looming awkward encounter

[stubbornhubby]

So here's the thing: Mrs S and I are going to reunion at my old school (the school is about 900 years old, or something, just everyone will be there).

From the guest list that came round I realise that one of the people that will be there is Old Flame (mine). Fair enough: that's what you expect at school reunions.

BUT

• what Mrs S doesn't know is: about a year ago OF and I had lunch together.. after she found me on facebook

So... an awkward encounter looms.

What, mumsnetters, Do I do ..

My ideas are

A - mention in advance to Mrs S that OF and I had lunch (ouch....)

B - email OF (we haven't seen each other since) to confess that I didn't tell Mrs S about our lunch and would she please not mention it (but that makes the lunch seem a bigger deal than it was)

C - go to the reunion but keep a constant watch for OF and whenever we see her.. quickly run and hide

D - go to reunion and hope OF has the sense not to mention it

E - go to the reunion and bluff 'of course I told you darling..... what? didn't I? are you sure? no, I must have done'

F - something else

I am figuring on C

but I just know that mumsnet will know what's best...

tbh I would do E in your situation, but that is because my DP a) is very forgetful, and b) wouldn't mind anyway. But then, we're happy for the other to see exes and we would tell each other about it (I think! I know he goes for lunch with at least 2 of his, so I don't think he'd need to lie)

But your wife would probably smell a rat so you should do A. Tell her what an idiot you have been in not telling her in the first place, crawl and grovel, buy flowers and most importantly, tell her your ex was a bit annoying and dull and you are so glad you are with DW but unfortunately she will be at the reunion. At the reunion, introduce your wife with great pride and avoid hanging with/chatting to OF.

Oh for Gods sake, is this going to turn out to be Steve whats-his-face again?

'buy her flowers' yes that always brings me round if there's been deceit in a relationship. Ooo and some shoes and a nice bag too

unlikelyamazonian Yes of course! but first I will have to ask my wife.

It is steve the troll!!!

FFs dont do that, silly!! (but still poetic and fanciable) She'll go mental. Let's keep it a little secret between us. No harm done eh? Just you and me. My stubbornhubby need never know.

So that you recognise me in the Lamb and Slaughter, I will be the one flashing red lingerie.

You mean Steve the twat??

Unlikelyamazonian

Don't hog him all to yourself i wanna piece to.

I don't have a DH but i do have OH does that make a difference???

thesun I bagged him first. Outside. NOW.

Unlikelyamazonian

Hang about! just watching a thread be outside in half an hour.

Ah!

Did i forget to tell you i'm 'well ard'

sun now lissen 'ere mate. have you been watching stenders ??

{what happened? did Leon really get run over}

AHEM. Back to fighting. Fists up for sstubbyman or tubbyman or whatever his name is...

Oh steve your here!!

you know me so well.swoon.

Um defluffy... re the flowers.. I'm a rampant feminist, honest! I can see what you're saying, but I don't think for a second that flowers make the deceit OK - but for me flowers would be a sign DP really wanted to say sorry to me because he would never, ever give flowers as a kind of crappy short cut to getting away with something, IYSWIM. If OP does do that then no he shouldn't do it here. I suppose all I'm saying is come clean, apologise and make it good - whatever that would mean to her.

Marine- ignore me I'm in a right foul mood, think all the trolling going on at mo is making me all bristly.

And Jeremy Kyle. Every day when some nasty piece of work paranoid man forces his girlfriend to take a lie detector and she passes, JK says 'Make him pay for that, make him buy you some shoes and a handbag'

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

So apologies, you just got caught in my JK angst. And no, I have no idea why I've been watching it either, bloody maternity leave

I think the real question is why did you go to lunch with an old flame anyway?

Nothing says "I'm guilty" like a bunch of flowers.

@solo is that such a mystery? Just for the fun of it.
Pour le rechercher du temps perdu (@defluffy that is French, it means searching for lost time. Google it when eastenders is finished ) , for a moment out of time, away from the real world. To get her to invest 10,000 in my savings max fund (joke, defluffy, joke )

Wouldn't you all say yes to an old flame offering a decent lunch, on a warm July afternoon ?

Maybe, depending on what Dh said when I mentioned it to him...

And what if he said no

Ah defluffy you are forgiven, I'm obviously betraying the sisterhood by liking being given flowers!

Never seen Jeremy Kyle he sounds like a twat,

SH - thanks on the heads up re the French .

I don't watch Eastenders I'm afraid. I do, however, probably earn at least 5 times what you do, so your attempt at being patronising is falling on slightly deaf ears Obviously money is not the be all and end all in life, so I'd like to add I'm also not an arrogant twat, unlike you. Hope this helps

You remind me of Rod Liddle...

DeFluffy - It wasn't an attempt to patronise you - I think i succeeded :-)

But hang on - you mean don't watch eastenders? So hmmm, let's see, were you pretending to be someone you are not, in order to wind up other posters on the net and provoke a response? Isn't that, um, trolling?

5x what i do? You should be careful with your assumptions about people you meet on the web.

Ooooh, we need some metrics. Defluffy, how much precisely do you earn? Stubbornhubby, you too.

He,he :-)

One point, Defluffy, I am confused : on this very page you speak of watching the Jeremy Kyle Show, which is, I believe, not terribly high brow, yet you take offence at the suggestion that you watch Eastenders. Could you just elucidate a little? (Elucidate means "shed light on", "make clear").

;-)