MIL wants us to sleep in separate beds in her house

[aurynne]

Hi there, here goes another MIL thread ;)

My partner's mom is actually a lovely person and she and I get along very well. But there always had to be a "but", doesn't it? When we go to stay with them in their house, my partner and I have to sleep in separate beds! My partner and I are in out thirties and have been together just for 7 months, but for goodness sake, we sleep together every day!

I know that in your house, you set your own rules, however absurd they are. So, last weekend we stayed there I suggested my partner that we could sleep in a hotel instead, and go see his parents in the morning. He replied that "his parents would be very hurt if we did that" (!!!).

So, apparently the rule is not only that when we sleep at their house we do it in separate beds, but actually that we MUST sleep in their house! Is this common behaviour in MILs?

It doesn't bother me that much when it is only a weekend, but we are planning to spend Christmas there and I definitely don't want to sleep in separate beds from my partner for two weeks. And I am not 16, ffs!!!

Any of you has this same problem? Has anybody fund a magic solution that will not offend anyone? Is my MIL's behaviour reasonable?

Thanks in advance for your replies!

Aurynne

does it matter whether real or not? the situation is the same isn't it? from where we're sat anyway.

OP, if you're that desperate for a MIL you can have mine. New Zealand is far away, right?

I think this thread is more believable than alot of the stuff on mumsnet. No-one's calling the woman whose wealthy SIL plans to stay for 3 months in their 2 bedroom flat with 4 occupants a troll. This seems no more unlikely than that. Sometimes people and their relatives are pretty weird.

dearprudence HAHAHAHAHAHA no thanks, I am quite happy with the one I have . But yes, if you are from the UK, there´s no place in the world where she would be farthest away from you!

purplepeony, dear, come closer and get my smoochies... ;). I actually found MN thanks to a link in the NZHerald, they were talking about mothers complaining about maternity making them feel miserable, and put the example of this forum. I was curious, found the "relationships" threads and stayed. I find people like you incredibly entertaining.

Harimosmummy, it's not that well known, I can tell you MN is not a world famous place or anything such. There are hundreds of forums like this. And MN DOES hugs now, since I am doing them, and I am now part of MN ;)

Hugs,

Aurynne

So glad its worked out well and you will be having a lovely xmas.

Have to say my first thought is actually what your MIL said, her son should ahve been the one to bring it up!

aurynne hope you do stay around. Think some have given you a hard time, but your responses have made me LOL.

Yeah; poster ignores your advice, turns out to be right - must be a troll. No two ways about it. I mean, what a ridiculous story;
OP 'Do you mind if we share a room at your house?'
MIL ' Yeah, no worries'
How can we be expected to believe that?!

I assume you were polite enough to check aurynne's posting history before calling 'troll'?

Glad to hear it worked out, aurynne, I could give you a hug, but it will be an awkward British one where I lean forward from the waist and give you an embarrassed pat on the back. Would that be OK?

Er, I wasn't actually asking for confirmation that NZ was far away from the UK, but thanks for the information. My 'joke' (albeit possibly weak) was based on the fact that you don't actually have a MIL... ah, feck it.