I have rejoined just to ask this question.

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Why are some members of this site allowed to get away with persistently being vile, pushing an agenda, defending the indefensible, upsetting other members, twisting versions of events and generally being nasty, and they do not get banned?

Not about any one particular poster, but I have noticed that some stronger "personalities" on here seem to be Teflon coated.

Why is this?

Why do the owners of this site want that kind of vile poster and do not seem to care about the number of truly decent kind posters who are being upset and driven off the site?

Lemarchard's making a bid for the resident psychiatrist

But yes, of course.

We are all Pavlov's Dogs at heart

YY SGB. It is not bullying if someone disagrees with you. Or even calls you a name. Otherwise Pinot would be in big trouble. ::gives Pinot look over glasses::

So maybe MNHQ does need to define bullying?

Tee's Theory of Behavioural Psychology:

Every time a dog salivates, a Behavioural Psychologist rings a bell.

Do I get the job?

I think the problem for teachers is that there will always be a degree of pecking order in all groups of society. (I'm not a teacher btw) I can remember when DS1 started school, one of the mums lived close enough that by climbing on the wardrobe and squinting round the corner you could just see the infant playground. Needless to say, that mum got through a lot of coffee for the first few weeks as we anxiously watched our fledglings. All of us felt the worry of thinking our child was being sidelined at some point.
Also, DS2 was/is a big braw lad, but he was wound up (wouldn't go so far as to call it bullying, just being a pain in arse) for a long while by a tiny spindly boy who wore glasses. It was tricky to deal with because of perceptions.
I suppose what I'm saying is, it's natural to fear your experiences may be repeated on your children, but maybe don't jump to conclusions too quickly. Everyone has to find their feet.
At Mumsnet and at school.

Thanks Shirley

And thanks HelenMNHQ for emailig me, you really didnt have to do that as it is / was ancient history, but as you can see it did puzzle me at the time (and still does a little tbh) but I can also see I may have looked into things a bit too much. I read far too many conspiracy theory books.

but lemons it's just not the same. If you feel bullied here you just don't come to the site. If you are bullied at school/work you have no option. That's what makes the difference. Here you are in control

Hath,

Do you mean that the same poster follows you?

I don't go on a couple of sections because of a couple of posters. I think they are fucking arses. On other sections/topics I dip in when I feel fine about crossing swords with people but steer clear when I know it will upset me.

But I never post and feel hounded because usually others are posting on both sides. I try not to focuson those winding me up disagreeing with me and recognise that some posters agree too
Do you feel especially singled out. Is there some background thing I am missing? Is it all topics?

Funnys I was told by my teacher to just stay in at breaktime/sit on the other side of the canteen/leave school 10 minutes after the bell so Id miss the bullies walking home. I nearly changed schools.

I was told by my boss to not go to meetings with the girl at work who was being a sly cow

I left a job I loved when I was 17 because I was bullied out of it

People get told to stay off MN

The victims of bullying shouldnt have to do these things

I don't think anyone is saying that you should stay off MN though.

I'm certainly not, I'm saying that if someone is bullying you on MN (what does that even mean?) then you should report that poster to MNHQ who will look into it and if they think you have a point then they will email the bully and warn them to pack it in. However, there is a massive difference between somone disagreeing with someone (however strongly they may word it) and bullying. I would only say someone was bullying me if they went onto every single thread I was on and said something like "oh fuck off shirley you cunt", and then they PMed me calling me a cunt. If that has been happening to ANYONE then you need to report it to MNHQ who WILL do something about it.

Exactly, Shirley.

I was going to say that, Maryz, but I am nicer than you, obviously. ::smug::

ahem

Honey.

They've all blown up now, there will have to be some miraculous survivings

ARE YOU TRYING TO SAY I AM PROLIFIC MARYZ YOU WITCH?

I've been quite quiet lately actuellement.

I NCed once and was getting good and stuck in on a thread about parental leave/christmas holidays and someone went fucking crazy all on my arse. They called me a twat and told me to fuck off and all sorts. I just thought "oh dear, anger management issues clearly" and carried on debating politely. Now, some people might have called that poster a bully, but I wouldn't. I would call them a mofo

That is one cute puppy.

agh! aw lookit the doggie.