Hundreds of Bankers Confess Reasons for Cheating

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Illicit Encounters, which has over 380,000 members UK-wide, surveyed over 600 men and women to compile the list.

The Top Ten was created by analysing the responses of 639 bankers, who were asked the question, "What were the three main reasons you decided to pursue an extra-marital relationship?".

1st To Feel Loved - Bankers have become Public Enemy No. 1 since the credit crunch hit, so are seeking out some overdue affection.

2nd For The Thrill : Professionally, bankers enjoy a good thrill - risk is partof their job. Many said they were simply looking for a real thrill.

3rd Unstable Home Life - Unsociable hours and long journeys into the city meanBankers spend much time away from home; the lifestyle doesn't promote a healthy relationship.

4th To Escape The Mundane - Fantasy and romanticism play a large role in mostpeople's extra-marital relations.

5th To Boost Their Ego - This was a common response amongst male members.

6th To Avoid Costly Divorce - Many members saw an affair as a way of simply avoiding an expensive divorce

7th To Lavish - Bankers want to find someone they can spend all their hard-earned money on.

8th Because They Feel Entitled - Long hours, high stakes and tough decisions make banking one of the most stressful professions out their. Some members see their affair as a reward for their hard work.

9th Because They Can - Opportunity certainly plays a role. Late nights at the office and evenings out drinking provide more chances to cheat.

10th Peer Pressure - Affairs are common in the city, and, especially for male bankers, taking a mistress can be somewhat of a status symbol.

Oh ok that explains it then! Reading through the posts here, I can't see that Mumsnet is fertile advertising ground for any dating agency.

oh lets give this one a bump!!

why?

I've been told about this thread by someone on Twitter and if I may I'd like to give a male perspective...

I didn't set out to cheat, and I had just a single brief afternoon with another woman (one also in a sexless relationship for 4 years and one where they even slept in separate beds).

In a nutshell sex in our relationship started disappearing just over 10 years ago. By 5 years ago it had almost disappeared and over 3 years ago it had gone. I just accepted things up until 3 years ago - by then I got into the situation where I though that everything that was wrong between us was my fault, and it was that which pushed me to seek EM sex, to prove that either it was or it wasn't me that was the problem. Throughout most of those 10 years my wife had told me on numerous occasions to 'find someone else' for certain types of sex, and eventually all sex.

The brief afternoon I had, while very enjoyable and proving it wasn't me, just made me realise how much I loved my wife, so I spent from then through all last year trying to fix things with her.

But I couldn't - I couldn't get her to tell me what was wrong, or to talk at all. Believe me I tried and tried and tried and things actually got worse, to the point that she actaully told me (after physically hitting me) not to touch her anymore and that she did not want a physical relationship.

Being told that I knew I couldn't go on without anything physical, I'm just not like that - I need physical contact. Eventually I told my wife bluntly that if we were not going to have a physical relationship then I was going to find it elsewhere.

Amazingly that did have an effect on her - while I can't say that everything is now OK, or that I won't need to go elsewhere again, things are better than they've been in a decade.

Moral of the story - yes an affair can help, and can save a marriage.

If you want to know more about me then please read my blog - note it does have some adult content if you are easily offended:
theneglectedhusband.blogspot.com

Thanks for listening...