Ah, Karmann, back again - why do you read these threads when you know you will be upset?
I would like some balance on Mumsnet. We hear plenty from those who post incessantly on the evils of affairs, if someone has had a "happy affair" I am interested in hearing about it. I'm just interested to get a full picture of how people live their lives and don't want to be part of a virtual community of moralising fishwives.
This is just like one of those threads where someone quite well off posts about expensive handbags or school fees and everyone on benefits piles in and tuts about how much money they have and how they shouldn't go on about it.
My dog died recently, so I keep off "Pets" there is no need for everyone else on mumsnet to pander to the sensitivities of those whose partners have strayed.
There was an article in The Times some time ago that age is a factor - although 25% of us have affairs at some point only 36% of the over 50's think it is a reason to split up as opposed to 50% of younger people, and twice as many of them were forgiving - experience that comes with maturity or just growing up in the permissive society?
I sort of believe that there are quite a few people out there who don't have ill advised passion filled flings with unsuitable partners such as colleagues. I supect they meet people who are not connected with their spouses and manage a beneficial connection with sense and good humour, knowing when to draw it to an end.
Perhaps I'm wrong, but I'm interested to know. So don't be afraid if you have had an affair and it was the best thing that happened to you and if you kept it secret - your views are valid too.