FAB & GLAM 10 - Gosh, Do We Really Talk That Much???

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Hi, new thread

Lovely to see all the old posters again. Don't go now you are back.

Annie/UC/MHIS - lovely to see you and thanks MHIS for the FB chat.

Tanee - yes, you do, we met and went to Dedham...

ooh, that little furry animal . Looking good your new suit! Hey, fancy another trip to Dedham once the kids are back at school?

Haven't spoken to DP since last night. I went to bed at 11 and he said he was tired too, so he wouldn't be long. But in the end he stayed up till 3am and I heard him go off to the spare room. So as I was feeling restless and lonely, I went downstairs and slept on the sofa so that my little kitties could curl up with me. (One has an infection and is being very needy, I didn't like leaving her to sleep alone after her traumatic trip to the vet ). So he's at home alone today and no doubt feeling very sorry for himself. I rather dread tomorrow night. If he creates a scene, I shall walk.

Am trying to keep calm about all this but will it never end????

Tanee - yes, a trip to Dedham would be lovely - preferably before it gets too cold to eat outdoors. Perhaps HW would come too...

With respect to dp, I really think he is one of those people who is in such a state of depression that he has accepted that this is him and is making no effort to change. However, there IS help out there and he is choosing not to take it and be all, 'Oh poor me' about it. Believe me, I do empathise with that as you know I get depressed. I can be very selfish when I am depressed, HOWEVER I don't self-medicate with alcohol. I think the drinking is the crux of the matter, not the depression.

I really hope I am not being too harsh here. You know I care about you.

I thoroughly agree with Chinchilla.
How are you today Tanee? He was very unreasonable to create about dd staying over.

dd is home now. Came home on Monday. We are all very happy. ds is besotted and keeps showering her with kisses.

Oh Lush, how lovely

That's lovely Lush
Hope things went OK last night Tannee and that he didn't kick off about DD staying over. Fwiw I agree with Chinchilla too (cool name btw!). If he can't (or won't) get help for his depression he should at least try to stop drinking. Alcohol is a depressive itself so it must be making him feel 10 times worse.

Thanks chinchilla and ginnny

Tanee - how are things?

Hi Ladylush. Just popped in to say am so pleased baby is home and what a beautiful name you have chosen for her. I hope all is well and continues to be so.

Hello to everyone else too xx

Thanks TFM

Baffy your FB photos are Beautiful. I must admit I got a little tear in my eye when I saw them (then that might have been the wine .
It is lovely to see you looking so happy and ds2 is every bit as gorgeous as his big brother.
How are things Tannee?

Back from my hols. Typically British - we endured the rain showers and had a jolly good time anyway. Also not bothered as have already booked a hot few days away in oct half term .
Had some decorating done whilst away and it looks fab.

Baffy - also seen your pics they look lovely.
Lush - fantastic news - hope the kisses continue - and dont turn to punches as they have with my dc . They love each other really.

Will have a read a catch up.

I think i know who you are chinchilla .

Thanks guys

Am finally back on line and just about managing to catch up with things. I need to read back through the thread too when I get a minute.

Thanks so much for all of the lovely comments about the photos

LL - how are you doing?

I feel like I haven't slept in 6 years, never mind 6 weeks! All good fun though. (Or something?!)

Heya Baffy! I think I dropped out of MN just before you announced your pregnancy, so it was quite a shock to read you were offline because you were in the middle of having a baby. It's taken a while to hunt down the threads and catch up with the last few months. Congratulations to all the ladies with new babies (think I've lost count!). The gene pool needs more people like you.

Hi Baffy - good to see you back
Yeah it is knackering but I am still surviving on adrenaline I think - plus it is less tiring having dd home even though I'm having to get up at night. Glad all well with you and your brood dd was born weighing a titchy 3lb 9oz, lost a lb in the first week but was 5lb 1oz when we weighed her two days ago so good to know she is still gaining since being home

Annie - thanks How are things with you?

Baffy - great to see you back - haven't been on FB recently, but will do so to see those pics.

