Are you 100% certain your dp/dh would never cheat on you?

[thesteelfairy2]

if you are why do you feel that way?

I am truly interested in the answers to this seeing as Mark Owen has joined the long line of celebrity cheating ar*eholes.

Also when I first met my ex h I would have bet a £million that he would never cheat on me. Even though it was in my face I trusted him implicitly because of all the things he said and his reactions to other peoples infidelities.

I personally am of the opinion that all men cheat given the opportunity, don't flame me though these are just my personal experiences of men. I have been in the army and worked mostly in male dominated environments so have extensive experience of random men and their relationship habits.

I trust my dh 100% he would never cheat. I don't know how I know I just do. Maybe it's because he thinks if he cheated I would mince his balls and feed them to our cats. Thats what the young me told him, I feel differantly after 15 years and 2dc (If he did cheat I would try and work things out). But I'm not telling him that.
Also he is incredibly loyal, really respects the sanctity (sp?) of marriage and he really, really loves me.
And he's a crap lier.
Wouldn't have the time.
or the energy.

sorry liar

i have seen LOADS of women on here who never dreamed it would happen to them

then it does
oyu are UTTERLY deluded if you think it wont happen to you

Some men you just know wouldn't.

It's obvious. They might think about it, they might even tell you they are interested in someone else, and they might leave you for that person, but cheat? No.

I think once you start to get on badly or fall out a bit, anything's possible - but there are times in a really good relationship, when it is going very well, that you know they wouldn't kiss someone else.

This can obviously last for years if you're lucky. But nobody can say things will never change.

im not sure about using the phrase 'i trust me DP 100% not to cheat' doesnt that you believe in them not to cheat,
as in, i believe in you darling! [not to shag your receptionist.
or do you believe as in you couldnt believe your dh would cheat.

I am my DH's one and only proper serious relationship, so he's still learning all this time later, if he was out single he'd be rubbish.
but you never know, i dont think anyone can really say they know they wouldnt cheat.
i KNEW i didn't want kids when i was 20. and here i am...!

Gordian stop trying to be controversial.

Most on here have said they are less than 100% sure or are 100% sure for now...

What Jacksprat said
I like your style putting people in their place before they've said anything

Aw, that's sweet, Frogity.

im not trying to be contraversial.
everyone agrees with me

I don't trust him in the slightest now.

I did trust him 100%, women were just not his vice, and he was always saying how much he was in love with me. I was in complete denial (though all the signs were there when I look back) I think that was how he managed to deceive me for so long.
I found out that he'd had three long term affairs, he finally left me for the one a decade younger than us both.

willowrobot. Mine had numerous one night stands and confessed to affairs while I was pregnant. One started when I was 7 months pregnant with ds.

The thing that I remember the most about it though was him ringing me up one day when it was really snowy and icy outside, weather warning don't go out unless absolutely necessary. I was 9 months pregnant and he rang to shout at me for not sending his Dad a birthday card and told me to go out and get one. I said I was scared of falling over, I was massively top heavy and he just didn't care at all, made me feel so guilty for not sending the card so I went out holding onto fences all the way and got and sent this card. I found out afterwards he was shagging a 19 year old girl at that time.

The thing is I would never have believed it. My best friend or Mum even could have come to me and told me what was happening and I would have gone mad at them such was my trust and belief in him. More fool me.

Not 100% sure at all. Sometimes I think he finds everyday family life too dull and mundane, and gets jealous of colleagues who are footloose and fancy free. I reckon he could easily be tempted by the excitement of an affair (particularly if I'd been grumpy and a PITA to live with).

It would be incredibly easy for him to have an affair. He works away a lot, works long hours, and overnight sometimes. (Goodness, it even sounds like he is having an affair ).

I am 100% sure that nobody else would want to live with him though.

Yes 100% - i always have him doing diy anyway so he doesnt have time or energy .
I wouldnt cheat on him either so its an equal thing. Meeting me was the luckiest dy of his life

I am 100% certain but not smug about it.

GK is spot on
I work with mainly men and see how different they are with and without their wives.
I have also seen them on works nights out.

I DO trust my DH, he has never given me reason not to, BUT you dont know what or WHO is around the corner,everyone can be tempted.

Gordian has it.
Everyone is capable of cheating, you never can tell.

I would say I am 99.9% sure and the 0.1% of doubt is more about my own insecurities about myself(i.e that I am not good/pretty/thin/interesting enough for him) than doubts about him being a faithful person.

no, im not 100% sure because of my experiences in life, i trust no man.

been together for 17years and he does adore and love me, i know that 100%
BUT
He could do the dirty....

I'm not sure I would like to be 100% sure that my DH would never cheat - I think I can trust him as much as I have ever trusted anyone in my life. But I don't like to think I know him completely and utterly - just as I don't feel I can totally and utterly know how I would react in all situations in the future - I hope and think that neither of us would cheat on each other but a tiny grain of ambiguity keeps the relationship exciting I think......having said that if he ever does I'll f*ing kill him.

It isn't even a case of being 100% sure or 99& with a 1% reservation, I trust my husband because until now he hasn't given me any reason not to.

I think in a long relationship it is always possible for either partner to have their head a little bit turned by someone. Have I been attracted to other people in the last 12 years? Of course. Have I done anything about it? Of course not - and I never ever would. Not only because my marriage is worth too much to risk, and I couldn't live with the guilt (Getting away with it would actually feel worse I think - I note Mark Owen fessed up for this reason) but because I have seen the devastating effect of adultery and divorce on children (i.e me and my brothers) and there is no way I am going to be responsible for doing that to my son.

No way.

It is very childish to suggest that all men cheat. All men do not cheat, just as all women do not cheat.

Re the OP - MARK OWEN FFS??!!!! He only looks about 12 - it's always the 'sweet' ones you have to watch (come to think of it everyone's always saying how 'sweet' my DH is).

hmm...looking at the evidence i don't think my dh would cheat. the evidence being that he never has before, in other relationships, even one that was v unhappy and emasculating and also because his career has always lent itself to opportunites (long periods away from home).

but i don't really believe it. i never thought i'd cheat, especially on the dp i cheated on (with a married man if that helps the debate on who cheaters cheat with) but i did (extremely remorseful and ashamed of said event before i get attacked).

The older I get the less bothered about stuff like this I become.Not sure why that is I think in my 20s my ego couldn't have stood it whereas now I would probably think'what can i do?' That youthful jealousy just seemed to leave me post 40 and the realisation that we are all fallible dawned!

Mark Owen fessed up because he would have been warned that the story was going to run and did he want to get in there first to try and gather some shreds of decency about him.

He will now turn it into My alcohol Hell in time for the news of the world this weekend