I slapped the ow last night and i feel soooo much better!

[ambercat]

thats it really, feel like i have closure now!!

You can call me desi

thank fook for that desi( my spelling is awful, and it takes me ages to type fancy names!)..... i think everyones left the thread now....zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Yup! Off to bedski for me too

Oh ladies, PULEAZE! Get off your sanctimonious high horses!

I don't think violence is ever OK, but all the posters claiming that they'd never act that way are so far up their own arses it's unbelievable.

Ambercat, I'm glad you feel better!

I have the self-awareness to know I probably would've done the same thing in your shoes, and the perspective to understand that if OW only gets a slap on the face for her selfishness then she's fucking lucky!

Well done you!! Bloody fab!!! Massive congratulations!!

Lets hope the brazen hussy thinks twice before she gets her muff out next time!

Well I am so over the OW and do hold my XH entirely responsible for what he did to me and my family !!
However I do think the OW is a lowly self absorbed selfish manipulative slaggish little bitch ..and am very sorry I didnt slap her when I was full of anger and bitterness, as it is now I really couldnt be arsed to bother
So well done you !!

did you slap your husband too?

i can understand why you did it, but i thikn it is wrong.

you could be charged with assualt. the courts won;t care that she was shagging your H, as she was not doing anything to you or threatening you at teh time you hit her

let's hope she is not the type to want revenge either

a dignified silence is often far more effective than showing someone how much they have got to you

i bet your H loved the fact he screwed around on you and yet the OW is the one who gets the slap in the face in public

I cant get over the judgyness on this thread! Come on, she slapped the OW not a random stranger. This woman, probably knowing there were children involved, got into an affair with ambercat's partner. I know her oh is to blame too, and more to blame than the ow, but she (ow) knew what she was doing, how much hurt it would cause amber and her kids!!!! She is by no way blame-free, and thoroughly deserved a slap.

WELL DONE ambercat! I hope she felt totally humiliated and you felt great!

Good for you Ambercat. What she did to you was much more intimate, physical and hurtful than what you did to her. But she obviously has not responded to the pain she put you through so maybe now you have found a way to persuade her to back off.
I wish the rest of you would be less sanctimonious. We all know that violence is wrong. But so is having an affair with a married man. The thing is there is a law against violence but not one against the affiar, even though the affair can cuase much deeper pain. We should recognise that Ambercat was pushed beyond her limits and show some understanding, even if you don't condone her response.

Sorry, but I would have done the same as Ambercat (after I'd wreaked revenge on the DH)I know I would.
No, it is not right, but Ambercat is only human and seems like she had enough provocation.
May not be classy, but certainly satisfying.

Am shocked at the "negative" response to this strumpets slapping.

I am sure the OP has given her OH/DP/DH a good slapping, telling off etc etc.

I have had my H do the shit on me! He has bloody paid in pain and tears and misery. I kept my "dignified" distance from the OW and do you know what, 15 months on the urge to slap the munter is getting harder and harder to control and keep under wraps. The only thing is, after 15 months I am gonna look even more daft than I would have 15 months ago, if I turn up on her doorstep and deliver the slap.

I think the OP did the right thing for her. It may save her the heartache and lack of closure I have had.

There is only one time I think the OW does not deserve whatever comes her way - if she was in the dark about his marital status. Anyone who knowingly screws someones husband/partner leaves themselves open to all kinds of abuse, its the risk they take IMO. The OW and husband/patrtner have NO IDEA how the "wronged" woman could react.

I absolutely agree violence is wrong.

But come on - we are all human and sometimes we snap. Give the OP a break.

Where's the Scarlet Letter when you need it? Assault has legal implications, shagging around and then subsequently punishing that "harlot" in public is not really done these days, you know.

I think we all agree you were hurt by both their actions, and many of us know that kind of pain, but the OW didn't say those vows to you and though what she did was despicable I think it's fair to say that it's your Dh who should keep his cock tucked in never mind what emptations he comes across.

The OW always gets the wife's hatred because it's so much easier to just defer the guilt onto the "evil outsider" rather than onto dear little hubs who just couldn't help himself..

I would like to quote: Boysarelikedogs: Violence is the last resort of the incompetent. Totally agree, people get physical when they have no other means left to assert themselves. Rather sad for you and I bet the OW was delighted she still manages to irritate you so much.

A dignified scilence only works if the other person notices you are doing it. Many people would read a "dignified scilence" as too scared to do anything about it and think along the lines of "hah, stupid, wimpy cow, I'll show her" and it sounds like this OW falls into that category.

Not all affairs are carried out with middle class lovelys who know how to conduct themselves. Sometimes they happen with white trash beatches who know how to rub your face in it!

I love the ivory tower mob, they do at least provide entertainment!

Ambercat, I don't normally condone violence in any way, but if she was rubbing your face in it the way you describe she deserved some kind of wake up call! (I do agree that your DH deserved similar as well but I am guessing you already have the one covered )

Ah, just pressed the button too quickly.

Some women shag husbands out of competition and get some evil kick out of hurting another woman. You mentioned that she's never in your town but rocked up there that night. I have been in that situation and you know, it is really, really hard, but you shouldn't have given her the satisfaction of letting her see how much her actions have hurt you.

Anyway, it's done now and you say you feel better.

Good luck!

Its his fault. surely better to keep your dignity and not stoop to her level.

I guess King Canute just gave my description of these women a good name: "white trash beatches who know how to rub your face in it".

Still, you shouldn't have hit her, you just give her a reason to seek revenge.

"white trash biatches"???

Don't you think thats a little racist?

or is it not racist when things like that are said against white people?

"Superciliousness is the new black"

I might have had more sympathy for the OP if she hadn't referred to the OW being "out in my town". Unless, of course, she is Doris Day living in the Wild West and this place ain't big enough for the both of them.

MSSpentYouth, not particularly no, but that is because I don't spend my life getting hung up on bullshit (which is the ultimate racist insult). Besides, "White or Black or anyother colour Trash Beatches" just wouldn't have had the same ring to it now would it?

TBH, that ranks right up there with "Blackboard"

helena

Has it ever occurred to you that if you are spiteful, possessive and self-righteous and treat your partners like possessions that maybe it serves you right if they have sex with other people?