Can I ask how long an average sex session lasts for you?

[SookieandEric]

From start to finish: foreplay, sex, cuddle at the end?

I think I might have unrealistic expectations after ex. Have slept with three men since we split a year ago and was hoping the length of the sessions was one off unfortunates. However I'm not so sure now!

FFS, when I talked about a man cumming in 4 mins (average) I though I made it clear that the 4 mins was the piv part, not the whole shebang. I would expect that any man close to the average would spend considerably more time pleasuring his partner (and she pleasuring him) in ways other than piv. Anybody who goes straight to piv and bangs for 4 mins then rolls over and goes straight to sleep every time deserves to be single forever. A decent session for me would be between 30 and 40 minutes but only around 10 of that (maximum) will be piv and im happy and very sexually satisfied with that. My ex who could engage in piv for over an hour each time used to leave me sore and quite bored, hence he is an ex.

I can orgasm within 3-4 mins of starting anything sexual.

I orgasm far too quick and i really wish i didnt as the mood completely goes once i orgasm.

Foreplay, oral and then sex is around 20 - 30 mins. Thats plenty for me.

Lasts an hour or so most nights, but there will be some snuggling & fondling on the sofa before we go up.

I usually get about 40-50 mins of attention focussed on me until I can't take any more. This might include a bit of PIV sometimes but not usually. I will be doing nice things for DP at the same time, but his focus is most definitely on what he is doing for me at that point.

Once I'm all done, I go down on him which I try to string out to 10 mins or so, although it can sometimes be done in moments if we're tired!

Don't often do quickies - we may start off with the intention to sneak in a quickie but it's too good to rush it!

Cuddle at the end is about 30 seconds before DP falls asleep, as it's usually 1am by this point! But we have plenty of pre/during cuddles.

Varies anywhere from 30mins to an hr.
Really depends whether we have had a night out.

We have teenagers in the house who do not go out at the the same time, so often I am gagging for sex that I can come quite fast. If they're not in the house probably about 20 -60 minutes. But often it is a quickly for us before the teens start going on about our bed squeaking!

Rarely do both people manage to get what they want if all of sex lasts 4 minutes. And I very much doubt that the married men who contact you are repeatedly giving their wives 4minute orgasms without reciprocation Jenny.

If their sex lives are unsatisfactory, it is more likely that they do not put the effort into making a decent sex life happen with their DP. That there are lazy, unfaithful men on OLD, is not the fault of their wives/partners.

About 20 minutes in total. I take forever to com through oral then DP takes about 3 minutes at the end. He's not complaining, I'm definitely not. Works for us with teenagers around.

I've never timed it but we're not at it for hours. We know exactly what makes the other tick so it is...romantically efficient?

I like the concept of "romantically efficient" Alis.