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Hundreds of Bankers Confess Reasons for Cheating

179 replies

bankonme · 01/12/2009 20:14

Illicit Encounters, which has over 380,000 members UK-wide, surveyed over 600 men and women to compile the list.

The Top Ten was created by analysing the responses of 639 bankers, who were asked the question, "What were the three main reasons you decided to pursue an extra-marital relationship?".

1st To Feel Loved - Bankers have become Public Enemy No. 1 since the credit crunch hit, so are seeking out some overdue affection.

2nd For The Thrill : Professionally, bankers enjoy a good thrill - risk is partof their job. Many said they were simply looking for a real thrill.

3rd Unstable Home Life - Unsociable hours and long journeys into the city meanBankers spend much time away from home; the lifestyle doesn't promote a healthy relationship.

4th To Escape The Mundane - Fantasy and romanticism play a large role in mostpeople's extra-marital relations.

5th To Boost Their Ego - This was a common response amongst male members.

6th To Avoid Costly Divorce - Many members saw an affair as a way of simply avoiding an expensive divorce

7th To Lavish - Bankers want to find someone they can spend all their hard-earned money on.

8th Because They Feel Entitled - Long hours, high stakes and tough decisions make banking one of the most stressful professions out their. Some members see their affair as a reward for their hard work.

9th Because They Can - Opportunity certainly plays a role. Late nights at the office and evenings out drinking provide more chances to cheat.

10th Peer Pressure - Affairs are common in the city, and, especially for male bankers, taking a mistress can be somewhat of a status symbol.

OP posts:
StirlingInDaHouse · 01/12/2009 20:18

Or maybe just because they are W Bankers.

To be honest any man person will find a reason that they feel justifies an affair.

mummypies · 01/12/2009 20:21

I didn't think I had anything in common with bankers but I have used IE as a dating site and I think its rather good - particularly for us girls.

Fellas have to pay over £100 a month but for girls its free - which means that the quality of fellas is better than on other dating sites IMHO.

Worth it even if you just want a bit of attention! Worked for me

imablokepleasebegentle · 01/12/2009 21:02

Hey who'd have though any site would have been able to use bankers as an advertisement for their services.

Not used the site, but I know a couple of people who have (neither bankers) and both impressed

gentletouch · 02/12/2009 10:54

Just glad I'm not married to a banker!!

Although I might just check this site out myself!

AitchTwoToTangOh · 02/12/2009 10:58

so you purposely went on dates with married men, mummypies? what a shite thing to do.

BlingLoving · 02/12/2009 10:59

So they only surveyed bankers? And they have 380,000 members but it's all about the 600 bankers?

These reasons would be true for anyone who thinks an affair is okay. People who shag other people think they're entitled, think their lives are so hard, want romance etc etc etc [and are twats]. I'm not exactly falling over in shock.

seasalt · 02/12/2009 11:05

So if only the men have to pay does that mean the women who use the site are being pimped out?

lavenderkate · 02/12/2009 11:15

Seasalt, interesting thought.

God I must be naive.
I didnt know sites like that existed for married men.
Wondered if my DH was on it

mummypies · 02/12/2009 11:42

AitchTwoToTangOh yes I did once.

I didn't think it was a shite thing to do at the time. Others might disagree, but there were a lot of women on there.

I had over 50 responses the day I joined. Guess I liked the attention.

lavenderkate · 02/12/2009 11:58

Did you see my Dh Mummypies? Would it have bothered you if you had?

mummypies · 02/12/2009 12:14

Was he the one that smelled of lavender? lol

SoupDragon · 02/12/2009 12:18

and reason 11: Because Banker rhymes with Wanker.

Personally I think anyone who uses that site is a wanker, male or female.

Malificence · 02/12/2009 12:31

I agree Soup dragon, that site and others like it are immoral and vile, just like the people who sign up. They are facilitating the destruction of families.

I know that people will say that a cheater will cheat anyway, but why make it so easy for them?
It's dealing in human misery, just like drugs and prostitution.

AitchTwoToTangOh · 02/12/2009 12:35

there's no contradiction whatsoever between being friendly to AF while remaining surprised at the fact that she is so wedded to a name that causes offence. stop trying to cause a fight where there is none, please.

AitchTwoToTangOh · 02/12/2009 12:35

wrong thread. stupid mn keeps opening up new boards.

Lauriefairyonthetreeeatscake · 02/12/2009 12:37

I find it terribly depressing that the number one reason is to feel loved as if illicit sex outside a relationship has anything to do with love

Do those men really think that a woman meeting them for a shag loves them or by meeting them they are expressing love towards them.

GhoulsAreLoud · 02/12/2009 12:39

That site is grim.

It's one thing (and not very nice at that) to grow close to someone you work with or whatever, and have an affair.

But to actively going out looking for one...

Talk about desperados...

I think you'd have to have some serious self-esteem issues to join that site as a woman too.

imablokepleasebegentle · 02/12/2009 13:01

I guess the subject of affairs polarises opinions.

I have a friend (yes really) who used Illicit Encounters for a short time and he said that it actually saved his marriage.

Made him realise what he had and how to improve things. He doesn't regret it.

His wife didn't know and still doesn't

Please don't shoot the messenger

AitchTwoToTangOh · 02/12/2009 13:08

your friend is a cunt, bloke.

imablokepleasebegentle · 02/12/2009 13:28

As I said it polarises opinions

AitchTwoToTangOh · 02/12/2009 13:38
Grin
higamoushogamous · 02/12/2009 14:05

I am in a marriage that is not all I would like sexually.

After a traumatic EMA with someone I met through work, that ended in lots of tears I joined loving Links, which is a rather more genteel version of IE. From the forums it seems the members are normal, witty, kind but rather unsatisfied people.

I am now in a the early stages of a new realtionship with someone from LL who is good company, a pleasure to be with and I'm hoping that we will be sexually compatable too. If husbands and wives deprive their partners of sex, let themselves go etc. then this is one, relatively painless way to ensure marriges stay intact and some of us are not always totally bad tempered and miserable through lack of sexual satisfaction.

bankonme · 02/12/2009 14:07

Blimey.... a few responses!

Apparently they have 20,000 members in Financial Services according to the article.

It would be interesting to know what the male/female split is.

there was something on the news the other day about the rise in popularity of dating agencies due to the recession.

Apart from Mummypies has anyone else used Illicit Encounters?

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abedelia · 02/12/2009 14:20

Ha ha, just checked out Loving Links' main page. "Find an affair today!" They're touting it like you'd find a used car. Lovely!

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 02/12/2009 16:03

how vile