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looming awkward encounter

193 replies

stubbornhubby · 02/06/2010 23:41

So here's the thing: Mrs S and I are going to reunion at my old school (the school is about 900 years old, or something, just everyone will be there).

From the guest list that came round I realise that one of the people that will be there is Old Flame (mine). Fair enough: that's what you expect at school reunions.

BUT

  • what Mrs S doesn't know is: about a year ago OF and I had lunch together.. after she found me on facebook

So... an awkward encounter looms.

What, mumsnetters, Do I do ..

My ideas are

A - mention in advance to Mrs S that OF and I had lunch (ouch....)

B - email OF (we haven't seen each other since) to confess that I didn't tell Mrs S about our lunch and would she please not mention it (but that makes the lunch seem a bigger deal than it was)

C - go to the reunion but keep a constant watch for OF and whenever we see her.. quickly run and hide

D - go to reunion and hope OF has the sense not to mention it

E - go to the reunion and bluff 'of course I told you darling..... what? didn't I? are you sure? no, I must have done'

F - something else

I am figuring on C

but I just know that mumsnet will know what's best...

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ScreaminEagle · 04/06/2010 23:21

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FabIsGoingToGetFit · 05/06/2010 08:38

Have you got one?

No, not read any blogs.

thesunshinesbrightly · 05/06/2010 21:17

onsabbatical and stubbornhubby

Write the same and have the same style hmmm interesting.

thesunshinesbrightly · 05/06/2010 21:18

stubbornhubby

You are so full of it.

Dunediner · 05/06/2010 22:42

Stubbornhubby may be a journo or some other sort of twat, but sadly he sounds exactly like quite a lot of people I know........ and to be honest quite like my DH. Except my DH isn't so irritatingly pretentious.

FFS tell your wife, and grow up. Do you want your wife to resent you like I resent my husband for occasionally seeing his ex and me only ever finding out about it from his waspish bitch of a wannabe-OW AND then him either pretending the wannabe-OW is mad or I am mad?

Resentment and distrust aren't good things to have in a relationship.

stubbornhubby · 06/06/2010 11:13

@screamingeagle
I think I am going for deepdarkwood's plan (see p2).

@sunshinebrightly
really I am not a journo! although I sometimes wish I was.

@Dunediner
do you mean your husband is not pretentious at all, or that he IS pretentious but in a less irritating manner

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FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 12:24

Still not said how many kids...

thesunshinesbrightly · 06/06/2010 12:45

fab

He asked you how many kid's you thought he had???

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 13:10

And I said but he didn't confirm or deny.

thesunshinesbrightly · 06/06/2010 13:34

Oh missed that one fab. He does not answer any question's really does he,he is soooo fake.

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 13:48

That makes it more likely he is who I think he is.

stubbornhubby · 06/06/2010 16:25

Hi fab
hang on! you asked if I had two, and I said 'no I don't have two children'.

I assumed that the person you thought I was has two, so I had cleared that up for you.. he's not me.

sunshine - go on then, ask me something

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FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 17:31

I asked if you had one.

LoveBeing34 · 06/06/2010 18:35
thesunshinesbrightly · 06/06/2010 21:18

StubbornHubby - what's the point you just dance around the question.

Your poor wife.

stubbornhubby · 06/06/2010 21:45

@fabisgoingtogetfit

  • ah! I said 'do you read my blog?'. You said 'do you have one? I don't read blogs' I thought you meant did I have a blog. To which the answer is yes, obviously
No the number of children I have is not one. How many have you got?

@lovebeing34

  • yes you are right I did ignore your question. because (it seemed to me anyway) it was a question not about me, but about my wife.
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HousewifeOfOrangeCounty · 06/06/2010 22:02

stubbornhubby - I've just stumbled across this thread and your writing style reminds me very much of a friend. Married to a most lovely and tolerant woman with three children.

If you are him, fgs just tell her she won't be too bothered and will just think it's one of those daft things that men do to prevent an earbashing in the short term. A bit like saying they'll be home 'soon' when what they mean is they'll be in pub for a bit and will arrive home bladdered and emotional at some point.

thesunshinesbrightly · 06/06/2010 22:05

yes, obviously
No the number of children I have is not one. How many have you got?

You did not answer the question.

@lovebeing34

  • yes you are right I did ignore your question. because (it seemed to me anyway) it was a question not about me, but about my wife.

You did not answer the question.

My advice let the thread die.
He is full of lies

stubbornhubby · 06/06/2010 22:49

sunshine.. forgive me if I don't answer EVERY question - but the thing is I don't actually WANT to be identified. None of us do, else we'd use our real names, wouldn't we?

I really don't think that fab (or housewifeofof orangecounty) knows me in RL, but in the unlikely chance that either of them does, then I'd rather he/she wasn't completely sure.

I haven't lied on this thread.. honest

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FabIsGoingToGetFit · 07/06/2010 09:26

It's okay sh. You have answered my question.

Conundrumish · 07/06/2010 10:17

I think Stubby is either Steve, or a girl. Writes like a girl.

onsabbatical · 07/06/2010 12:23

:-( Poor Stubby. Awww..... I think you are being unfair to him. I def know for sure that he is not I, nor I he!

Who is this Steve guy, anyway? (sorry, I haven't read all the thread and perhaps this is answered earlier)

So Stubs, have you fessed up to your better half yet?

jenduff · 07/06/2010 14:36

I got that feeling to pink - amusing thread though nonetheless

mumonthenet · 07/06/2010 15:16

Now we know you have not one and not two, children, Stubb, can you tell us what is NOT your profession?

And also, at some point, no hurry, whether or not you've fessed up to DW?

stubbornhubby · 07/06/2010 16:32

@onsabbatical, and @mumonthenet

read more carefully

I actually said above - I am sort of fessing up, but at the same time sort of not: I am going for something along the lines deepdarkwood's ingenious plan (on p2)

call me a typcial man.

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