny.

[Pinot]

Fucking Ryvita.

[Hullygully]

Hi Biwi, I've been here and there. There mainly.

[ExitPursuedByABear]

Cakegate

[THERhubarb]

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

THERhubarb, are you Mumsnet Royalty/ I think you are.

[Viviennemary]

I put one post on. And then quickly realised the thread wasn't genuine. A lot of people found it amusing and it was a harmless enough topic. But I agree that it was a bit rich deleting people for saying it wasn't genuine when it wasn't. Well a thread about a thread. That's against the rules too. Still no point in taking it all too seriously. I once worked with somebody and her favourite phrase was 'Can we have a ruling on that please', It drove everyone mad!

[Hullygully]

I don't think she is.

Perhaps a lesser, lesser Royal. A second cousin in Norway or something.

[IWorshipSatin]

It's not the joking wind-up thread that irks me, it's the discrepancies in the way joking wind-up threads are treated by MNHQ, seemingly depending on who the OP is and how many (and which) people applaud her genius. I still don't know the difference between Burned Cakes and King Tut - yes I'm aware how ridiculous that sounds!

By the same token, T&B, I agree that everything has the potential to upset someone, but if there is a rule in place that wind-up threads are not allowed then it should be used across the board and not just in an ad-hoc manner depending on who the OP is. It's less hurtful to be 'hurt' by a thread that is real than it is to be unnecessarily hurt by something that is fake iykwim.

[ThereAreNoBirdsHere]

Where has amillion gone? Has she been taken captive?

There needs to be more rules on how to have fun and what is a joke in mn. Highly regulated entertainment is the way forward

[LoopsInHoops]

see the above TSC

[THERhubarb]

I'm a pleb dear, just a pleb

Having taken another look, it is clear that it is a thread about cakes. It is amusing. I think people have got all fired up and then when they realised it was a joke thread, they got angry at having wasted their time and energy on a joke thread.

Fair enough.

However parenting is a serious business and we all need to have a laugh now and then. Back in the dim early days of Mumsnet these joke threads were well received and provided much mirth and even a sense of community, a sense of a joke shared and even those taken in would be laughing.

Now it seems that Mumsnet is full of angry people who want to find offense in everything and everyone. Everyone seems so tense and angry and quick to blame. I wonder if it's to do with the mounting pressure on everyone these days?

I can see why some threads might be offensive, when sometimes a joke falls flat, but the cake thread was simply meant to lighten the atmosphere and to that end it was done with the best of intentions - to give everyone a laugh and to share a joke. It's a shame that it hasn't ended that way and has merely served to drive Mumsnet apart. So now it appears that the angry people want to accuse everyone else of being in a clique, being Mumsnet Royalty etc which is a pretty ancient insult. Whilst the rest are merely baffled at what the big deal is.

I am baffled.

I remember a great joke thread about someone whose dh wanted her to dress up as a cow during sex. The main joke was what all the other posters came out with. The comments are what makes those threads so funny. Perhaps if that thread was posted now, people would be angry because there really might be posters who dress up as cows and it's unfeminist and it could be alluding to domestic violence. It would fall flat now.

What has changed?

[Slubberdegullion]

Ehr nehr. Highly regulated entertainment sounds terribly gym shorts and prunes for breakfast

[Isildur]

Yes, ThereAreNoBirdsHere , maybe we could make up a little guide, a self-help thing for those who suspect they might be in danger of taking things too seriously.

It could be called 'Po Goes to Po-Land, the Path to a Lighter Life'.

[RandallPinkFloyd]

I don't think either side on this thread are looking great tbh.

I don't personally agree with the OP but there's some pretty nasty uncalled for stuff being said. I don't think anyone can deny that.

The cake thread wasn't particularly my thing but other people enjoyed it so I can't see the harm in all honesty.

I know the OP does bring a lot of this on herself but she has admitted several times that she genuinely lacks a sense of humour and does get fixated on things sometimes.

I can see why it winds some people up but rounding on one person like this is pretty uncomfortable to see. She might get on your nerves sometimes but she is a real person with real feelings.

Ill advised thread - yes undoubtedly, but there's no need for the nastiness. I don't go into relationships or MH much but from what I've seen the op is very caring and supportive to a lot of people.

Give her a break.

[frasersmummy]

well said randall

[ThereAreNoBirdsHere]

Gym short are best toasted. Nicer with prune jam than whole prunes imo