Can I ask how long an average sex session lasts for you?

[SookieandEric]

From start to finish: foreplay, sex, cuddle at the end?

I think I might have unrealistic expectations after ex. Have slept with three men since we split a year ago and was hoping the length of the sessions was one off unfortunates. However I'm not so sure now!

I like a little delayed gratification

So I'm not sure I would be satisfied with four minutes even if I did come that quickly

Because I like sex to last much longer than 4 minutes!

Well that's fine if you like sex to last longer than 4 minutes but clearly
Not everyone likes it rom last very long judging by the responses on this thread. I think people are also thinking about 4 minutes as just being the entire thing but clearly
As it takes most women significantly longer than that tonorhasm the fore play is probably quite a bit longer than 4 minutes. My DH usually climaxes within 5-10 minutes but he makes sure that i orgasm first by having lots of foreplay focused on me. TBH I had an ex who could easily have piv sex for around an hour each session and it used to leave me sore from the friction (not helped by his ridiculously large penis) and being sore was a complete turn off.

4 minutes for a stolen quickie could be fun occasionally, but it would be pretty rubbish if that was the standard. I could orgasm in that time, but I don't want to. I get far more pleasure from a long build up that gets me close then moves away then close again and away again and so on until I am desperate to orgasm. That's the best feeling. That wouldn't be possible in 4 minutes.

I had an ex who kept pumping away for an hour or so. My god I used to get bored.

I might be odd i accept but i usually orgsam in 2-3 minutes with piv with or without forplay. If im really turned on it takes no more than a minute. So why would i want to go for an hour!

Because it's pleasurable? Because you want to connect with your partner?

20-30

I love one to two hour sessions.
Occasionally a quickie.
But much prefer long languid lovemaking.

10 to 15 minutes..both orgasms at virtually the same time. Very satisfyingly love life after 14 years together.

And we are both late fifties 😉

There's only so much you can do in a few minutes. It completely rules out some activities that take longer. It also must get a bit repetitive - the same thing every time because you can't fit much variety in that amount of time.

There is one hell of a lot more enjoyment to be had from a sex session than the orgasm! I want to have fun for a while.

Banging away for an hour is not my idea of fun.

Not long enough IMO!

I like a lot of foreplay if I'm honest because DP cannot last long at all so I'll be damned if he's the only climaxing. Can take me half an hour to orgasm, much less if I do it myself or use toys.

We're not cuddlers at the end either.

DP lasts about 2-3 minutes PIV. I'd love just 15 minutes of PIV but it's unlikely unless he's had a few drinks..

Well my husband certainly could make me cum in 4 minutes but I don't really see the point. If something is pleasurable I want it to last as long as possible. Not be over in the ad break.

4 dcs and both of us work full time, but DP and I always set time aside in the evenings to spend time together at least 5 nights a week.

If we dtd in the evening its usally around an hour to hour and half start to finish but we are both big fans of lots of foreplay so probably half an hours worth, then another 20mins to 45mins actual sex (although DP struggles with orgasming so this is probably why) then if DP hadnt come another 10mins of play to finish and 10 mins cuddling.

Mornings usually around 1/2 hr 15/20mins foreplay and making me come then a few minutes returning the favour or PIV (Usally leaving DP unfinished) before a quick cuddle and the DCs wake up.

An hour jeez who has the time quickies work for me

An hour is hardly an outrageous amount of time.

I'm just getting started

An hour jeez who has the time
If you can't make time to connect on an intimate level with your partner, it could well do long-term damage to your relationship.

How can you not make time?

I appreciate when babies are very young and you're not getting much sleep, but even then, there is always time if you are willing to make it. It's only if you don't think it's particularly important that you wouldn't make time for each other.

It doesn't have to be an hour long every day, quickies can be great sometimes, but nothing beats a long satisfying session where all that matters is getting lost in each other's pleasure. Once a month could work for that.

I agree with needabitherglass it's not just the climax it's the pleasurable time arriving there

I'm chuckling at the criticism and implication if you don't go at it for at least an hour you don't get bonding time. Seriously, fuck how you want.

Gamer chick

Woman often don't fuck how they want or even realise there is more or others ways of doing things, same with men. Talking about it opening may open up people to try differently.
There are a lot of wham bam thank you mama out there that may not realise what it is they are missing

I'd say on an average weeknight 30 -45 minutes although no cuddling after I like to sprawl out on my half of the bed and relax

An hour, DH doesn't do quickies, but cuddle? What cuddle?

Surely we can all do why we want sex wise? If I've cum I don't want someone banging away for an hour , if I've not its all part of the process still.my friend is the opposite she loves someone banging away at her sadly she gets two thrusts and a squirt surely it's different strokes different folks ?