thanks Grace, sometimes it is easy to see things from others perspective but impossible to see the wood for the tree's for your own situation, that makes perfect sense, he is still trying to push me!
They seem to get off on scapegoating and hurting me, good luck to them, it does not work anymore, they should really just get on with their lives, why block me on fb? I suppose that makes her feel in control, I have nothing to do with her? Maybe she is making stuff up about me to him again, she is another transferer, telling him stuff that she does and blaming it on me, she should concentrate on herslef and leave me alone, the reason I check up on her from time to time on fb which is something the ta family therapist advised was good is to get an idea of stuff, if I had not I would not have been prepared for them getting married, and it would have been a big shock when it turned out not to be a bit shock after all! Can you imagine if I had not known they were making wedding preps, I had told the children to prepare them and told them he was married, they should know this kind of stuff, he does not tell them!
Surley when getting married they should be very happy and not interested in me! Why the dammed obsession with me still, they are married! It was like she used to stalk me on the internet and she cut and coloured her hair at one stage to match mine, it was when he was still in love with me when I think back to it and look at it from wiser eyes, within a year of him leaving, she must have known he was still obsessed with me, I was a joint obsession for them to destroy me, well I am not interested anymore, let them go and be happy and leave me alone, I suspect that will never happen as long as she can be angry at me and the children for him having to legally meet financial obligations!