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to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

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alfrex · 21/01/2013 14:57

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

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Lesbeadiva · 21/01/2013 14:58
Hmm
OddBoots · 21/01/2013 14:59

Is this a reverse AIBU?

Convert · 21/01/2013 14:59

Wow. I think you need to unclench. A lot.

ILoveTIFFANY · 21/01/2013 14:59

Eh? It's cake!

Why can't you empty the bin yourself and fix the fan oven?

Beamur · 21/01/2013 14:59

Seriously?
YABU.
Your DH is right!

Dahlen · 21/01/2013 14:59

Is this a joke?

FaffTastic · 21/01/2013 15:00

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BinkyWinky · 21/01/2013 15:00

Eh? Relax for god's sake.

Jins · 21/01/2013 15:00

I think if he's happy to eat burnt cakes then you should be happy to let him.

How on earth is it embarrassing?

Numberlock · 21/01/2013 15:00

Well he's right really isn't he and why can't you get the fan oven fixed (and empty the bin)?

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 21/01/2013 15:01

Why can't u use the cakes for trifle or something? It's a waste to not let anyone eat them!

MimmeeBack · 21/01/2013 15:01

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Forgetfulmog · 21/01/2013 15:01

Why waste food like that?! A cake is still good to eat even if burnt!Blush

valiumredhead · 21/01/2013 15:01

He's an adult he can chose to eat whatever he likes.

My BIL loved a really crappy coffee cake I made.

I can't get over just chucking a cake out tbh - wouldn't you make it into trifle/feed the birds the crumbs or something?

TanteRose · 21/01/2013 15:01

He embarrassed you by eating non-perfect cake?

Gosh

StuffezLaBouche · 21/01/2013 15:01

Dear God.
Any reason you dont get the fan oven fixed yourself?

shrimponastick · 21/01/2013 15:02

Good - If he fills up on the burnt cakes then he won't want so many of the nice ones you are baking later. More for you.

I am abit confused though.

lurkedtoolong · 21/01/2013 15:02

Ummmm. Is this a joke or a thread about a thread or some MN royalty in-joke that us mere mortals don't understand?

MrsRajeshKoothrappali · 21/01/2013 15:02

Bit wasteful.

Do birds eat cake? Maybe feed them to the birds?

Pandemoniaa · 21/01/2013 15:02

Talk about first world problems!

How is it ever reasonable to throw food away when someone is prepared to eat it?

Instead of throwing a silly, precious strop, count yourself fortunate that the cake gets eaten at all.

YA definitely BU and ridiculous too.

JuliesSistersCousinsAuntsCat · 21/01/2013 15:02

It does sound like you over reacted.

Could you not fix the fan oven?

alfrex · 21/01/2013 15:02

It embarrasses me Jins because they are not the best I can do so to me he is insulting me by eating them when I have asked him not to!

Why should I empty the bin and fix the oven? They are his jobs Confused

I do not eed to unclench thanks, but ok maybe I should just let him eat out of the bin.

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PilchardsonToast · 21/01/2013 15:03

why would you be embarrassed by him eating a cake that he chose to eat?

He knew it wouldn't be perfect but as you're a good cook he thought it would still be fairly yummy so he ate it... Not a problem, maybe even a compliment that even your crap cakes are worth eating....mine really aren't!

SummerRainIsADistantMemory · 21/01/2013 15:04

Better to let him eat them than waste the ingredients go to waste surely?

I think he has a point tbh, why the need to be so controlling?

And why can't you empty the bin yourself? Or call a repairman/ fix the oven yourself?

BinkyWinky · 21/01/2013 15:04

I'd take it as a compliment that he likes to eat the shite ones.

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