Fab, I think a lot of people lurk and only actually join when they feel a need to post something possibly helpful or important to someone in need. i think that's what Saffy means.
Candy, sorry, I hope you understand now that nobody was doubting you - just your arse of a husband.
His actions and words are evidently having a huge effect on you, which is what he wants - thats why he's saying them, doing them.
Be kind to yourself and carry on being blaise about it, because it's the ONLY way - detach, detach, detach.
He's behaving like a manipulative teenager, or maybe toddler, not sure which.
It's so textbook it's almost funny. If it weren't so terrible for you it would be, anyway
He won't do himself in, of course he won't, he's nowhere near it. This is just nonsense threats to make you relent and say 'Oh my poor dear, come back'
but we are all desperately hoping you won't.
He'll be FINE
he'll carry on this kind of shite till he's got bored with the lack of reaction and then he'll find himself somewhere to stay and moan about you for the next few years to anyone who'll listen - that's my prediction anyway!
Seriously, he's too much of a coward to chuck himself under a train. It's all mouth.
hope you are managing OK. The longer you go without him harming himself the more you'll believe he's bluffing, so just try hard to ignore and not respond.
We are all here rooting for you.