Achieving orgasm through PIV - woman on top?

[MyNameIsReddish]

My first post in sex topic - let's hope this works!

Orgasm through PIV is something I've never managed and I wish I could.

I keep reading that woman-on-top is the way to go, but I can't really work out how this is supposed to give clitoral stimulation (I'm probably being dense). Anyone care to enlighten me? Do you have to bend far forward rather than sit upright? Am I doing it all wrong??

Other suggestions for orgasm through PIV also welcomed...

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Perhaps if you explain the more he pleasure you the more he will get out of his sex life for plenty of reasons.

I take it he can read and has access to the internet - he can learn, read up if he thinks he is clueless.....

Explain that him making out its a chore is off putting and makes it harder to play

Have lots of fun and pleasure whilst having sex, it's the getting there that should be enjoyed as well as the climax.

Could you take PIV off the menu and have lots of fun just playing with each other if you do t have time for sex, make time for foeplsy instead and then only if you have enough time left have PIV sec?

Could you take PIV off the menu and have lots of fun just playing with each other if you do t have time for sex, make time for foeplsy instead and then only if you have enough time left have PIV sec?

See, in theory this should sound really tempting, but I dunno... in some ways I feel I'd just rather get it over with, have PIV quickly and get some damn sleep! (See, I told you I was part of creating this problem). Maybe it's that sex is not v tempting right now so I would just rather we get it done fast.

Oh dear, this is going to take significant work, isn't it?

Google coital alignment technique.

Practise it

You can thank me later....

OP,that's probably because you're unsatisfied. Why would you want to do something when you're getting no enjoyment?

Op it's a catch22, as youre having mediocre sex then you won't allow the time spent to make it wonderful so that when you go to bed you really want to spend an hour before sleep on having lots of pleasure.

If you're having average sex then I agree get it over with and sleep.

Do you ever get chance in the daytime to play?

ivykaty I don't think it's ever as simple as that. I know that if I spend an hour cooking a proper dinner, the results will be much, much better than bunging some noodles in a pan for 4 minutes. It's guaranteed, and I even enjoy cooking. And yet I would always frequently rather break out the noodles, because it's much less mental effort. Good sex does require effort apparently it's never as easy as effortless pleasure x 1 hour, there are no guarantees and the times when you go for great sex and it doesn't work are crap.

If it were easy there wouldn't be a multi billion pound porn business

And even the porn stars aren't really cumming katy! Irony.....

I'm pretty sceptically about a grown man who can't tell when a woman comes or not. DH can tell when I've just missed an orgasm during PIV and will say 'you didn't come then did you, shall we do something about that'. Apparently my vagina feels different when I orgasm.

I don't think men can be expected to just know, unless women actually communicate it in some way.