I am such a F*****g muppet :(

[norksinmywaistband]

Please help me through the next hour til best friend arrives.

Those of you who know my story will probably say told you so.

H has just told me he has been shagging someone else.... the same someone I have questioned him abot several times over the ast 9 months

DC are still up I need to be normal, plaese talk and keep me calm

Your messages of support are making me weep more - My BF said t me tonight why do you keep talking on that website when we are here.....
My reply was that there is no history in cyberspace you reply to things as they are , they have been there at 3 in the morning when my RL friends are doing RL things like sleeping.
I think until you know MN you would never understand

Sorry that sounded cold - there is obviously no substitute for rl friendship and all that is gives me , but MN offers that other dimension

So you're going through this but glad to see you're getting angry.

Dont forget to ring the solicitors tomorrow you need to find out where you stand financially asap.

Norks This is what you should be listening to - Alanis Morissette - Get angry!

Try and get a good nights sleep - You will need your strength to sort this out.

Start planning what you need to do tomorrow.

Keep posting

Oh poor girl. Slim comfort though it is, remember the glimmer of light inside this miserable dark night: now you know he is not worth it, not the man for you, not going to come back, your getting-over-it process has already started. And the worst of it was hours ago, the moment he said it. And every minute, even every minute of this misery, is taking you further towards the future of being happy, sorted, and not dependent on this fucknugget in any way.

How do I even Start to get my life back on track.. I don't have time to think as it is. Ds has just been up coughing up his guts. really don't know how I am going to cope in the next few days. I feel like a big rug has been pulled from under me.

All I want to do is hide, but that is not an option. I have 3 people who rely on me on a daily basis. I cannot just stop, but atm feel I want the world to stop spinning so I can get off

I have managed to sleep for a totalof 3.5 hours durin which 5 was woken by both DS andDD.

Wish I was still asleep as really do not want to have to go through today.

Today will be hard. But tomorrow will be easier.

You CAN do this. You have done it before. And now you have to do it again. Yes it is hard and harder still if you feel like a fool and that people are saying "I told you so". But that will pass. And you tried again for GOOD reasons. You WILL be fine. Remember there are lots of people here to support you and gee you along and it sounds like you have good RL support too. You can't fail!

Sorry Norks. Hope you manage to grab a little rest later today.
Today is a new day though. A day WITHOUT him.

To do that to you is a disgrace, but to do that to your kids are bastard's tricks.
What goes around comes around, the arsehole and the sneaky cow deserve each other.

Just get through today Norks, you can do it and everyone here knows you can do it.

So sorry to read this Norks.

What an utter idiot he truly is to piss it all away like that.

The only even slightly bright point, is that at least now you know and won't waste any more time on him.

Willing you lots of strength for today.

Hope you have a productive day, norksy

But if you don't, it doesn't matter. Just deal with what you can, one titchy step at a time.

This is the first day of the rest of your life. When the scales are finally from your eyes.

You don't have to rack your brains and worry yourself sick about what he wants, should you try again, whether he is happy, what he is doing

It sounds like you have a lot of responsibilities and you feel overwhelmed. It will get easier. Be kind to yourself.

Just do what you can. You have lots of time to get over this, but if keeping busy helps...

if lying on the sofa with a packet of hobnobs helps too...

List of jobs I NEED to do today

Get DD to school
Get cover to look after Nan today
Ring IS/ council tax
Pick up DS prescription

All else can wait

hope today is better than yesterday xxx

well it can't be any worse custy

Thinking of you today, good luck.

I'm really sorry to hear what's happened. I followed your other threads and hoped that the one about coming off benefits was the final chapter... I'm for you.

One of the secrets of still getting stuff done when everything is collapsing around you, is to make lists. If not lists, then get some post-it notes and put them on your kitchen cabinets at eye level. Every time you're in the kitchen, you'll keep being reminded of stuff you need to do.

Oh, and unless you want to go, you don't have to worry about your H's grandad's funeral now....

A step at a time. It will get easier. Be kind to yourself and take care of you and your LO's.....

Well I have done 3 of my 4 jobs.

The one I am still unsure of is going back on the benefits. As I want to make sure that, as this is permanent, he starts to support his DC.
If I stay off the benefits claim, child support and get some casual work I have figured out I would be slightly better off than on the benefits.

I have been offered 2 jobs in the past week ironing and cleaning, but haven't accepted yet.

Sorry for the waffle just putting thoughts as they come onto the page

Waffleis good. It helps getitoutyour head.

Get all the documents and paperwork for IS and fill it in you can always destroy it if you decide what to do.

I'd screw him though. I read someone advised getting yourself checked out.. well if it comes back clear, put the shits up him tell him he should get checked as you did after his revelation and you have caught something and there is only one place you could have got it and thats him. Their test involves scrap down the end of his cock. Very unpleasant and apparentlymakes it painful to wee for a while too. Small consellation but nice to inflict some pain on him too.

Bastard. Glad to see your staying strong though

xx

Hope baby is ok today

awhowcute, I like your style, girl

checking in norksy, just to say hello and see how you are

the idea of doing some casual work is good, you will meet people and it will structure your day

good for your self-esteem to stay off the benefits, but only if you can manage ok, nothing wrong in taking help for a while until you get your head together

Doing ok atm Dsis is here in case he decides to pay a visit( his normal way of making me feel worse)

Well pop back on later when kids in bed

pay a visit ??

fuck, put the chain on the door, he cannot saunter in and out any time he likes !!

if he has moved out, even if he is still contributing to mortgage, he has to warn you before he just barges in

he has his own place, yes

he can stay there until he comes to pick kids up for his access visit away from your house

Agree with AnyFucker, getting a part-time job will really help - not just with money.

When it all went tits-up with my h (after the initial snivelling) I picked myself up and returned to work (after 8 yrs as sahm) and got a fab job just 4 hrs a day and I really enjoy it.

I love meeting people everyday that dont think of me as a mother or wife etc and it has boosted my confidence and, I think, saved my sanity.

Good Luck {smile]

Af - I have no intention of letting him in- just speaking from past experiences.
He has his own place, kids will be going there from now on