MIL wants us to sleep in separate beds in her house

[aurynne]

Hi there, here goes another MIL thread ;)

My partner's mom is actually a lovely person and she and I get along very well. But there always had to be a "but", doesn't it? When we go to stay with them in their house, my partner and I have to sleep in separate beds! My partner and I are in out thirties and have been together just for 7 months, but for goodness sake, we sleep together every day!

I know that in your house, you set your own rules, however absurd they are. So, last weekend we stayed there I suggested my partner that we could sleep in a hotel instead, and go see his parents in the morning. He replied that "his parents would be very hurt if we did that" (!!!).

So, apparently the rule is not only that when we sleep at their house we do it in separate beds, but actually that we MUST sleep in their house! Is this common behaviour in MILs?

It doesn't bother me that much when it is only a weekend, but we are planning to spend Christmas there and I definitely don't want to sleep in separate beds from my partner for two weeks. And I am not 16, ffs!!!

Any of you has this same problem? Has anybody fund a magic solution that will not offend anyone? Is my MIL's behaviour reasonable?

Thanks in advance for your replies!

Aurynne

Do come back Aurynne- we want to know - lots of huggies and kisses to you. Mwah!

In this hemisphere we spell it "hon", per-lease.

MESSAGE FROM MIL RECEIVED!!!!!!!! ***

Hi ladies,

I have just received a response to my message from my partner's mum. I have to admit I had been feeling a bit uncomfortable after all the fuss in MN about it. Fortunately for me there was nothing to worry about! My partner's mum is actually a bit angry at my partner for not having mentioned it to her earlier... she had no idea we were sleeping together in his house and just offered us two bedrooms as she thought that was the normal thing to do!

She says that she was going to ask us anyway if we preferred to sleep together, as we have just bought a house together, and told me off for thinking about going to a hotel.

This is such a relief! Not only because I haven't offended her, but also because this shows me that I can be open and honest with her in any matter. I am so lucky having a MIL like this!!!

I know some of you think this is a fake... but as in any other posts, you can think what you like. I am feeling really happy today! (and I've just sent my partner a very cheesy and soppy e-mail, full of "I love you"s and, of course... hugs!) ;)

More hugs,

Aurynne

"She had no idea we were sleeping together at his house"

Oh please!!

... well... one day I told my father my friend had slept in the bath as we could only find a single double room during a trip.

He believed it and then, embarrasingly, went on telling everyone what a gentleman my friend was!

So... I don't believe in impossibles.

Enjoy your trip

HOwever, the not knowing you were sleeping together at her house, makes me think that perhaps your man has not been completely honest on what is the relationship with you.

or...

she is as naive as my dad.

at HIS house

Well, I´m glad it´s all worked out your way OP, that no one is upset/offended and it´s all happily ever after in fluffyland.

Oh come off it- we weren't born yesterday.

What you have done darling, is to end this saga as you have been outed as a troll.

No matter how naive his mother is- and I am in my 50s so roughly her age maybe and have been round the block a bit- I cannot for 1 minute believe she thought you had 2 bedrooms at home.

If you want to mak e up stories you need to work harder at the endings.

Sometimes I do really wonder why do we care so much about some threads...

If a a troll, it was a nice one.

It isn't so much care OrangeFish as enjoy.

And yeah right she didn't realise you were sleeping the same room when you are living together. Snort.

If she is interested I have a lovely bridge for sale.

And she´s not your blöödy MIL!!!

This thread has been fun, and am glad aurynne that it has resolved well for you. Troll or not, I've enjoyed it.

Merry Christmas.

Hugs {wink}

Oh shucks aurynne, does this mean you won't be posting om MN anymore? I mean, no MIL issues, no children, no step children...you hardly have need to do you?

Merry Christmas & Happy New Year to you

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Nah, just can't do it.

Oh, that is so funny!!!

He's a separated man of 7 months and she doesn't know you are sleeping together so was preserving your dignity by giving you separate rooms and is over the moon you have set her straight on the true meaning of your relationship

Don't believe for a fraction of a second.

But, it's be fun so......

HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and cugglie wuggles all round!!

HM xx

I love everyone. And a happy ending.

Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Are you really related to anyone who's been on JK, hully? [Fascinated]

Possibly.

Good morning all!

As I mentioned before in other post (lost within the 300 something on this thread), we were not technically living together... I had my rental and he had his house, but I slept at his every night he was home (sometimes he slept at mine, but my rental is tiny!). I believe this little detail might be the one my MIL was unaware of, though I agree it's quite naive of her to believe we just held hands. Maybe she believed we just hugged? :P

If I had made up this story it would have been much more exciting. My MIL would have replied saying something like "how dare you, you shameless bitch, thou shall never set a foot in my house again!!!", and it would have gone on and on. But I'm glad I entertained you ;). And no, I have no intention to leave MN alone and hug-less!

Hugs,

Aurynne

What made you find MN then? You don't have kids, you live in Nz zupposedly...

I don't believe a word you have said tbh, and the more you try to explain yourself, the bigger the hole you dig.

Funny how you can be buying a house together, but his mum thinks you don't share a room- doesn't quite add up, does it? Or has he just forgotten to tell her you are buying a house togather?

Hope you have enjoyed all the attention- you seem to be thriving on it.

What really doesn't ring true is the OP saying that the mother "just offered us two bedrooms as she thought that was the normal thing to do!". Surely, as the OP has already stayed there several times already, this would have come to light earlier.

OP, you certainly do seem to thrive on the attention and the drama of playing out little snippets of your 'life' on the internet. You have a certain talent for it. You should be very proud

Hmmmmm, you know she's not actually your MIL right?

Personally I'd feel a bit uncomforable if my DS (who I admit is 20 months!) was still married but bringing women to stay with me after only 7 months....

I dunno, maybe I'm just hoping for too much for him but I would also be VERY uncomfortable with a women calling me her MIL when my son was married to someone else and had only been with her 7 months.

Just my opinion.

I just want to know, if the OP is so desperate to share why on earth she considered MN as a possible 'home'?

Surely it's well know that we don't do that here???????????????????