How common is it for men to like giving oral to women?

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I’ve slept with three men. None of them have even tried to give me oral. One said he had with a previous partner and didn’t like it. The others didn’t even try. Am I unlucky or is this normal? Well I know it’s not normal, but is this wildly out of the norm or only slightly out of the norm?

And for the men answering, I kind of think you will skew to the ‘yes I love it’ side, but you’re already showing your interest by being on this forum. So how about other men you know? Do they like it?

Women - what shall I do? I kind of feel it’s becoming a dealbreaker. With current (fairly new) man I’ve mentioned it a couple of times briefly, out of the bedroom. I feel like I don’t want to ask in bed as maybe he doesn’t want to (fair enough) and I’d rather a man wanted to do it, and asked ME rather than me asking HIM.

I can't speak for anyone else at all but I've always taken great pleasure from knowing that the person I'm with is entirely satisfied, in fact, I'd say I'm probably more comfortable giving than recieving and always have been. That's not to say I don't enjoy both!

Speaking as a bloke I enjoy giving more than receiving , it's a big turn knowing the pleasure that my partner is getting . She very much a multiple climaxer .

Thanks @topnoddy and @Biggyfoot

Would your partners say you have a normal interest and enthusiasm for oral, or you are more interested than their previous partners.

Are you extreme examples, that’s what I mean. Or am I the one who has picked extreme examples?

It's the best thing in the world.

Men who don't do it are really missing out...big time.

As you say male posts here will be self selecting
so really other women need to post how many of the men they have slept with have given oral out of a total

I've slept with 4...first would do it rarely, second never did but only slept with him once, third did it more than I actually wanted it, fourth is every so often but is great at it so I'll take what I get haha. I think it differs man to man! I totally get what you mean though, I don't like having to hint or ask...I want them down there because they want to be!

I don't think I'm an extreme anything. To be honest, I've never enquired about anyone's history when it comes to sex but I've never heard anyone say they were averse to it... There was an ex colleague once, but it turned out that there was a bit of an infection

I'm a man...I love giving oral...simply fabulous

Isn't it a cancer risk through spread of the HPV virus?

Is that an equal risk for both sexes doing oral?

The only guy I’ve dated who has liked giving oral was the guy I was seeing earlier this year. He genuinely did too. It made a welcome change and from now on there’s no way I’m sucking any man’s penis if he’s not prepared to give me oral. So many years of that. That was the best thing about this guy and only reason I’ve stayed in touch since we took a break as I’m trying to cling onto him in the future purely for this reason! Lol, I jest, but the fact the sex is so good with him (not just oral) is part of the reason I didn’t tell him to completely get lost earlier this year. Every sex session started with him giving me oral. It was lush!

Yes, I’ve (very willingly) given oral every time.

But today, I’m thinking Fuck That Shit.

Yep absolutely don’t do it, say you’ll give him oral again when he starts returning the favour. No way am I ever doing it again if they won’t

I would say I particularly “love” giving oral, it’s not the most pleasant thing in the world, but TBH it’s a means to an end, partner likes it, makes her want to have more sex.

I usually think about and dream about giving oral sex. I often have dreams about it and have wondered how I could do it better.
The idea of receiving oral sex to myself is a bit of a challenge.

To me it's just a natural part of sex

I love both. I’ve never talked about this with any of my friends!

Whenever a situation gets near passing the point of no return with someone new, it’s time for that little conversation. No oral, then no thank you and no entry!

Would happily do it over penetration any day

Never had a problem with a guy not doing oral sex, just seemed a natural thing they wanted to do. What can make a difference for some is whether you are fully shaved/waxed. Most say it is so much nicer for them me being bare, and I just admit I much prefer as much more sensitive.

I'd say trimmed is enough depending on the bush.
As for the original question I love giving, my friends seem to be about 50/50 on how much they enjoy giving which I think is a great shame, although obviously it depends on the partner, if they orgasm through PIV I do less.

I think this illustrates my point perfectly,

I also assume this poster is okay with their partner ( male or female? ), expressing their own wants during “that little conversation “

I'm a woman and I love doing it to my woman. It's as intimate as you can possibly get which I like. And I love knowing I'm the one giving her all that pleasure.

I think it's quite unusual for you to have had such a low percentage of your partners enjoying giving oral. In general, most men like to give it, but for some reason men tend to think enjoying it makes them somehow special and that they're 'unlike most guys' . Which is quite annoying!

@myNewName21 - Of course someone can express their likes, l can opt whether to go along with it though. Like me they can say no and walk away if not happy.

That little conversation can reveal more though in terms of attitude.

l’ve been calked “shitty” on MN before over this one, but if someone is invited to share my body, my body my rules. Nobody has to join me in bed if they choose not to.