I slapped the ow last night and i feel soooo much better!

[ambercat]

thats it really, feel like i have closure now!!

Okay, so it probably wasnt the wisest move to wake - rise above it and all that.

In saying that, not sure I would be restrained put in that situation.

If the ow is willing to mess around with a married man she surely must expect it to bite her in the arse at some point.

DH humped OW behind your back and you slap the OW? Doesn't make sense. Not that slapping is ok in anyone's book, but did you slap him at any point? Equal opportunities etc etc

Not very dignified is an understatement.

A married man who was having lots of one night stands though! I can imagine hitting him at the point I found out, but not someone else months and months later.

Thanks to those who understand, until you have been in the situation where your whole world falls apart and the 25 yr old tart who was involved just won't fuck off you just won't get it.

A year or so ago i would have been judgy like the rest of you thinking how common and chavvy but i'm neither of these things, i never thought i would ffind myself in the situation i have and i some how have come through it stronger, i refuse to feel bad about it.

Beanieb, no turns out there wasn't lots of one night stands, its a long story.

Of course I've thought about slapping people. But I never have. I just think it's a bit... unseemly. There's a world of difference between thinking about something and actually doing it though, isn't there?

I just don't like violence. Especially amongst women.

People who resort to physical violence because of sexual jealousy are vicious morons. End of.

violence is the last resort of the incompetent

I lived with someone for 5 years pre dh and my dc. He effed off with someone else, she had always hung around him for ages, I will never know if it had been going on longer than I knew about. My world did collapse, but I didn't go and throw a drink in the woman's face the next time I saw her, which was a lot until I met dh and moved away.

Well if your DH hadn't have humped her, you wouldn't have the problem with her in the first place. Seems like your anger is wholly misdirected.

Maybe now and for 5 minutes or a few days/weeks you will feel better but your problem lies with your DH - not the OW.

I actually think it is a terrible thing that his actions have brought out this rage in you to the point where you have been physically violent with another person. Is he ok with this? Or does it help his cause in getting you back to the happy couple you were before the affair?

"Physical violence" and "vicious morons"?

Give me a break. Ambercat slapped the tart OW and gave her a wine bath, she didn't bury a hatchet in her head!

Come on you all, aren't there any of you who see that this is actually pretty funny?

Ambercat, if it happens again, let us know and Kerry and I will come and hold your drink and clap.

SGB - if your still about your wanted on another thread.

Sorry can't do links - in Relationships.

I don't like violence and I'm pretty sure ambercat doesn't either. She snapped, she slapped her.

Can you all just get over it, she didn't pull her hair, drag her round the streets, smash her face into a wall/window/floor, shouting and screaming with her skirt up around her ears. So why are you all making her out to be like that.

Ah - right. Just that you said you found out he had 100's of one night stands. Glad this wasn't the case.

Violence is violence no matter how you dress it up and make it look like it was deserved.

Not if it was a classy Joan Collins slap - now thats dressing up

Sorry if I appear to be no longer taking this seriously but, well I'm not sorry actually.

Hope you got the right person .

It was uncalled for imho.

If it's completely unacceptable for a man to slap his partner - which it is - then it is not OK to slap her. It's wrong and a loss of control by you.

BUT I've been in a situation where there has been an OW and I've had to struggle to maintain my dignity and yes, I can definitely say that slapping her would have been very satisfying. I can understand why it happens and how you feel. Don't be smug about it though!

Oh come on, can't she be just a little bit smug?
I'll bet that the OW was smug on occasion about bagging a married man.

ROFL at "Joan Collins slap"!!

BTW Ambercat, what kind of drink did you chuck at her? Hopefully something that stains and won't come out [evil emoticon]

Well done, kid!

amber good for you! i'd do the same! (i know its not a popular thing but, if you shag a married man, you should expect some shit from the wife, as should he).and wtf @ the tarty bit "with his frind now"????. i know a worse slag-bag who after cheating with her sisters husband(and giving them chlamidia).went on to have sex with her fathers best friend, then got involved with another attatched/married man , and when the wife found out, she started shagging married mans brother!.she also has serial abortions when the men wouldnt leave their wives for her.(selfish git didnt want to ruin her figure by going on the pill)i heard she got a good hard slap.... now tell me she didnt deserve one!

i am wondering how you managed to be in the same place as her - with a drink

Are you a member of the cast of Eastenders?

I see that the non-slapping brigade are out in full force this early morn

Pay no heed, amber. Superciliousness is the new black.

It is though. I haven't slapped anyone so I can't be sure but I actually think nothing feels quite as good as being supercilious, having the moral high ground and enjoying your revenge ice-cold. When she proceeds to try it on with all and sundry/turns into a mad stalker and it becomes clear to everyone what she's like, and the man who strayed comes to really regret it - in my case when he came crawling back and got a polite no thanks - aaaaaaah THAT feels good.