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Just caught DH on hedgehog camera. Please help.

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coppernails · 09/06/2009 21:40

Name changer. Please don?t shout troll and please don?t use this face because I?m devastated and shocked & sickend and I have no idea what to do.

My husband is in our shed. I have just watched him do something to himself with sandpaper. I set up a camera down in the shed today which is from a hedgehog home surveillance thing I?ve been given as a present. I took the camera out of the hedgehog box and have left it on the work bench. I was testing it out (wireless) with our telly eralier. I was just flicking through the channels when the hedgehog camera channel came up and that?s how I saw DH and what he was doing.

We?ve been through a bad time just recently and I know we have a long way to go before things are ok again but I don?t think I can forgive this. I want to be sick. How will I talk to him? What will I say when he comes in? I cant sleep with him tonight. Please help.

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girlandboy · 09/06/2009 21:50

40 grit rough or 240 grit extra fine?

Original poster
coppernails · 09/06/2009 21:51

i left the camera down there because i haven't put it back in the hedgehog home yet. id only just got it working when my son came home from school so i left it on the bench and then dh went down there after he got home from work and had his tea. he alwys goes down there after tea.

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kalo12 · 09/06/2009 21:51

don't jump to conclusions. maybe he was just trying to smooth things over for you. or trying to fashion a good contour ready for a friday bumsex thread.

Am about the hedgehog surveillance camera present that you can watch from your telly. What time do the hedgehogs normally come out? because there is nothing on telly on tuesdays. Must get one

HeinzSight · 09/06/2009 21:51

have you googled it? Is this something that other men do?????

Stretch · 09/06/2009 21:51

Mmmmmm, smooth and shiny bell-ends!!!

Louby3000 · 09/06/2009 21:51

Oh shit! Well it is funny and not funny, cos it is obviousy something you are not happy with. Just tell him the truth and see what he says.....
Can I just assume he was having a tug with the sandpaper?

FabulousBakerGirl · 09/06/2009 21:52

He was having a wank with something unusual and you are devastated? You need to talk to him and tell him about the camera. I would do that first. I wouldn't worry about sleeping with him, he probably is too tender to do anything tonight.

morningpaper · 09/06/2009 21:52

What did you think he was DOING in the shed every night after tea?

I would love a hedgehog cam - my brother had one and spent the whole summer watching it instead of Big Brother

cheesesarnie · 09/06/2009 21:52

also if your going through a bad patch and want to sort it,you know now what you need to do -feck sexy undies,reach for the sandpaper.

HeinzSight · 09/06/2009 21:52

I agree about being honest, it's only going to wear you down otherwise!

theDreadPirateRoberts · 09/06/2009 21:53

Better for a rough patch than a bad one, cheesesarnie

AitchTwoOh · 09/06/2009 21:53

he always goes down there after his tea? have you never noticed any abrasions before?

morningpaper · 09/06/2009 21:53

I agree - you need to smooth things over

Is it weatherproof? Can I ask questions about the specification of the camera?

girlandboy · 09/06/2009 21:54

It just sounds way too painful. We are assuming the right thing aren't we?

ClaireDeLoon · 09/06/2009 21:54

Are your hedgehogs shy? Mine (yes, I own hedgehogs ) wander up to the patio doors and chomp on the cat food we leave out for them.

MrsTiggiwinkle · 09/06/2009 21:54

I agree with previous posters. A bit of DIY after dinner is nothing to worry about. If he decides it's a bigger job and he needs to get a man in to help - that's when you call Relate.

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coppernails · 09/06/2009 21:54

he does picture framing and sometimes makes lampstands for people so no, i didn't ever wonder what he was doing down there.

FBG, i think you are right. i need to tell him about the camera. i'll go down and tell him now. i'll just check the channel forst to make sure now is a good time.

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kalo12 · 09/06/2009 21:55

maybe he was sanding off genital warts that he caught from another woman.

i don't want to see the vid but am very intrigued to see your 'hedgehog home'?

Merrylegs · 09/06/2009 21:56

Gosh Mrs Tiggiwinkle. V. brave of you to show your face on here- considering the circumstances....

lostinthecitylover · 09/06/2009 21:56

most men wank alot as far as I know. It's not personal.

Are you upset that he's doing it or is it cos it's with the sandpaper?

lostinthecitylover · 09/06/2009 21:56

most men wank alot as far as I know. It's not personal.

Are you upset that he's doing it or is it cos it's with the sandpaper?

Ronaldinhio · 09/06/2009 21:56

be careful with what you say...he may feel a bit of a plank

ABetaDad · 09/06/2009 21:56

He wasn't using a Piston Straight Line Air Sander was he?

My eye was drawn to this sentence in the product spec:

"3000 reciprocating 1-inch strokes per minute save you time."

I note it also has "quick action sandpaper clamps".

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coppernails · 09/06/2009 21:57

no ive never noticed any abrasions before. hes really particular. yes, he was wanking and rubbing between his bottom globes.

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morningpaper · 09/06/2009 21:57

Never mind him

Is the camera colour?

What's the range of the wireless pick-up?

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