Are you 100% certain your dp/dh would never cheat on you?

[thesteelfairy2]

if you are why do you feel that way?

I am truly interested in the answers to this seeing as Mark Owen has joined the long line of celebrity cheating ar*eholes.

Also when I first met my ex h I would have bet a £million that he would never cheat on me. Even though it was in my face I trusted him implicitly because of all the things he said and his reactions to other peoples infidelities.

I personally am of the opinion that all men cheat given the opportunity, don't flame me though these are just my personal experiences of men. I have been in the army and worked mostly in male dominated environments so have extensive experience of random men and their relationship habits.

I know women cheat too but I just don't think it is done in the same way mostly. I am asking about men because I don't understand them, I only understand myself and my friends. My female friends don't shag about when they are in love, my male friends do.

Oh and its been a while since I saw a female "love rat" in the press as well.

Not never, that's a bit extreme, but I know that under all likely and conceivable circumstances he wouldn't.

Anyone is capable of cheating.

My husband is unlikely to IMO, coz he's nice n'all, but who's to say what will happen in 5/10 years time when I am more frazzled/fat/ he is more successful/good looking.

In fact, I'm almost resigned to it.

"I think the women the men cheat with aren't married. (mostly)"

That flies in the face of the available evidence. Men would prefer to cheat with a married woman - it means she's got as much to lose as he has. And remember that roughly 14% of the children in this country have "discrepant paternity" - in English that means the woman's partner is not the biological father of her child even though he thinks he is. Given that most affairs don't result in a child, that's a lot of affairs.

It is difficult to be sure as most of the evidence is from surveys and we know women tend to play down the number of sexual partners they've had even in anonymous surveys, but the evidence we have indicates that women are not much more faithful than men.

I think everyone has the potential to cheat, depending on the circumstances and you could never be 100% sure whoever you are and whoever your partner is.

I'm 95% sure that my DP wouldn't cheat.

I used to be 100% sure but then I came close to cheating myself and saw how easy it might be to cross that line.

So now I think even lovely, wonderful partners might cheat. Nobody likes that idea but I think it's true.

BomDigger - your dh is not just with you for your glorious young looks I am sure. He will fall more in love with you over time, and the trust and friendship, companionship etc will grow. It is not inevitale that your dh is likely to cheat - I know several very elderly men who cannot understand cheating and are still devoted to their (often fat, frazzled) wives. The love I see in some of my elderly friends faces for their partners of 50 odd years is beautiful and can happen.

Steelfairy - the Sarkozys are both at it, if the press are to be believed! Men who are committed and happily married don't cheat, just as with women. If you cheat, then you are not happy in your marriage, simple as that. If a marriage simple fulfills a function, or if you are trundling along, or if you simply just feel tied to the mortgage and the kids anod nothing else, then either partner could be tempted.

Hmmm....not sure that's 100% true Maisie... people who are in very happy marriages have been known to cheat..it's all about ego and opportunity

No, you can never be 100% sure - I couldn't even 100% guarantee it about myself, although I'm happy and have no desire to. You can't know what might happen. And I would never want to be someone who smugly declard "I just know my DP would never cheat on me!!!" - that would be asking for it wouldn't it?

However as some others have said I'm pretty sure he wouldn't put it about for casual sex - it would be a love thing or emotional affair if it happened. Might be wrong though.

I definitely don't think all men cheat, or would if they could.

I don't agree maisie. I love my DP with all my heart and I am very happy in our relationship.

But I once came () that close to getting off with a guy I work with.

Not becuase of dissatisfaction with my DP, but because work guy is hot as fuck, was coming on to me wildly, and I was v drunk and far from home, in a 'fantasy' setting.

Luckily I came to my senses before any harm was done but I say, it could happen to anybody.

I asked DH and he said Why would he want even more grief? One lot is enough. (I married him for his charm)

I'm fairly certain my DH wouldn't cheat - he has been known to say that he hasn't the time or the energy for an affair and that one woman in his life was more than enough of a handful! (bless him i dont think he could cope with more than one female!)

But saying that we have a very clear understanding that if either of us did cheat then it would probably be curtains - mainly because his work means that he can be away from home for several nights a week and he needs to be able to trust me 100% and similarly i need to be able to trust him.

I did used to wonder if as a lone gentleman sitting at the bar he attracted any attention but since we had DS he says he enjoys the opportunity for an uninterrupted bath, a beer, an early night and a night of blissful sleep. Alright for some!!

I still genuinely believe that there are many men out there, as there are women, who just simply would never dream of cheating. I know I wouldnt. Shortly after I was married I met a chap (also married) who I do believe was a soul mate. We were drawn together and spent a lot of time together through work. He acknowledged the attraction/bond or whatever you call it. I walked away with nothing happening (not even a kiss) and never regretted it. I had married my dh and would never cheat on him regardless of what or who came along. If I had wanted to have a relationship (or even a snog) with the bloke, I would have left dh first then progressed it as it would have meant there was something wrong with my relationship. Logically there must be men out there the same as me. I am convinced my dh is one of them.

dh is far far too stuck in his ways to try to cheat. I usually have to encourage him to go out even to see people he is friends with. if he got drunk enough to not know what he was doing i suppose it could happen though.

I am as sure as you ever can be of someone else's actions. I could never be 100% sure of my own actions though I can't actually imagine a situation where I would cheat but you never know do you...

I disagree Maisie. I have seen men who would call themselves committed and happily married cheat because it doesn't mean anything to them, it is totally separate from their real life.

If you subscribe to that way of thinking then I would also have to say that no-one is happily married 100% of the time so the possibility of cheating is always there then isn't it?

My ex used to say no time/energy
also when we met gave me a real sob story about a past history of being cheated on
I wasn't in the least suspicious of him because I'm not naturally a suspicious person but it turned out was a major cheat
I can understand cheating in a way, monogamy can be tedious, but what I can't take is the lying
the double life aspect seems part of the buzz for some people

I trust DH totally - he is too loyal and also too easy to read. Whether that is the same as knowing 100% that he would never cheat, I don't know - I tend to agree with the posters who say that the only person we can be 100% sure of is ourselves (although sometimes I dispute that too!), but equally I do know that DH would not. We mean too much to him.

He does have a man-crush on George Clooney though. And a big crush on Rachel McAdams - clearly I am not too threatened by either of those...

Still not sure we are meant to be monogamous creatures.Dp and I probably wouldn't but you can never be 100%.I don't think men are the same as they can seperate sex from a relationship easier than women although some women can too.Yo weren't born attached to the other person so can never truly know

not 100% (I don't think you can ever be that sure of anything) but I'm hoping that my repeated threats of chopping his man bits off if he does raises this to about 98% sure he wouldn't

Sure as sure can be. I'd like to think that if we found ourselves tempted we'd work out why and try to get back to each other. I wouldn't normally trust anyone 100%, but I do him.

i think presuming they wont puts you on the back foot in the relationship andlazy tbh

I don't think you can ever by 100% sure about anything. Apart from the fact you're going to die one day

Not 100% sure, dont think you can be.
Agree with GK's comment actually.
If you are too complacent.....