looming awkward encounter

[stubbornhubby]

So here's the thing: Mrs S and I are going to reunion at my old school (the school is about 900 years old, or something, just everyone will be there).

From the guest list that came round I realise that one of the people that will be there is Old Flame (mine). Fair enough: that's what you expect at school reunions.

BUT

• what Mrs S doesn't know is: about a year ago OF and I had lunch together.. after she found me on facebook

So... an awkward encounter looms.

What, mumsnetters, Do I do ..

My ideas are

A - mention in advance to Mrs S that OF and I had lunch (ouch....)

B - email OF (we haven't seen each other since) to confess that I didn't tell Mrs S about our lunch and would she please not mention it (but that makes the lunch seem a bigger deal than it was)

C - go to the reunion but keep a constant watch for OF and whenever we see her.. quickly run and hide

D - go to reunion and hope OF has the sense not to mention it

E - go to the reunion and bluff 'of course I told you darling..... what? didn't I? are you sure? no, I must have done'

F - something else

I am figuring on C

but I just know that mumsnet will know what's best...

sorry stubby, I missed that...I think you're a twit making the right choice albeit a little cowardly. Why the hell you didn't just mention to your dw in the first place when you arranged the lunch....then none of this would have happened.

(But then I wouldn't have had such a good laugh)

Also, do you mean you've told us upthread what your profession isn't or are you simply referring to option E as the answer to your original question?

You said you didn't want to give your wifebthe opportunity to say you couldn't go, I asked why you thought she might say no. Are you worried if you answered that question it might I'd you?

You could try saying to Mrs S at the reunion "Oh, there's whatshername who I used to go out with, for God's sake protect me, she found me on Facebook and even blagged me into having lunch with her (I felt sorry for her), it was so stilted and embarrassing".

Or words to that effect. You may get away with it. But if you do still have feelings for your OF then I'm afraid you are very likely to give yourself away. Best really to skip the reunion.

@lovebeing34 - hey, if you think you know me, why don't you just drop me an email. Or why don't you have a guess where I live. Or invite me to lunch I don't think I know any 34 yr old women...

@serpentina - general feedback was that on-the-day manoeuvres have a lot of potential for embarrassment and humiliation and should be at all costs avoided.

Chillax I do not think I know you, just wondered what you'd done to stop your wife from trusting you but hey must be a touchy subject.

Btw only just 34 , are you a lot older then?

yes, a lot

At your age you shoul know better than to try this on with your wife then. I'm going to assume your silence re my last question means you have been a naughty boy in the past.

Do not take her you are asking for trouble.

you are younger than me, 34, but wiser.

For God's sake, Stubby, please be careful about arranging more lunch dates.

You'll be on a parenting forum in a few months asking for help in covering your tracks.

Your poor wife.

Let's hope your wife isn't, I'm sure you've taken tips read some of the threads where the woman thinks/knows something going on, who knows maybe she's a mnetter.

Bad French
Can't spell Montrachet
Lies to his wife

Bounder and a cad

But amusing.

"Pour le rechercher du temps perdu (@defluffy that is French, it means searching for lost time. Google it when eastenders is finished)"

Tell you what, OP. You google it. Then you can work out what is wrong with the phrase.

Nutjob

StubbornHubby; you really are not helping to overcome stereotypes about men are you?

You should tell your wife regardless of whether or not you will be caught out. Surely this experience should have made you at least contemplate that not being honest will lead to trouble?

Your wife is not an idiot (I assume) - women don't need you to admit something for them to realise something is going on.

@quattrocento ah, now defluffy and I have made up (lunch planned etc etc *) , but go on,, give me a better translation ?
@queenofhearts22 but there isn't ..

(* No, not really)

There is - you are hiding something from her. You may not be having an affair, but I'm guessing she knows something is up if you've been nervous about this reunion for the last few days.

My husband knows when I have something on my mind...and vice versa.

Look - she's a GF from 20 years ago, is that right? If that is the case then I'm sure your wife will just be irritated with you for hiding this (hiding something implies guilt). You need to 'fess up IMHO, even if you will not get caught. You didn't do anything wrong by having lunch with this woman, but by consciously deciding to keep the info from your wife.

Queen, there is more to this, he didn't tell his wife because he knew se wouldn't like it and was ask/tell him not to go. There is a reason she feels this way.

He is sounding more and more like someone I used to know.