Fetishes and Kinks

[SomethingStrangeWill]

Wondering what fetishes and Kinks that instantly turn you on? as men? Women? Or a couple
And how common it is

Myself (male) my main kink that I’ve always wanted to do is to be made to undress in front of a lady/stranger and masturbate for her. I think it’s called CFNM?

maybe very odd but not sure where it comes from

I don't know if this qualifies as a kink or just plain desperation from lack of sex, but for a long time I used to masturbate during the night when I knew DH was awake. I could always tell from his breathing if he was, but I pretended to think he was asleep and I'd have a "secret" rub under the covers. I'd pretend to try and suppress my moans and I'd even shake the bed slightly just for good measure. It turned me on to do it, but it was also my way of reminding him that I had sexual needs - which he kept ignoring.
Looking back now it was quite a sad thing to do and I'm glad I no longer need to. I have a fwb now which is a much better way to spend my sexual energy.
Oh and my fwb has a foot fetish but that's another story...

@LeahMcx @Gymbunny2025 one of mine is the pleasure of ‘69’ standing up! I get to taste sweet honeyjuice whilst she enjoys bj on me ✊🏿

I read 50 Shades on holiday. Utter crap story but I did find sat by the pool in the warm that I was getting a tingle between my legs and actually wished my OH would perhaps try some stuff. Couldn’t believe I was actually thinking it.
I jokingly suggested he read it which he did over a few days and one afternoon, when we retired to bed he jokingly smacked my bum. Needless to say I responded and we had a lovely afternoon trying a few things out. Fond memory and we do periodically do some more like it. Would actually recommend to some couples to perhaps try something more adventurous like this

A little while ago I asked on this thread about how people navigate life as couples when one party has a fetish that the other doesn't share.

Let me start the ball rolling perhaps by sharing a couple of experiences of my own, seeing as I'm supposed to be doing some rather boring work this afternoon and am easily distracted. My partner is a bundle of different fetishes. I mentioned above that he likes me in thigh boots, and if my leather-clad legs are wrapped around him in moments of intimacy this adds to his pleasure enormously. Something that turns him on, and which we're definitely not going to do, is that he's also a hair fetishist and has a thing about women with shaved heads. No fear. I want long hair as I like the look of it and it reminds me of freedom, autonomy and self determination. There's plenty of videos of women buzzing their heads on Youtube so that keeps him happy. I've thought about it, of course. It might give me a momentary frission of excitement - the humiliation, the submission, the thought of somehow being past the point of no return. I can understand that. But It'll take about five years to get my hair back to its current length, by which time I'd be in my mid-forties so no thank you very much. This isn't causing any friction in the relationship because we've deliberately cultivated a live-and-let-live attitude to one another's peculiarities. But that's an example of where we're furthest apart.

DH and I have been discussing opening up our marriage for a year now. I've got a massive fantasy about having a threesome with two random guys and DH is fully into this too. It's led on to all sorts of offshoots around glory holes and free use, hotwifing etc. We're very secure in our marriage and hopefully might be able to make this a reality sometime soon!

Not sure if it's a kink but tall women make me go wobbly. I'm 5ft 10in & love anyone taller. Even better if they wear heels.

can we count men in grey jogging bottoms...with an outline as a fetish? anyone? no? just me

@daphney have you been spying on me working out at gym 😄👍🏿

Maybe not a fetish but I’m in 😂👏

@daphney @Gymbunny2025 , you do know us brothus like to workout and work up an appetite for you lycra clad fit ladies!✊🏿

Funnily enough, I think sportswear and trainers are sexy, with the talk about tracksuits, I like seeing people dressed for the gym.

@AlexaAdventuress That's an important point about consent: those who practise fetishes seriously know about the importance of this, and draw the line at forcing their partner to do things they don't want to do. I haven't read Fifty Shades, but from what I've heard, it has appalling ideas about consent (the girl signing her life away), and the book is loathed by those who are into the fetish scene. Someone mentioned earlier the thrill of handing porn mags to shopkeepers - this is a bit dodgy, as it's imposing one's kink on somebody else. My partner and I don't share all of each other's fetishes, and we respect that.

I remember being too scared to set foot in a sex shop when I was 18, because I was afraid I might be judged or leered at by the staff. But when I did, I was surprised by how "neutral" the staff are: perhaps they're trained to treat everybody who enters as "normally" as possible, because I expect they get lots of men coming in who try to leer at them, and to talk sexually about what they are buying.

In recent years I've realised that my kink is the accent. I am hugely attracted to an old school, upper class accent. I've found that it doesn't really matter if she is attractive or not, it's all in the accent. I guess there are a lot of associations with it that turn me on as well...

My DH’s weakness is that he’s extremely ticklish. If I’m in a tickling mood, the poor sod only gets his shagging if I’ve had my fun tickling him to within an inch of his life. While he’s pleading for mercy, I like to interrogate him, asking him what colour my (nasty pointy) nails are, or what earrings I have in. And he can’t have a quick check, because he’s blindfolded!

He loves all this this, though. At least, his manhood appears to.

Accents are an interesting one. I definitely have my faves - mine being RP (ie posh English), English-speaking South African, and Northern Irish (which is like honey to me) but mostly I think some people just suit the accent they have.

I love a nice accent/voice too. Posh doesn’t do it for me. Some voices are just yummy though!

Women with Southern Irish, the softer Scottish or French accents always do it for me!

Where do you go for thressome, foursome? I’ve always liked the idea but wouldn’t know where to start?

They do just about still exist in print, I believe. Although with an internet full of porn available on smartphones, it’s no surprise that you tend not to see them in most newsagents’ top shelves anymore.

As for your kink, there are plenty of websites for amateur exibitionists where you can create an account and upload your own pics showing as much or as little as you want!

It's something we've discussed lots over the past few years. Been married 20 years. OH would like me to tie her up (we do it a lot) and have a stranger come in and take control of her. Not sure if it will ever become reality as hard finding the right person.

Sounds like your average prison wing.

I used to exchange the odd voice note with someone from the North West, but a slightly posh, educated version. It was delicious. Slightly posh and Scottish is very intoxicating, too.

I think you’d be surprised at what people want

This warm weather reminds me of meeting a FWB and having sex out doors. He was mad for it. We were careful not to be seen, I think it was the hot summer before Covid. We developed a little ritual that got us both going. I wore black skirt and white blouse. He was from building site jeans and sweaty T shirt. I enjoyed it and miss it now..