Anyone ever had an affair and managed to keep it secret?

[parkranger]

well have you and do you regret it now?

the moral condecension is so boringly predictable. If you dissaprove, as I know many do, pleae feel free to ignore this thread.

If you are looking or tips then you have probably come to the wrong place.

as i have said before, nobody sets out for these things to happen, but there are reasons why they do. i certainly took my vows seriously at the time but things changed. i was weak yes, but i am trying to put things right.

Surely this is a wind up.

Affairs are wrong, everybody knows that. That doesn't stop people from having them.

I don't regret my affair, because no one found out, and I met an amazing person with whom having an affair, strengthened our friendship.

However, we both knew it was very wrong, and that is why we ended it after a few weeks.

And that is why I know, I am certain, that I would never ever have an affair again. If I ever find myself in that position again, I would either end my relationship first, or not get physically and emotionally involved with the other person. I learned that much.

oh my god, i can't believe this thread, my husband had an affair with a tart he met through the internet and now we are getting divorced!!!!!! i hope you are all very happy with yourselves you should be ashamed, find a bloody husband of your own and not someone elses

Perhaps there should be a separate section on MN for people to congratulate others on how well they are deceiving their partners/children and how exciting it all is...

< scrubs eyes with bleach >

hadenoughofwork - you are so right. no one can ever say what will definitely happen in the future or who they may meet or how they may feel about that person.

Let he who is without sin and all that.

Do you know, Anyfucker, I bloody love you. You have a marvellous way of getting at the heart of the matter.

oh thanks chickens, but is you love for me exciting ???

It's sickening, especially when a huge number of posters end up on here because of a partner's infidelity.

If you didn't want moral "condecension" - quite frankly you couldn't have picked a worse place.

I'm sure there's a website called betraying spouses.com, where you can all slap one another on the back and pick up even more little tips for deceiving your whole family, because that's exactly what it is, how deluded are you people? Jeezz.

"Perhaps there should be a separate section on MN for people to congratulate others on how well they are deceiving their partners/children and how exciting it all is..."

Maybe there should, but if there was do you think you could resist the temptation to visit it to leave snide comments?

I can 100% say that I would never have an affair while I was still married.

You dont seem very remorseful Parkranger. What support are you looking for, A well done? A medal? A place to swap stories of deceit?

You will be hard pressed to find any of that on here.

PMSL at posters who are decieving their patners/children/families being sensitive to 'snide comments'.

I'm not remoseful because I didn't post in order to seek absolution. If you don't like then dont comment and go away please.

I have to laugh at the irony of ParkRanger calling me snide

My sides are fucking splitting

I don't do "snide" , I do all guns blazing, telling exactly how it is.

I'm trying to imagine a secario where a man came on here and posted such self absorbed twattery. It wouldn't be pretty.

What the fuck did you post for then?

Or even a scenario.

I thought Park Ranger was a man.

I have been on the receiving end of an office affair.

There is no such thing as an affair that does not damage the family in some way. There is a book about affairs, I think this one;

www.amazon.co.uk/When-Good-People-Have-Affairs/dp/0312378475/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=12717726 73&sr=8-1

that does discuss how sometimes it is best not to tell partners etc that might offer you some thoughts that agree with your own. However, the risks to your partner and families does in my opinion outweigh that delightful feeling of excitement - a feeling that only you experience; not your partner.

Please please think about this.

BTW I know I will look at this again as I trawl 'relationships' for insights and help. I have heard others talk about hiding threads - if I look back here in a little while please will someone tell me how to do this. I am feeling very weepy just thinking about your families.

GBH...go to active converations and click "hide thread"

So sorry you had to stumble across this pile of shit

sorry, it just says "hide" next to the end of the thread title in "active conversations"

if your set-up is the same as mine, that is

And indeed it is a pile of shit. Will be hiding it too. So insensitive when the posters know what some are going through.

hadenoughofwork - do you think it could start up again or have you now moved to a friends only relationship.