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To the regular posters on the Sex topic threads

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justcallmebozo · 18/02/2023 20:25

I don't post much on forums, bit of a lurker. (lurker?? - probably could have found a better word to use on a sex thread!!)

Quite surprised to learn that you are all apparently one-handed typists/teenage boys/sleazy 40+ pervs/men pretending to be women, and now also paedophiles. But in almost all that I've read on here over the past few months, I've found you regulars to be very polite, respectful and decent in the way you post.

Not sure if my opinion means much on MN generally, i'm not the typical poster, what with me being a woman who likes sex, doesn't much like children, doesn't hate men and doesn't blame every man for things that one bad person has done to her in the past. Just wanted to say please don't go, don't abandon ship. (Did Jude really go? She talked a lot of sense. I hope she comes back soon)

Hope MNHQ see sense soon and take it off Active so it can go back to how it was before.

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HornyBee · 19/02/2023 06:59

LucyLeave · 18/02/2023 23:07

The sex topic is not an exclusive club for you and your mates. Anyone can post on it.

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And the only reason I was saying to stop posting was that TheShellBeach was trolling all the threads last night. By commenting on the threads, they are putting them in active. And then they claimed they were doing it because they want the sex topic moved off active.... so I was just pointing out that if they stopped posted stupid crap on the threads, they would be less visible.

Cozytoesandtoast00 · 19/02/2023 07:00

I don't go on the sex threads much but I occasionally like to have a read if I find a topic interesting.
I've been surprised by the immaturity and bullying methods of Mumsnet users who dislike the threads. Such idiots.

MrsClarkandPercy · 19/02/2023 08:17

Forest lilac
I asked why a flesh light was so sleazy and disgusting when womens toys aren’t considered sleazy and disgusting. No one has answered me yet 🤷‍♀️.
*
-* of course there can be no double standards. A sex toy for a man is no more or less sleazy than for a woman.

Personally I don't like sex toys, for various reasons, but I'd never dream of judging or openly condemning anyone else for their choice with their body. These self-appointed Chairwomen of MN are often the ones also defending other rights of women to choose. They are characterised by their lack of perspective, intelligence, kindness and empathy.

It's a pity they've decided to attack the sex threads, as generally these seem to be well-meant, open and honest, and kind - so posters make themselves vulnerable.

The only defence against straight abuse is to ignore it, so I suggest genuine posters just ignore the saboteuses.

TenTenEleven · 19/02/2023 08:38

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Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 19/02/2023 08:46

Cozytoesandtoast00 · 19/02/2023 07:00

I don't go on the sex threads much but I occasionally like to have a read if I find a topic interesting.
I've been surprised by the immaturity and bullying methods of Mumsnet users who dislike the threads. Such idiots.

I agree with this. It's pathetic behaviour from grown women. It's a public forum, and some people do talk about sex. The ability to hide the sex board is there.

ManhattanFromTheSky · 19/02/2023 08:49

ManhattanFromTheSky · 19/02/2023 00:39

Yup, anyone can post if they wish to do so.

But if you really dislike it that much, why do you feel need to look at and post on the threads?

I don't like gardening, so I don't go onto that board. I don’t require any help from the fitness board, so I don't go there either.

A lot of people have been very annoyed by something that is so very easily remedied.

Just ignore it.

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Asking again, why do people feel the need to post if they don't like it?

Soubriquet · 19/02/2023 08:53

It’s stupid and childish.

You don’t like sex? Fine don’t post on the topic.

You think it’s full of perverts? Fine then hide the topic

Stop being so fucking childish about it.

Sux2buthen · 19/02/2023 08:54

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So condescending.
The type of 'feminist' that thinks it's your way or the wrong way.
Women are allowed to like men and sex

Sux2buthen · 19/02/2023 08:57

It's starting to come across as jealousy.

MyrtIe · 19/02/2023 09:00

Personally I don't understand why MN needs a hook up thread. Surely there are better places to go on the internet to find like minds? No judgment about doing that btw, I just think there are better places to find a partner than a parenting site. Seems very questionable to me.

Iquitelikeicecream · 19/02/2023 09:04

It seems to me that those of us that visit this thread regularly - and in my case I only tend to comment when a male viewpoint is requested - are being persecuted for just doing what we have always done - visit a part of the overall forum. It is not our fault that MN HQ has suddenly made this area more visible. Perhaps they thought some more open-minded folk would benefit from it, perhaps its an oversight - either way, if you are not interested in the topic, stay away.

Surplus2requirements · 19/02/2023 09:15

MyrtIe · 19/02/2023 09:00

Personally I don't understand why MN needs a hook up thread. Surely there are better places to go on the internet to find like minds? No judgment about doing that btw, I just think there are better places to find a partner than a parenting site. Seems very questionable to me.

