Micropenis

[UmbongoUnchained]

Had a (interesting?) conversation with my friend this morning. She's been talking to a guy for a few months on whatsapp and seemed really into him. She's met him a few times, been out for drinks thinks he could be the "one".
Apparently last night he confessed that he only has 2 and a half inches down below. She said she tried to be understanding and re assure him but she's woken up this morning suddenly feeling very different and doesn't want to continue seeing him. I understand you can't help how you feel and sex is very important to her.
It just got me wondering if it would put me off, or if it's quite a common thing?
Would it put you off? Have you ever had sex with some one with a small penis and was it really different?
I'm really curious about this

Yeah about me not being a particularly sensitive person

Would it put you off? Have you ever had sex with some one with a small penis and was it really different?
I'm really curious about this

Yes it would certainly put me off, I would not be able to get any pleasure out of 2 and a half inches I've only ever had sex with two guys, my first ever boyfriend and my partner who both had/have long penises if I could I would take a few inches of my partners. And I'm sure that having sex with a guy whose is 2 and a half would feel different but he could make it up in other ways (oral)

There really is no gentle way to come back from this, your friend does realise that doesn't she?

She said she thought he could be "the one" yet they aren't compatible .

Eurgh, awful situation all around - I feel for them both. Do you think she might have been more inclined to give it a try had he found a different way of telling her? I mean, was it the size of his penis or his insecurity about it that was the bigger turn-off? Not that he'll have an easy time changing either of those things, but knowing not to write an essay might help him out in future. However I can't for the life of me think how she might convey that to him without sounding patronising or just generally awful.

I suppose maybe something along the lines of 'I really appreciate your frankness and honesty. Unfortunately I know myself and my sexual needs (?!) and don't think that we could be compatible in that way, so it's probably for the best not to pursue a relationship. I've had a wonderful time with you, and wish you all the best.'

Ive suggested maybe just lie and say she's not ready for a relationship yet? I don't know. It's tough. He does seem like a nice guy. But if you're not turned on by someone you can't force it can you.

Thanks bip that's really helpful. I think it's mostly the insecurity and but also a bit the actual size. Say for example she really loved being shagged hard and deep from behind and only came that way, not possible with 2 and a half inches. Where as they would both be happier if they found someone more compatible.

What would've happened if he didn't say and they started to DTD? Would she stop him and tell him? Or see how it went?

Whichever the answer is that's what she should do now.

My friend recently spit up with her bf who she claimed had a really small penis. She claimed the sex was pretty good (didn't ask for full details!) but she split up with him because he was constantly complaining about it and really insecure. I can't imagine I'd want to go out with someone if I had to constantly reassure them that I like their willy.

Yeah she can't pretend it's not about his penis size, when no matter what she says is the reason, it's clearly something to do with it.

Seems to be a bit of a jump from being 'the one' to sexually incompatible when she hasn't actually shagged him though.

This story is going to haunt me. Lovely bloke with atypical genital set-up manages to get himself out there dating, presumably experiences a horrible rejecting response in an intimate situation, so tries different ways of pre-empting bedroom surprise / disappointment so at least he can face rejection fully clothed, gets knocked back, becomes more insecure, his insecurity becomes a turn-off, etc etc. Good on him for keeping trying but Christ it could wear a person down.

If she only liked being shagged hard & deep from behind there is always the option of a strap-on... though it's not the same, and of course he may not be into that at all. The only way to find out is to try, but I can also see how trying it out, and deciding afterwards that it's not going to work sexually, could come as even more of a blow to the man, who's by that point made himself very vulnerable (not to mention anxious). So perhaps more ethical to call it a day now without making him get his tackle out for inspection. Minefield.

bip so you see our dilemma? We don't want to upset him at an appreciate his honesty and bravery but something just changed in her when she heard that, and that's not her fault. It's just the way it is.

God no, don't go with the not ready for a relationship. It's a total cop out and he will see straight through it.

I'm saying to her she should just be blunt and honest. They've only met a few times, she doesn't owe him anything. But... She is much nicer than I am.

Yes, see the dilemma entirely. Also agree she absolutely shouldn't say she's not ready for a relationship - seems patronising & dishonest. Also doesn't acknowledge what it's taken him so much courage to say. Out of respect for his honesty it's best to reply honestly (and kindly) I think.

Well we told him and he told her to "fuck off back to China then whore."

So not a huge loss after all!

(She's Korean).

Well, tbf, im not surprised he sid something awful, she said something horrible to him.

Not that it justifies it, but i can imagine he was very hurt.

I hope ypur friend realises that what she has done has damaged him a great deal. It'd be like someone chucking her for having small boobs, short legs, fat arse etc.

It's not the same at all. Small boobs and fat legs doesn't effect intercourse. And she wasn't horrible she was being honest. There are plenty of people on here who have dumped guys because they kiss funny, which is no different.

I dated a guy who had a micropenis and to be honest, one of my issues was that regular condoms didn't fit him securely. It always worried me.

He was v upfront about the size of his penis which was less that 2 inches when erect. We did try and have sex but in the end it simply wasn't fulfilling - yes you can do other things, no its not all about piv but there are times when other things don't quite suffice.

What's with the 'we told him'? Did you both say it

As in we typed the message up together

Not condoning what he said as it's horrible but I would imagine he was lashing out and trying to hurt her the same way she did him.

I only hope your friend doesn't end up with someone with erection problems in future if she places that much importance over piv sex over having a genuine connection with someone.

Well its done now and she can move on.

Oh, ok.
Seems he was an ass anyhow

I think he is probably hurting and lashed out. Doesn't make it right but you can understand why.

Looks like he was a dick anyway!

My ex had a tiny penis. He had basically never felt any sensation in it, I think because he was so small, and he really didn't like sex at all. Couldn't be bothered to do anything. It did not last long!!!