How much is everyone really getting?!

[Ruskyrobins24]

For those in long term relationships with small children...
How often do you actually have sex?!

Lol at Bendydick for oversharing.

Are there going to be loads of us initiating sex this evening out of guilt? I have major performance anxiety.

Bout once every 3 weeks? Stopped keeping track. I don't orgasm, dh almost never does, makes it all a bit meh tbh.

I think we're sorta of in the middle- 1-2 X per week. 2DCs: 7 and 10 months. DP has a lower sex drive so after we do it that's it for a few days. Or some weeks we don't have full sex but are intimate for 3-4 days a week. My sex drive seems to decrease in pregnancy but after I had my DC's it increased rapidly again. We Dtd 4 weeks after DD was born and we seemed to be intimate most nights for the first 3 months. I'm back at work now so the frequency decreased. I don't think there's a perfect amount as long as both partners are happy.

We've been together 21yrs and do it roughly 5-6 times a week. I would have more, but DH needs a rest day

When DS was under 1 it was more like once a week. From 2-5 ish it was 2-3 times a week. It's only now he's older we have more time and energy.

Saying that even when the frequency was low there was still lots of intimacy; kisses, cuddles, kind words and care. Keep that and let the sex fall as it will.

Sorry forgot to say, I'm 24, dp early 30's. Those with older dc, lock on living room door, loud film on?

Once a week on average, in holidays probably every other day.

Our ds is 5, but goes to visit grandparents at weekend, so we do get a lot of alone time when dp not working*

On average twice a month. We've been together 19 years and have 3 primary aged DC.

Once a month, 2 max. Quite happy with that but would like more intimacy other times like cuddling and kissing and being tactile. Maybe ifwe had that it would be more frequent.
DH just not that way inclined though.

Neoprene
We are definitely at the lower end (1-2x per month) but it does vary a lot depends on how well our very young children sleep/work stress/health (more when we exercise and eat well I think). When pregnant we have gone several months without.

"I don't know how people get in the right mood every single day"

I have no idea why, but I was just really horny, all the time after ds was born. I was 19 though, so maybe hormones all over the place? We dtd 4 weeks after my c section, just couldn't keep our hands off each other. Then it dipped a bit/ varied more from month to month. Now ds is a bit older (and an only) I think we're getting that back a bit. Sometimes he'll run his finger down my side or back and I'll suddenly get the urge to ravish him

We're mid 30s and probably 2-3 times a month. Dh would most days but shift patterns and small kids put a stop to that.

Hell... wait till you're my age.

Married 36 years.

Once a year and it's over in 2 mins

Prior to getting pregnant, probably 2-3 times a week - we had spells where we were doing it twice a day, then once or twice a week - just depends. We had a rough ride last year with illness and it put a dampener on it for a while.

Since being pregnant (12 weeks to go!) we haven't managed anywhere near as much as I'd like - my vagina feels like a bloody clamp at the moment and every time DP 'tries' it feels like sandpaper

We've done plenty of non-PIV stuff though, so we easily have some kind of contact 1-2 times a week.

I'm 44 and been with dp 23 years. DCs are 18 & 14.
For the past 18 years or so it's been no more than once a month and often much less. But I've recently found my sex drive again and we're now having sex about 3 or 4 times a week. Don't know what's happened, but neither of us is complaining.

None. Hate it.

Oh, didn't read the "long-term relationship small children" on OP. Mine are pre-teen & young teen, I'm divorced & living in a new city.

At least every other day

Both in our 40s been married 20+ years
It varies enormously. There are health problems that get in the way so it can be anything from 3 times a week to once a month.
I don't think it matters - quality is the best it has ever been.

And I doubt that you get a true reflection on a thread like this. We are a self selecting group of people reading posts in this section in the first place!

It varies. On average its around twice a week though.
He's 27 I'm 24. We have 3 DC, 7, 2 and 11 months and have been together 8 and a half years.

Currently no where near as much as I'd like. V mismatched drives.

Am astonished at all the sex being had!

Here - both mid 30s, DD (5) and DS (3) and DC3 due next week. Rarely at the moment. Once a month maybe? DS was a terrible sleeper so it took a long time to get back into the habit and then I got pg with DC3 and have been extremely nauseous throughout.

Feel like once DC3 starts to sleep a bit I ought to up my game! DH would be delighted for it to be daily!

In my experience, the older the DCs have got the less H and I have sex.

It used to be a couple of times a weekend when we were first courting, then it was a couple of times a week before DS was born, then maybe a couple of times a month after DD was born and it's now a couple of times every couple of years.

We were about once a month until Dd was born. Now as Dp keeps telling me it's been 5 months since the last time. I'm so knackered all the time it's the last thing on my mind.

All this sex being had
Am mid 40s, married for 10 years and no DCs. Every couple of months is usual, it's been less and it's been more but ADs have completely crushed any desire on my part. TBH when we do it it's fantastic and we say we must do it more often but it doesn't happen. But I guess if you take meds to subdue your feelings then that's just what they're going to do.