I don't think 'hook up' thread is really accurate, nobody is posting their location that ive seen. It's for chat for those that want it.

Hook ups will happen I guess in the same way friends might be made in Gardening or AIBU and if they discover they happen to live near enough might go for a coffee.

TheShellBeach · 19/02/2023 12:28

ManhattanFromTheSky · 19/02/2023 08:49

Asking again, why do people feel the need to post if they don't like it?

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To make the point that they object to its being in Active.

HornyBee · 19/02/2023 13:02

TheShellBeach · 19/02/2023 12:28

To make the point that they object to its being in Active.

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But what are you getting from it? What is it actully achieving?

You post a stupid comment.
It gets reported.
Mumsnet remove it.

All you are doing is giving the board traffic and bumping the threads into active! Which is surely the opposite of what you actually want??

Namechangingagain111 · 19/02/2023 13:42

I just don't get why people who don't want to see this topic don't just block it in their settings ?!
(same way I've blocked the Royal Family topic as I don't want to see any of those posts)
It's not rocket science.....

ManhattanFromTheSky · 19/02/2023 14:08

TheShellBeach · 19/02/2023 12:28

To make the point that they object to its being in Active.

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It probably has twice the amount of traffic now, people who had no idea about it (sex chat thread in particular) for the past 8 months maybe, are now popping in for a nosey and posting. Surely that's contributing to how active it is? It doesn't make sense.

You don't want to see the threads, the Sex Boarders are more than happy to be left alone. If a thread pops up on Active just scroll on by, it really is that easy. I'm sure there are other threads, other topics you pass on because you aren't interested in or don't agree with?

EmilyGilmoresSass · 19/02/2023 15:08

HornyBee · 19/02/2023 13:02

But what are you getting from it? What is it actully achieving?

You post a stupid comment.
It gets reported.
Mumsnet remove it.

All you are doing is giving the board traffic and bumping the threads into active! Which is surely the opposite of what you actually want??

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What they achieve is trying to make a song and dance about how it's constantly taking up active, when really it wouldn't if they stopped trolling it. Its laughable, I agree.

Zanatdy · 20/02/2023 18:14

I personally like the fact that the sex thread has both men and women posting on it. I mean if men want to get off on this stuff like some posters who have seen these threads on the most popular topics, then they can to much more explicit forums than this which is pretty tame compared to some of the others I read. Some of those posters are very childish too saying it’s disgusting etc if it’s something that they personally might not want to do or haven’t heard of

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justcallmebozo · 20/02/2023 21:14

I agree with you there @Zanatdy In fact, it's often the men's viewpoint i'm more interested in.
Although I have female friends I can talk to, I don't have any male friends who I would feel comfortable enough with to talk to about my sex life. Some of the posts have been very useful in helping me see things from DH's perspective.

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Rieslinger · 22/02/2023 11:18

Thank you for bringing up a lovely big dollop of Common Sense. @justcallmebozo

I for one read and post here because unlike some other forums there is so much care, consideration, nouse and a genuine desire to help inform others and sometimes give POV/advice.

I'm not a Bloke bloke neither am I a shrinking violet but I honestly got quite bished by a lot of the closed mindedness (veering into onslaught) that fell on the board at the weekend.

For me the final straw was Jude going underground all because of a few numpties.

Oh and I posted a light hearted message about cooking a certain recipe, filling a flask and me and my DW enjoying it when we go dogging.....and it got removed.....outrageous behaviour 😆

We don't go dogging btw

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justcallmebozo · 22/02/2023 21:54

I'm glad you're still here @Rieslinger and all the other fellas who have been brave enough to keep posting since the bunfight started. I wouldn't have blamed any of you if you'd decided to keep your heads down until this is sorted out one way or another. Even if MN decide not to put thigs back to how they were, maybe the Numpties (love that you used that word - far more polite than the words i might have used) will get bored with posting and leave you all alone?

Is "filling a flask" a euphemism? And "certain recipe" sounds a bit suspect too. No wonder they deleted it!

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Rieslinger · 23/02/2023 10:01

@justcallmebozo That's the thing I meant tea and the recipe was for cake!

Iloveabaconbutty · 23/02/2023 10:34

@justcallmebozo Just to say I'm also still around. It's a great site with some lovely, generous-hearted people. I'm learning a lot - even at the advanced age of 56! - which I think is definitely helping me to be a better hubby to DW.

I hope the hullabaloo begins to settle down and - as do so many others - that the Sex Board is taken off Active for everyone's sake.

Rieslinger · 23/02/2023 10:38

@Iloveabaconbutty 👏👏👏

Divebar2021 · 23/02/2023 10:49

I have to say this is the possibly the tamest sex chat I’ve ever seen so I struggle at how offended some people are by it ( some people just enjoy being offended I guess)

( I’m just posting to keep this thread in active but I might stick around if you’re a friendly bunch 😉)

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