Guilt Free Railing 12

[WouldBeGood]

The railing goes on

@Groovee they are probably worried about things like flu and norovirus which could impact the nhs and are probably trying to prevent as much as possible.

@groovee there are some serious concerns that people have lost a part of the immune response to it as we haven't been exposed to it due to all the covid controls. Which means it will be way worse for way more people and again puts pressure on the NHS. Proper flu is evil!

I will be getting mine as soon as my Dr offers it, if this toddler cold is anything to go by my immune system is rock bottom. Even DH is floored by it, more so then when he had covid! Lack of exposure is making them last ages and really unpleasant.
Last year despite technically being on the list my GP told me that they didn't have enough supplies so I had to scrabble to get it privately probably be the same this year!

It's probably time for most of us to launch a pre winter health kick given what's going on.

God I'm still not well dh had to go to work so I'm by myself. I ate last night and it must have been a mistake, going to fast all day In the hopes it clears my stomach up and hope one day doesn't affect my milk supply.

Oh poor you @shouldistop .
I'm attempting to get through work emails but it's scrambling my brain in a way that Mumsnet doesn't .

I've still got a dc at home on second lot of antibiotics, in theory I can send her in but she's so hot and itchy. Ignoring the increasingly desperate messages from work.

Oh @shouldistop that’s rubbish. Big sympathy, I hate a stomach bug. That's been a while now, hasn’t it?

@rookiemere and @mapleleavesreturn sending good vibes.

I’m trying on the health kick. I’d booked a flu jab (first ever) but like last year it’s been cancelled. I tried last year after I’d had an awful respiratory thing the year before and realised that with DD now out of the house I wouldn’t be able to look after DS. It’s been cancelled again this year.

It’s annoying as I’d be eligible for one on the NHS in England as I’m over fifty.

@WouldBeGood

Yep, saw that *@OnceUponAWhine*.

Can’t believe I’m renting on the Sun to call them to account and highlight this stuff, but needs must.

Just shows how fucked up things have become when the sodding SUN is the voice of reason.

Totally fucked off with it all to be honest. Have been making ample use of my exemption lanyard after a year of feeling I really should make an effort with the sodding masks, and feeling like I was going to pass out or have a panic attack.

It's very liberating.

@BroccoliFloret I’m trying but feel weirdly guilty. Though went mask free in Glasgow shops the other day and it was fine, a good few others. I kept well away from anyone in case they were worried. It’s awfy stressful though

I'm about to throw my dummy out of the pram. The vaccine passports are a gross infringement of personal choice and freedom to make medical decisions. It is extremely wrong ethically to coerce and bully young people to have a vaccine 'for the greater good' and benefit of the older / vulnerable population. It is the very thin edge IMO. And it doesn't affect me in the slightest, BUT I am concerned that we seem to be sleepwalking as a society into a position where state control and interference becomes the norm.

@WouldBeGood try boots or a Lloyds pharmacy you have to pay but usually can get a slot

The other side of it though is vaccines for CEV children or families with a CEV member should be available once they've been risk tested by JCVI - freedom should mean in both directions, everyone's family has a different risk profile. That's how it's always been.

If you think the covid debates are divisive in the UK, US Twitter on this issue is crazy, much worse polarisation to the point where even academics are sick of the virulence of the 'debate' on Twitter.

@WouldBeGood yeah, I've not really been feeling well all week but I think the D&V started on Tuesday.

There's a wee boy in ds1 class (p2/1 mixed and the boy is a p2) who keeps hitting, pushing & kicking everyone etc. they all had to leave the classroom the other day. I suspect the boy must have a learning difficulty of some sort and I feel so sad for him and his mum. I don't know how to deal with it with ds though, it's not nice him coming home and telling me he's been hurt again.
I want to raise a tolerant a kind child so I don't want to tell him to stay away from the boy, but I also don't want him to be hurt.

The school need to put support for that child in place, it happened in both my dcs' classes and the support hours are not supposed to need a specific dx at this age to be able to provide support.

Not at all nice for your ds - my dc1 used to come out at going home time and immediately announce 'x hit me again today'.

@Scottishskifun it was Lloyds I’d booked with. Same happened last year.

@shouldistop I’d speak to the school and industry something be done. I was in a similar situation when DD was is p1 and wish I’d been stronger

Maybe I'll see if they can tell me how they plan to keep ds from being hurt. I know they can't discuss other children.
It's also hard to know how to approach it, I don't even know how to get in touch with the teacher

@shouldistop that's such a tricky situation, mine have both had similar scenarios. It will be a child with additional needs.
If it's any consolation, it was worse in P1 and improved as the child settled and school worked out the best way to support.

I would be advising DS to always make sure an adult is present if he's around/playing with the little boy so your DS will not have to deal with behaviours himself. It's not his problem to deal with this.
And yes I would be phoning the office and asking for teacher/ headteacher to advise you on how they are keeping your son safe in class and play ground
I found the class teacher was VERY thankful for parents raising the issues with the headteacher!

Children at school learn very quickly who to avoid and how to stay away from tricky situations.
It's a life skill we all learn.
It's difficult when they are sat next to the child though, as one of my DDs was as she was good at not getting involved in the behaviours. I had to suggest to teacher it was now someone else's turn

Good luck and please be kind to the mother. I have a friend who was "that" mother and know how hard it is.

@shouldistop I said things to mine in P1 like
"X needs mrs Smith to help him play nicely so if X comes up to you in playground you go straight to mrs Smith and ask her come and help X play with you"
Teach your child to aways put the responsibility on the adult to manage the situation

Absolutely agree with @sartorius it's the adults who are failing to manage the situation correctly, good advice for your ds.

It's understandable and human when people focus on the child that's not supported adequately but the buck doesn't stop there.

The schools usually have an admin@ so if you've got any email from the schools try that and request fw to teacher and HT.

Your parent council rep may be worth talking to as well.

I knew I'd get good advice here.

Oh absolutely about being kind, my friend also has a child with quite severe learning difficulties and my heart broke for her with how many times she was called up to the school.
It's the main reason I didn't want to tell ds to stay away from him as I feel so sad at the thought of a little boy with no friends.

It’s really important you teach your ds that he doesn’t have to accept bad behaviour from others. For whatever reason, and hard hearted as it sounds.

It’s really hard though

I know he seems mainly confused about why the boy is doing it as there's no provocation (in his eyes).

Agree with @WouldBeGood too, tbh, the more parents that question whether the pupil support in the class is adequate and report what's happened, the more likely that boy is to get help put in place and be able to retain friends.

The parent usually ends up ostracised too, as other parents start making judgments and concluding it must be poor parenting.

It's hardly the starting school dream is it @shouldistop ? How to deal with your child being hit, pushed, excluded etc.

The zen den on YouTube (run by cosmic kids) has a 'mean bug' which is good for feelings.

My dc both got stuck on the 'but whys' and really we'd only be guessing, and this is nice and simple. I say now I don't know why person a did action x that was unkind/wrong, they shouldn't have done that.