Fetishes and Kinks

[SomethingStrangeWill]

Wondering what fetishes and Kinks that instantly turn you on? as men? Women? Or a couple
And how common it is

You took the words out of my mouth!

I've googled irrumatio. It's a non starter for me because my genitals aren't pixelated. 😭

There is no physiology in a female genito-urinary anatomy that can store that amount of liquid apart from the bladder.

It's urine

And you know because this has happened to you? If a fluid is released from the bladder does that make it urine or is urine defined by its chemical composition? This is easily google-able and you’ll see squirt fluid and urine are not the same composition.

I find it so wild that as a 40 year old woman someone could tell me I don’t know what urine/urination looks, smells, and feels like. Squirt fluid is much more viscous that urine, it does not look, smell, or taste like urine. It happens to me when I have been to the loo and emptied my bladder less than 30 minutes previously - and kidneys make urine at a rate of 0.5ml/kg/hr so that does not explain the quantity of fluid involved in squirting.

If you are a woman, have you experienced after orgasm needing to go to the loo even though you emptied your bladder pre-sex? Have you noticed that “urine” feels/smells different? Anyway, even if you haven’t experienced that, I always think it’s best to assume that other people aren’t fucking stupid and do understand their bodies. Some people also like piss play, but I think we can all tell the difference.

Sorry @SomethingStrangeWill, totally derailing. Some say ignorance is bliss, but sometimes it’s just ignorance.

Curiosity and the word "Yes" are my biggest kinks. A partner with the willingness to explore.
But I a more conventional sense, one of my more unusual(?) kinks is gloves.

Any particular type of gloves?

mild BDSM
impact play - spanking , flogging
restraints , stretchers
collars
outdoor play

Not gardening gloves. 🤣
Although, now I come to think of it, in the right context ... 🤔

Oven Gloves? Bit limited perhaps.

Do you enjoy it? I wonder how many of us indulge in things that make our partners happy, but maybe don't really feature as something exciting for us? Latex is one of those that polarises people I think.

@everywhichway That's just utter filth! 🤪
@JoyousMaker A term from the polly community is compersion and it's sometimes advocated by relationship counsellors.

A man wearing oven gloves is something I could get onboard with 😍😂

Haha, it'd be unusual in my house, hate heels & short skirts! 🤣

An ex of mine always used to put my knickers on after he'd taken them off me
Proper gave me the ick, that did. 🫤

I enjoy creampie licking, she enjoys me going down there after we've had sex.. however what I'd really like is for my wife to peg me. An ex did it to me years ago and I enjoyed it.. she wasn't in a dominant role but more really intimate and exploring.

Certain activities would ruin them! I can see the appeal of latex gloves though. And those elegant gloves that go past the elbow. What are they... are, yes, those ones that vets wear 😂

Oh he’d only be wearing them to bake something delicious while I watch @Catullus5😂

once dated a vet and would not go near those long gloves though!!!!

I’m probably more or less neutral. I don’t necessarily love it, but I do love pleasing my partner.

Also, if I won’t do things that turn on DH, why should he do things that turn me on? My view is that if I can do something someone else likes at minimum discomfort to me, why not?

A friend of mine once dated a guy who had a thing for marigold rubber gloves. Clearly more common than you might think! Presumably also makes the washing up and cleaning more fun?

Edit: had meant to reply to your previous message.

OMG. Your kidneys are further up your urinary tract than your bladder. Squirting is involuntary urinary incontinence. If you enjoy that, it's fine. Nothing wrong with pee play. . . Urine is pretty clean. How do I know this? Because I have a medical knowledge of the female genito-urinary system.
It's fine for you to disagree. May I ask, where do you believe this er. . . "Squirt fluid" is stored anatomically?

OMG. I know where the kidneys are. I went to medical school. You have “medical knowledge” but lack comprehension skills. Shame. I was making a point about how quickly the kidneys produce urine after one has completely voided not describing the anatomy of which I am well aware.

Did you not understand what I wrote? I asked what makes urine urine. Is it the fact that it is stored in the bladder or is it its chemical composition? Do you understand my question and do you have a view on this? The fluid released during squirting has been tested by researchers but certainly not extensively. In some circumstances the fluid has been found to be identical to urine and in other cases it has been found to have a very different composition to urine. Interesting huh? It certainly suggests that some women are squirting a fluid that is almost entirely NOT urine BY CHEMICAL COMPOSITION. I did not deny that this accumulates in the bladder. All evidence suggests it does accumulate and is released from the bladder/urethra but for some women, it is evidently not urine.

Women’s health is woefully under-researched and the complete denial of women’s experiences is common. Having had experience of urine - personal and professional, and knowing full well what urine smells/looks/tastes like (ditto my DH who is also helpfully a doctor and a human familiar with urine), when I squirt it’s not urine.

Do you not tire of yourself sometimes? Insisting your experience can be the only experience? You are very patronising for someone who has clearly no personal frame of reference for this.

I can't believe I googled this but looks like you're right:

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1743609515309589

And a more recent summary article from 2020 demonstrating that the evidence here is very mixed and some women ejaculate/squirt fluid that is substantially different from urine. These studies are often very small (7 women in that 2015 paper) so the summary article is helpful. Is there a “right” about this? Do women understand their own bodies? Or do the internet sleuths who have not experienced squirting know better? And again, do you really think that I can’t tell whether this fluid is urine or not??

https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Stephen-Bordes/publication/343051236_Female_ejaculation_An_update_on_anatomy_history_and_controversies

Reads to me like they're saying the bulk of the volume is urine but its got some extra from the paraurethral glands.

I just don't think there's a big sack of special sex fluid in women's bodies that science hasn't found. Seems far more likely to be urine from the bladder mixed with stuff from the paraurethral glands.

Mind you I am in no way qualified to comment so I'll wind my neck in, now.

Was genuinely curious. That's a brilliant, fair and fulfilling approach.