Fetishes and Kinks

[SomethingStrangeWill]

Wondering what fetishes and Kinks that instantly turn you on? as men? Women? Or a couple
And how common it is

You went you.medical school? You're a doctor?

I don't think you are.

Anyway, happy urinating

Oh goodness, the squirt debate again?! Hasn’t this been done to death on here?

In my experience, squirt fluid is not urine. It doesn’t feel the same, taste or smell the same. I’ve squirted during sex and I’ve pissed during sex, so I’d hope I could tell the difference between the two sensations.

It’s so frustrating when people who haven’t experienced something themselves insist on telling those of us who have that we don’t know our own bodies.

Of course you don’t! You don’t believe anything 😆

I’m happy and secure in my career - not telling people I know their body better than they do is vital in my profession. And I’m very happy and secure in my sex life. My DH making me orgasm and squirt is the most intensely pleasurable life affirming physical experience. It doesn’t hurt me or make me feel stupid, disgusted and ashamed (I assume that is your intention) when you tell me it is urine.

Sorry again OP for the massive derail.

It doesn't taste all that nice in the mouth. I'll just leave that there.

So is squirting a kink or fetish, because it’s literally the only thing on this thread, looks like most people, who’ve bothered to post, aren’t really into anything that much other than vanilla sex, ice cream, is that a kink?

You're not a doctor

We've got various things going on in our relationship that probably count here. My partner is a bit of a foot fetishist. I'm sure he'd like to play with my feet a great deal but sadly I'm very ticklish there so it's not very pleasant for me. However, as part of this he likes women in thigh boots or other frivolous high heeled attire and as I'm a footwear enthusiast and have collected a great many boots and shoes, this is very easily accommodated. Plus it keeps my feet safely protected from his tickling fingers! He likes painting my toenails, which is fine provided he doesn't tickle, and does a lovely neat job, better than I usually do.

Thinking about the notion of as 'high protocol' dinner party, it reminds me of something we used to do in my postgraduate student days. There was a loose group of us who were into goth and alternative fashions and on Sunday afternoons or evenings we used to gather for a meal - we called it a 'dark tea' or 'dark dinner'. We used to dress up a bit for it. There was a good deal of PVC and lace in evidence as we were too poor to afford high-end latex outfits, but there were a few pervy touches, such as handcuffs worn as bracelets and nipple clamps as cufflinks. There was often a humourously exaggerated ceremony and ritual to the affair, with pastry tongs and cake stands in evidence. it wasn't exactly haute cusine, because the catering was generally based on whatever was reduced in the nearby Morrisons. Cut flowers that were past their best could be picked up cheaply to cover the table in petals, and plates and serving dishes could be scavenged from charity shops. On one occasion I put a stainless steel speculum on the edge of a bowl of salad. It passed unnoticed for a while until one of my friends attempted to use it to serve herself some salad. She realised what it was after a moment and screamed. I laughed so much I had difficulty breathing. Fun times.

What I have experienced is an in depth understanding of genito-urinary physiology. I mean, if you want to believe the moon is made of cheese, each to their own. All I know is that there is no organ,or vessel that is able to excrete quantities of fluid 'down there' other than the bladder.

Nobody would have credited the stomach with having an endocrine function 20 years ago, now we have a weight loss industry surrounding it. Male dominated gynaecology has ignored the nerve supply to the clitoris/decided it’s too complicated for their tiny minds to unravel. I don’t consider it too much of a stretch that there is still a function of one of the tissue types in that compose the female anatomy we have yet to document. Any medic who is ever going to make progress would do well to listen to women!

It's piss! 😂

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25545022/

Three of the writers are women.

"Listen to women!"

"No, not those women!"

Having an in depth understanding of genito-urinary physiology, please can you remind me of the difference between "excrete" and "secrete"? And what is the medical delineation for "up there" and "down there"?

The dark dinner sounds ace @AlexaAdventuress (in fact high protocol dinners sounds v interesting). What sort of music and what did the men wear, if you don't mind me asking?

That sounds like a top night @AlexaAdventuress😂

For those that asked, high protocol dinners require Diners (Doms) to attend in smart attire accompanied by their server (submissive), who is usually dressed in revealing or fetish clothing.

The server is to attend to the needs of their Dom throughout the evening. Communication between the Diner and server is minimal and usually non-verbal. The server should be seen and not heard. The idea is that the server is attentive to the needs of their Dom, opening doors, taking their coat, setting the table, pulling out their chair, placing a napkin in their lap, serving and clearing their food and ensuring that their drink is topped up. It is a measure of how well a submissive knows their Dominant that they are quick to act before being asked.

Everybody is expected to have impeccable manners and be on their best behaviour. A submissive’s devotion and attentiveness is a standard by which others will judge them and their Dominant. Unless otherwise directed, the submissive should remain standing behind and to the right of their Dominant.

Play and discipline are encouraged within clear boundaries of consent. Diners may only touch or command a submissive with permission. Subs may politely decline requests from other Diners.

I’d quite like to attend one (as a sub) but I think the brat in me might struggle with being so demure. The temptation to join in with debate may just be too much… surely they’d want to hear my opinion on the subject, right?! The fact that I know I’d find the whole evening challenging kind of makes me want to go even more…

@PinotPony The cliche would suggest make Diners and female servers. How often is that switched and, in the context of how draconian Mistresses are typically portrayed, how would male servers both be dressed and be accepted?

7 subjects, with an anomalous result amongst them, is not conclusive.

@EllieShellynope it isn’t

We didn't do anything quite like @PinotPony 's description, but we certainly enjoyed a bit of costume drama, ritual and ceremony. I managed to cook and serve a meal to five of my friends one day whilst wearing handcuffs throughout. It's surprising how much you can do with a little ingeneuity. It was lasagne, rice and roast potatoes as I remember.

In answer to the other questions, quite often we were chatting rather than listening to music. When we were at mine, occasionally Sisters of Mercy, Linkin Park, System of a Down, Siouxsie and the Banshees or some sort of 90s grunge might be played, or we'd stick a video on. Nosferatu, or other vampire films, or something like Naked Lunch seemed to be popular choices. People wore all sorts of stuff - charity shop finds and vintage items, leather and PVC stuff, big boots and coats. There was one young man who favoured a long flowing skirt and a top hat. Dressing up and having fun with a sort of risque, flirty theme. Not really fetish as such, in that people weren't desperate for it in order to orgasm, but a pleasant way to pass the time nonetheless.

To pee or not to pee...

@Billio54321 , that attracts most men I think.

Not going to lie
A strong young masterful dark skinned gentleman, who takes control and lets me know what he wants to to do makes me go all gooey !!!!

Am I a size queen????

HELL YEAH !!!!
😂😂😂😂😂

Lol, you sound like my wife 😄

I love being naked and watched

What about being watched does it for you?
So is it different if you was on a nudist beach?