Anal sex

[feelinghothothot]

Any real advice on how to enjoy this without biting the pillows? I've tried it a couple of times but I know dp would love to do it more. I'm also keen to get into it. Lube, toys - can someone steer me right?

no not really because people have ascribed it to something i wasnt talking about.

the reason people are saying stuff like "don't be the cool girl" is because op, by her own admission, has been "pillow biting" and missing completely the fundamental advice of using lots of lube

she also "wants to get into it" with no really convincing atmosphere of "this is something I really enjoy and want to explore further"

that is why your comments are jarring with so many respondents here, MF, because you seem to be rather conveniently sidestepping what the op is actually about

MF, it would be fine for you to concede that your terminology was a mistake

we have all made them

no one's advocating biting the pillow throughout, i'm as appalled as anyone else that that could be seen as a normal part of anal and my proposed solution is to get to people and educate them before they start trying to do that, rather than make it seem dirty or shameful, and just as people are keen to blame my turn of phrase on advocating rape, equally turns of phrase like 'stop trying to be the cool girl' could make people feel ashamed of their sexual tastes.

every human being has the potential to perform these sex acts, genitalia and physical ability allowing - thats what i was referring to, as i have explained numerous times. until you find out what someone is or isnt willing to do, you don't know that they will or won't. that was my point.

your point isn't working < shrug >

and making people ashamed about sex acts they want to try just because we might have decided we don't like them plays into the hands of abusers, it would be wise to mindful of that.

damned straight it ain't, AF!

I haven't made one word of condemnation about a particular sex act, for the record

I can see how you might have gotten what i was trying to say mixed up, and I've tried to put that right again and again, but think you're now getting a bit of sport out of deliberately ignoring that.

and yet, MF, you appear to be tying yourself in knots of inarticulacy to defend a particular sex act

one can only wonder why

ok, so you have ignored my explanations then

i'm not defending just the one sex act, i'm defending them all (between consenting human adults, as explained)

they haven't been ignored I have read them very carefully and agree with parts of what you say

the victim blaming bits of "explanation" I have dismissed as inadequate

I'm not victim blaming though, you're just intent on making it look like I am because you got the wrong end of the stick.

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