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Guilt Free Railing 5

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WouldBeGood · 25/03/2021 07:49

Just in case railing remains required.

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LookAChicken · 26/03/2021 11:16

Very depressing stories all round one year on

Plus I'm on Zoe app and see the wee dotty map each day. English cities all fading back for ages now but Glasgow stubborn as hell.
Have they actually put public health workers into communities there, maybe give people financial and social support to isolate? Are they not approaching getting transmission down by local targeted methods rather than a blanket approach? One year on.

Yes I presume a great part of the problem is the NHS and infection control. And no slack in the system for winter.

Vladtheunbaler · 26/03/2021 11:18

I typed a whole bunch of stuff which I've deleted.

I'm just so tired of swinging between tiny bits of pathetic hopefulness - maybe things will be a little better in the summer - and utter despair that we will ever get out of this - there is a third wave coming etc.

I think I need to step away from the news for a couple of weeks

Bytheloch · 26/03/2021 11:22

@Lockdownbear

A bit of joined up thinking, when the babies are going for the 16week jags, have their HV take them into a different room and do the 16week assessment.

I don't know why they don't do that in the first place?

Far too sensible an idea. Please don’t come up with very good solutions, there won’t be any pandemic left to manage if you do.

I can only imagine the anxiety and stress of having your first during this. When I think back to all the services, support and contact I absolutely relied on to get me through.

UltraVires · 26/03/2021 11:31

Agreed with the railing about total healthcare failure for little kids. None of mine have seen any NHS health care practitioner in person (except for flu spray) at all in the past 12 months.

  • 7 year old: on the waiting list for an autism assessment. Behavioural review was done over the phone last May.
Child has been struggling dreadfully with the school hockey cockey nonsense and physically lashing out on younger siblings, raised with the GP for support in February (not heard back). Had to beg Specsavers to see her in September to review her glasses, which had been broken since April 20 (hefty prescription too +4 in each eye, so can't function without them)

4 year old - referred for asthma, allergies and dreadful eczema. Consultant spoke to me twice on the phone, kid has been prescribed all sorts of inhalers and creams and a diet plan (without ever been physically seen).
4 year old assessment was over the phone with health visitor.

Toddler: 2 year review over the phone.
Referred to optometry upon my request as she developed a squint in December.
Received NHS holding letter (you might get a telephone or video consultation at some point in the near future).
Called around all opticians in March trying to get her seen - they don't usually assess kids this small, it's usually a hospital thing.
Finally got vision express to agree to see her, she is massively long sighted. She can't see a thing up close.
She finally got her glasses today and has spent the morning running around pointing a small details (e.g. my shoes have flowers on them, oh that Peppa pig on daddy's socks) in wonder.

I've always been great at complaining, but I think I had a good chance at a gold medal at the Complainer Olympics these days.

LookAChicken · 26/03/2021 11:31

Vlad it helps to control news input.

There is a good news thread on the Coronavirus board. There is a tremendous amount of positive news out there in terms of medical treatment of Covid and the success of vaccines - they have been far more effective than might have been expected.

This will abate into just another virus given time.

LookAChicken · 26/03/2021 11:35

UltraVires the glasses tho g is a great example of pushing and trying different avenues to improve the situation.

I'm sitting back on done health issues got me. But young children need things like sight sorted pdq.

So lovely to hear about her new found joy in seeing her world properly. Thanks for the lovely image!

LookAChicken · 26/03/2021 11:35

Gosh that was garbled ..hope you get the gist!

shouldistop · 26/03/2021 11:38

I'm sorry your kids have been so badly let down in the last year ultra

She finally got her glasses today and has spent the morning running around pointing a small details (e.g. my shoes have flowers on them, oh that Peppa pig on daddy's socks) in wonder.

^ this is adorable and also sad that she's been missing these things.

Lockdownbear · 26/03/2021 11:43

I really don't envy anyone who has had a new baby in the last year or 18mths. Really horrendous.

I'll give my GP's nurse credit she did see my LO last April. She wasn't sure in the photos and wanted to see him. But then again its something that should have been dealt with at sick kids if they hadn't cancelled the outpatients clinic.