LL,glad DD is home - when do we get to see pics too? She sounds gorgeous and I love her name.

HW - do you fancy joining me and the luscious Chinchilla for lunch in Dedham? She knows a lovely pub with a garden and fantastic pork salads...very healthy for that chincilla fur...

Well, we've survived another week. DP climbed down about DD and her friends staying over when he realised just how upset I was. I pretty well told him he was turning into a domestic tyrant and it wasn't fair to me to have them fighting to possess me. DD and her friends had a great evening and I sent them off camping the next morning with tears in my eyes . She's still at my mum's - which is putting a lot of pressure on me as my mum's worried about her state of mind (which is fine) but not showing much sympathy for mine. And I hate feeling like I've abandoned my baby. DP meanwhile seems happy as Larry, but he IS aware of how sad I am - I've been moping about all today and he must have noticed, but he's keeping out of my way.

You're right, the drinking does not help - but he was mean to her once when he was quite sober - made her feel like she was being turned out of her own home. I think it was that incident, that finally decided her. I don't know what I'm going to do but she's still got a year left in school and she can't stay indefinitely at my parents. And she WANTS to come home .

Hi Tannee. What a terrible situation you are in. Your 'D'P is being so selfish over this.
I don't know what the answer is but I worry that you are trying so hard to please everyone else that you will end up making yourself unhappy.
Maybe its time to start thinking about what YOU want in all this.
(((big hug)))

Sorry LL, missed your question.

Things with me are ok, thanks. Visited no 1 son and the new daughter-in-law at the weekend and saw their wedding photos. I have to decide which ones I would like made up into an album. Son and Mrs looked absolutely gorgeous in their wedding outfits, of course. There were some lovely pics of the other three as well. I look depressingly massive in all the pictures so have to accept I really am a gross fatty but at least I did look smiling and cheerful and quite young. XH made it into a few of the pictures, inevitably (what with being father of the groom and all), looking so aged and shrunken that a nicer person would have felt quite sorry for him.

Meanwhile in my own life, I didn't get my job back but have had more compensation, so life should be a bit more comfortable once the ex-employer pays up. I'm struggling a wee bit with my new job - the boss says he thinks I came back a bit too soon from depression, but what you gonna do? got to earn a living. Just have to keep slaving away and hope it works out.

The best thing about life at the moment is that there are no men in it. Well, men, obviously, like the DSs, work colleagues etc, and very nice they are too, but no-one "special". Freedom rules!

HI all - been on holiday to rainy Devon. We had a fab flat and wonderful view. The weather didn't stop us doing things, but did dampen the excitement a little.

Will post more later...

Hi Ginnny, thanks for your hug .

Chinchilla, glad you had a good hols. Now, about that lunch...?

Annie, glad you're ok - hope your new boss is understanding.

Everyone else, hi!

DD still at my mum's, DP still being nice. Me wondering how to bring the two together again so I can feel some peace!

Oh, the boss has had depression as well so he knows how it goes. He and the Big Boss are off at a conference this week so I've been taking the opportunity of getting Stuff Done in their absence, hoping they will be terribly impressed on return. I quite enjoy the job and the much shorter commute. It goes to show there is life after the sack.

DS1 and DIL commandeered me and my car at the weekend in order to fetch their new pets. I am now the proud adoptive grandmother of a pair of ferrets.

Congratulations - I like ferrets! Just don't let them up your trousers!!

bump - hello everyone!
Are you all OK?

Hi Ginnny, hasn't it got quiet on here! Where is everyone?

Am ok myself - how are you? DP's still being sweet without DD being around, so I am trying to pluck up courage to broach the subject again - ie getting to the doctor. It's either that or us - ultimatum time - but hard to raise since he's being nice! I think he knows it, too.

all ok here - lots of work being done on the house so a bit busy.
glad to get some routine back again
Hope everyone is ok.

And all ok here. Been busy with building works and today I am going for my bunion op!!

Hope everyone else is ok