Guilt Free Railing 5

[WouldBeGood]

Just in case railing remains required.

Its up to you. But it's fine to keep MH issues here on a slightly busier thread where lots of people are supporting you.

Have you got arrangement to see your friend in the house again?

@Lockdownbear I know, tbf my mum usually takes ds1 for a couple of hours a week to hers and brings us dinner. MIL does the same. So I do have support
Just nice to have a bit of normality like a visitor. When ds1 was small, I was out and about all the time and people would stop you to chat about the baby and have a wee look etc. No one seems to do that now, even from 2 metres away. Although I did have an acquaintance stick a couple of quid in his pram the other week

I'd love to go to mum & baby cinema and out for lunch. By the time the cinemas open ds2 will probably be too active to go.

@shouldistop strangers (usually older ladies) talking to babies 👶 another, wee normal pleasure thats been stripped away.

I remember 1st time round being a bit pfb when ladies spoke to LO but by the time I'd had my 2nd I saw it completely differently.

@Lockdownbear yeah, me too I used to get a bit annoyed with it with ds1 (I was always polite though). Now I'm desperate for wee old ladies to stop me and tell me how lovely baby ds is

I found that with dc1 there was always someone with their nose in the pram ( which I definitely was pfb about), with dc2 I almost wished someone would look at them, I think the snotty toddler that was always with us served as a put off.

I now fondly remember taking dc1 out in the pram and people putting coins in the pram, it was so lovely and kind. Dc2 got a euro from a drunk man and not much else

I used to love taking my DCs out in the pram, and people cooing over them.

Now I’d love to coo over babies, but am scared that I’ll be seen as a wicked Covid spreader

Wouldbe that's it exactly its a very simple pleasure that's been taken away from the Coo'ers and new mums. Who in the main like showing off their new offspring.

I'll never forget the old boy while cooing, who told me proud as punch "my eldest is 70!" I thought my god ill never see my baby's 70th birthday

@Lockdownbear 79 😱

I’ll need to live to 108 😂

*70

It gets a bit bonkers in my family. I have older brother and sister who themselves are only 17 months apart in age. But my brother has an 18 year old grandson and my sister has an 18 year old son. My own DC are only 19 and 20 but my eldest nephew is 44.

@RedactedTaeFeck I have an uncle that's younger than me.

[quote shouldistop]@RedactedTaeFeck I have an uncle that's younger than me. [/quote]
That's bonkers but I guess more common with split families etc but obviously has always happened. My mum's youngest brother was a toddler when she and my dad got married, so my brothers uncle was only about 3 years older than him. Half my family had DC really young and the other half when they were much older.

I know a family like that where the sister was a gran before the brother was a dad despite their being a very small age gap between them.

Although realistically you have a much better chance of seeking your kids 70th if you have them in your 20s.

I remember a friend having a short stint working as a Doctors receptionist. A lady in her early 80's was adamant she needed to go, to get home to her mother.
The senior receptionist thought that can't be right, thinking she maybe had dementia, checked the address and sure enough the lady was caring for her mother who was 102!

I'm 43, my eldest niece is 36. My youngest nephew is 17, so I wasn't the last to have children.

I also have 9 great nieces a d nephews.

My Auntie was 82 when my Granny died! My dad was the youngest of seven aka 'The Bairn" though and Grannie almost made it to 100. I have several first cousins who are 20 to 30 years older than me, mind I've just remembered DH has first cousins that are 35+ years younger than him due to his uncle very late marriage to a younger woman.

I remember going for a wander round the coop so all the old ladies would talk to me when ds1 was a baby. I was pretty miserable and exhausted all the time because he never slept. I was too tired to go to baby groups but a nice non demanding chat in the coop was always nice 😀

I'm so confused and annoyed .. yesterday Nicola Sturgeon said there is no requirement to replicate a full prelim or exam this year .. however the sqa are calling for closed book assessments under close supervision .. ie replicating the exams of every other year

so who do we believe??..

@frasersmummy

I'm so confused and annoyed .. yesterday Nicola Sturgeon said there is no requirement to replicate a full prelim or exam this year .. however the sqa are calling for closed book assessments under close supervision .. ie replicating the exams of every other year

so who do we believe??..

It seems to be contradicting what was said a month or so ago, which was that assessments could be held in any way appropriate. They've been suggesting we used the SQA papers as they've been pre moderated but said we could do them however we wish.

Wouldn't be the first u-turn from any of the parties concerned.

I know that for English we are expected to run a full exam. The speaking assessment was removed and the folio reduced to one piece.

Whatever way they dress it up it's a full exam delivered, moderated and marked by teachers.

It's a real disgrace. Im very upset by it.

It's so cruel doing that to kids. I remember not long into lockdown last year saying the Government needed to sort out this year's exams / assements.
It was fairy obvious that the schools were likely to have another period of closure and that social distancing would be about for a while.

I hope to god they sort next year's.

@Lockdownbear it's a disgrace but somehow was still paraded as how Scotland had made a decision to cancel exams so far ahead of England to show how forward thinking they were, which is fine as long as everyone know what they are replaced by and teachers given enough information and time to prepare.

I heard an interview on Radio Scotland on how these weren't exams, but pieces of work done in a moderated environment . I mean if it looks, smells and tastes like an exam chances are that's what it is. Absolute disgrace for those poor DCs in exam years, I expect huge fall out rates from universities over the next year as students haven't had a proper opportunity to really understand what their strengths are and how to prepare for a structured assessment timetable of work.

Rookie I just hope the Unis understand that kids will have gaps in their knowledge.

Uni is a different ball game to school. For me it played to my strengths instead of the weaknesses that school did.

An exam by any other name....

From my S4 son's POV he's hard at it studying for these timed, supervised, SQA moderated papers... may as well be the actual Nat5s as far as we can tell 🤷‍♀️

I work in the junior school (TA, not teacher) and am hearing how senior school staff are going to be working flat out to mark exams, moderate in house (and I think somebody said with other school for some subjects?), select best pieces of work etc to submit varying pieces of evidence ( depending on subjects) to support their assessment of grades deserved by each and every pupil. I understand SQA will randomly pick samples to moderate themselves.

All of which would've been much easier, obviously, if they could have had kids back in for face to face teaching sooner!

To me that sounds like the SQA outsourcing the exams and just piling a load of extra work on teachers after an already very trying year...

But education is a priority of course 😠

@forfucksakenett

I know that for English we are expected to run a full exam. The speaking assessment was removed and the folio reduced to one piece.

Whatever way they dress it up it's a full exam delivered, moderated and marked by teachers.

It's a real disgrace. Im very upset by it.

Yes, the full exam but it doesn't all have to happen in one go. We're doing the three elements on separate days, with a break in between. SQA confirmed that was ok.

But yy on the marking, remarking and moderating. May used to be the best month in secondary teaching.