does anyone occasionally get woken up in the middle of the night by their dp/dh trying to 'get it in' while your asleep?

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my dp does this occasionally, the last time being 2 nights ago. its not something that bothers me and we've got an understanding ive basically told him it doesn't bother me as long as he doesn't expect any kind of cooperation (we are talking about 2-3am, not around 10pm!!)

does anyone else have this situation??

ooh havent read all of thread but its a big no for me if i havent said you can put it in then its wrong why would you want to have sex with uncooperative person who is asleep

i woke up with an ex my legs were up he was stumbling to get it in and it completely freaked me out i think making love having sex should involve 2 people with some emotion not ok have me while im asleep yuk

and also i woke to find him trying to stick it in another hole thats why his an ex respect me respect my body or piss off

i must say have never got on dp when his alseep either i dont mind if were both half asleep communicating with each other not if one is snoring

A woman can't rape a man mrsjammi - it specifically refers to penetration by a penis.

I wouldn't like the scenario you describe if I were your DH and I know a lot of men who wouldn't either. But if you both enjoy it then that's fine obviously.

can you imagine looking down on partner drawling and snoring and being able to find that attractive lol not for me anyway

It's obviously taken your mind off feeling ill though

I think the OP said this is something her and her DP have spoken about and she has said it is fine, that sounds like consent to me.

Either way it's not my kind of thing and it does'nt sound healthy for either party but each to their own.

OP iof you are having doubts about it or are feeling uncomfortable say no and if he does'nt respect that he does not deserve to be around women if you don't ahve a problem with it then well as you were.

Mr Bean learnt along timeago NOT to wake me,he can do what he likes, just don't wake me

The penetration is obviously the issue because as well as the consent issue, you're also talking about someone having sex with and being aroused by a non conscious person.

That is completely different to the senario I described as my DH half waking, feeling amorous and proceeding to stoke/kiss/touch me whilst I sleep. His objective (if he's not too sleepy) is to wake me and have sex with me. I think he'd be quite disturbed at the idea of having actual sex with me whilst I slept.

But I don't see the point of the thread because the OP seems to have given consent to what is going on.

I think the point of the thread is that she wants to find out if she is normal or not in doing this.

Take a large sharp knife to bed in future

does anyone think she might be a troll? distinct lack or replies from her.

I take that back as she does appear to be a regular- sorry.

what do you mean by troll? sorry am I missing something

A troll- see Mumsnet info somewhere- is someone who pretends to be a genuine poster, with a genuine problem/point to make, but whose sole aim is to create a lot of attention for themselves by posting untruths, or exaggerations, and spinning it out.

howtotell Oh get it now, thanks. What's the point in that.

some people have very boring lives!

Who are you talking about howtotellmum?

Sorry, being a complete arse and missed the point, trying to do housework and talk MN at the same time. God I am boring!!!