Are you 100% certain your dp/dh would never cheat on you?

[thesteelfairy2]

if you are why do you feel that way?

I am truly interested in the answers to this seeing as Mark Owen has joined the long line of celebrity cheating ar*eholes.

Also when I first met my ex h I would have bet a £million that he would never cheat on me. Even though it was in my face I trusted him implicitly because of all the things he said and his reactions to other peoples infidelities.

I personally am of the opinion that all men cheat given the opportunity, don't flame me though these are just my personal experiences of men. I have been in the army and worked mostly in male dominated environments so have extensive experience of random men and their relationship habits.

Further to what LeQueen says about what good husbands these guys were in that they didn't neglect their own wives in any way, it just occurred to me, (and i am just throwing this out there, don't necessarily believe this)..

Which is worse...a man who neglects his wife over the years by being indifferent to her, taking her for granted, never suprising her or showing his appreciation or affection, OR a man who does all the above and more, makes his wife feel safe loved and cherished, but yet is unfaithful to her behind her back....I wonder which is the lesser of the two evils becuase I know I would be pretty miserable in the first scenario, and yet would be living in blissful ignorance in the second...

Obviously I hope I never have to make that choice!!

there is nothing blissful about that kind of ignorance

I would rather know if a man was making a fool of me, the subject of idle gossip and an object of pity

so I could tell him to fuck off...and when he got there, to fuck off again (new MN catchphrase )

Blissful ignorance is my idea of hell too AF, I can't believe a woman would be so stupid as to "not have an inkling" - you see it on here all the time, something's not quite right and it makes them question things, but they resist snooping for fear of not "trusting" , well bugger that, if I ever had that type of instinct , I would have no qualms about doing whatever it took to find out the truth - that's because I would rather be on my own than be made a fool of.

If men like the ones LQ speaks of are pulling the wool over their wives eyes, I can't help but wonder if the wives are colluding with the perfect family scenario to keep hold of a lifestyle for themselves and their kids? They can't be that gullible - hotel rooms? My DH couldn't get a tenner from the bank without me knowing let alone get a hotel room.
I truly believe the saying "those with nothing to hide, hide nothing".

Up until valentines day I would have sworn on my own life that dh would never have an affair - he's such an honest and principled man. Then I found out he was having an affair with a neighbour. Because they had 'clicked' apparently.

Sorry LeQueen, I didn't mean you to feel that you had to go into details I suppose "pass" can cover a multitude of sins.

"My DH couldn't get a tenner from the bank without me knowing let alone get a hotel room"

That is a little bit - controlling? Personally I couldn't bear to have my every move scutinised, analysed and every card on the table.

A little bit of privacy is very important, in my opinion. And it is not because I have anything (particularly!) to hide. But I just don't think anyone, even my partner, has a right to monitor what I do, say or anything else. I would rather be on my own than in a relationship like that. It sounds so - claustrophobic.

But each to their own. I do not think it is unreasonable to turn a blind eye in certain situations, if, in other respects, the relationship is working and, especially, the children are in a stable domestic environment. Not an ideal situation, but then is serial monogamy any better, especially where children are concerned?

I agree about being made a fool of though - I would expect my partner to be very discreet in the event of any misdemeanour!

Personally, I couldn't be bothered to stray - far too much aggro and I couldn't bear to be the subject of all that gossip. But that is more to do with my attitude to risk than any great "moral" crusade. Each to their own I say.