Yip also had an ASD appointment over the phone. Feeling abandoned in that one, two years since his referral and I'm no further forward. I'm convinced he'll reject help at secondary so two years to actually help him, clocks ticking.

shouldistop · 26/03/2021 11:45

Bit annoyed at dh. He was on a training course this week and has finished early today. He's gone to meet his friend for a takeaway lunch (arranged last minute) It's a 60 minute walk away so he'll be gone all afternoon. He did ask me if I wanted to come with the baby but I don't fancy the long walk, crashing his lunch with a friend and sitting in the cold with the baby.
I just think it might have been nice if he'd have kept me company this afternoon, given me a hand with the baby etc.
I'm trying to remind myself that he is actually very supportive and it's not his fault I don't get any time to myself, not his fault there's no baby groups or classes to go to etc

Scottishskifun · 26/03/2021 11:49

@shouldistop I can recommend tiny talks they are online currently but as its baby sign language they count as educational so are allowed to open up sooner than other groups. Swimming is another one that was allowed.

titsintiers · 26/03/2021 11:52

@shouldistop

Bit annoyed at dh. He was on a training course this week and has finished early today. He's gone to meet his friend for a takeaway lunch (arranged last minute) It's a 60 minute walk away so he'll be gone all afternoon. He did ask me if I wanted to come with the baby but I don't fancy the long walk, crashing his lunch with a friend and sitting in the cold with the baby. I just think it might have been nice if he'd have kept me company this afternoon, given me a hand with the baby etc. I'm trying to remind myself that he is actually very supportive and it's not his fault I don't get any time to myself, not his fault there's no baby groups or classes to go to etc
Not his fault but a bit of consideration wouldn't go amiss either. Can you head out for a walk when he comes back?
shouldistop · 26/03/2021 11:53

I'd looked at them before actually but I think their classes are on when I have big ds too. They're quite a distance from me too.
Gymboree opened up last time but I used to go with ds and really didn't like the manager.

Lockdownbear · 26/03/2021 11:54

@shouldistop it might be worth putting a shout out on your local FB page, asking for any other new mums to meet for a walk in your area, especially with the weather getting better.

shouldistop · 26/03/2021 11:54

Not his fault but a bit of consideration wouldn't go amiss either. Can you head out for a walk when he comes back?

I know, I am a bit annoyed. When he comes back I'll be heading to collect ds1 from nursery. I don't really fancy a walk by myself anyway tbh.

UltraVires · 26/03/2021 11:54

@Lockdownbear - totally. ASD management is abysmal at best of times, the past year has just pushed all the goal posts further out.
I hope your son gets the support he needs. I understand completely about wanting it sorted and having a plan in place before secondary school.

@shouldistop - Smile her nursery staff mentioned that it was the first time she'd not been standoffish with them and willingly participated.
I'm just glad I was able to sort something out and she can see now Grin. I'm not usually a pushy person, except when it comes to my kids, and luckily I am a well experienced parent now too (I remember how dismissive they can be of first time mum concerns).

WouldBeGood · 26/03/2021 12:40

@shouldistop my friend is a yoga teacher snd has continued outside classes and groups for parents and little ones throughout. Might there be something like that near you?

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WouldBeGood · 26/03/2021 12:45

Apologies for the resilience wankery 😃

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shouldistop · 26/03/2021 12:48

@WouldBeGood I haven't seen anything advertised and I'm on all the local Facebook groups.

I do go out for a

shouldistop · 26/03/2021 12:49

Walk with another local mum a couple of times a week which is nice *

goldengoldfish · 26/03/2021 12:58

@shouldistop look up the Scottish Buggy Club if you're on Facebook, there are lots of active groups on there!

My DS2 is 13 months. We havent seen our actual HV once, although he was weighed by a nurse when I had concerns around the 12 week mark. Since then, nothing other than a weaning chat on the phone at around 20 weeks which I instigated. There's meant to be a 12-15 month visit but apparently that's "not essential" so can be done on a video call. I'm pissed off, but really more worried about the children who may be really suffering through this and needing outside support. Also not my first rodeo, thankfully...

Groovee · 26/03/2021 13:26

Had an update on Mr GHe’s going in to hospital in a couple of week for scans and hopefully remove the drain. Then 27th April an app with the consultant to discuss how he’s doing. We’ve now been told that D will require open surgery for his gall bladder due to all the issues he needs a bigger op so at least 6 weeks off work after that.

Feeling a bit meh as I'd had a lovely walk in South Queensferry with my friend who lives there. Then some fab news from a colleague x

Vladtheunbaler · 26/03/2021 13:58

@LookAChicken

Vlad it helps to control news input.

There is a good news thread on the Coronavirus board. There is a tremendous amount of positive news out there in terms of medical treatment of Covid and the success of vaccines - they have been far more effective than might have been expected.

This will abate into just another virus given time.

Thank you Looka, greatr name by the way!
shouldistop · 26/03/2021 14:00

@Groovee god MrG is going through the mill isn't he Sad

Rae36 · 26/03/2021 14:19

Can I rail about dentists too? Haven't seen a dentist in nearly 18 months. Teenager probably needing braces, all of the kids eating way more sugar than usual, I dread to think what our teeth will be like. Considering going private but for 5 of us will cost a fortune