My daughter has made allegations that my husband in abusing her, I can't find any support on the net. Please help!!!

[hurtandworried]

My 14 year old daughter has made a statement to the police that my husband has been inappropriatley touching her and making sexual advances towards her. Please tell me where I can get some support around how this is making me feel. I can't find anywhere on the net for this kind of thing.

yes it is ashanti and i have missed loads of it, hope i can read it all later?

oh fuck off lesson you are beginning to bore me now

Again, this is an internet site, you take to a large extent what you get here and I personally think that this is what you were after all along...unfortunately you dredged up and hurt a lot of very decent mn's feelings along the way.

I haven't bullied you. I've called into question your "story".

How does it feel not to be believed........??????????

Save your approval for your DD(dear daughter)HAW.I have no need of it.

about what ronald????????????????

I'm worried about the lack of support for your DD in your posts HAW. It sounds as though her brothers don't believe her, it sounds as though you don't believe her. If this story is true, I'm very sorry for your DD. Very sorry indeed.

I think that the comparison might be fairly obvious...maybe you should read over the posts tomorrow morning when sober?

About your story HAW - have you forgotten that we were talking about you not believing your DDs story?
Ron has been much kinder than me. Why the aggression?

yes quat thats the normal reaction it would seem, doesnt help me any tho, its where we are at as a family and fairly indicitive of how difficult it is to beleive this about this particular person eh? not nice, bloody awful in fact and i hope to god that none of you, yes,none of you, are ever ever in this predicament as its truly awful

Your internet connection has really had a miraculous recovery since that last bottle kids went to bed, HAW!

never said i didnt believe it lesson, said i didnt believe or disbelieve, theres a difference

lmfao@sober!! OMG!! who the fuck are you???

ERRR, sorry to have to contradict you there OP!

HAW i am sorry you are going through this but just wanted to add something which may or may not help you.
My sister (who i have no contact with at all) had 4 daughters. in 1995 her oldest daughter accused her step father of abusing her. My sister did not beleive her and nor did the police so she moved in with my mum. A year later her 2nd daughter also accused her step dad of abusing her....this time the police took more notice and the 3 remaining girls were taken into care, my sister then had to choose between her husband or her children, because the accusation had been made her husband was not allowed near children despite no charges being bought on him at that point. unfortunately my sister chose her peado husband and lost her girls and her family because he was eventually sentanced to over 20 years for his actions.
the point to this story? I know from personal experiance that it does not matter if your daughter presses charges or not your husband will be placed on the peadophile register and will remain on this register for 2 years until charged or proved innocent. This happened to my brother who was accused of abusing my niece, he was placed on the register and then 5 months later the case was aquitted because my niece admitted she made it all up BT my brother remained on the register and even now still has to get letters from the police for employers to explain how he was innocent of all charges!

yes as they say, you get what you pay for, bt versus o2, bt wins every time!!

whatever do you mean?
Who am I? why a very talented Brazilian footballer of course
You said you were drinking and couldn't keep up with fairly obvious points being made I kindly suggested that you review the thread when sober

no need to swear my dear

I don't think there is a difference from the point of view of your dd. You aren't giving her the benefit of the doubt, and I think you should. I'm surprised that none of the posts from those with personal experience of this sort of situation have caused you to think about the damage your doubts might do to your relationship with your daughter.

Anyway I am bowing out of this thread now. I hope you do get some proper, professional advice over the weekend.

op i was abused by a family member

told no one

eventually confronted perpetrator as an adult

it was the families unwillingness to support me and accept what he had done that led me to the police that then led me to press charges that led to a crown court that led to imprisonment

it was the FAMILY's denial and support of the abuser that made me so hurt that i disowned the lot of them

abusers are clever - they manipulate - they network - they RARELY admit what they have done

I was 15

I did not lie

your poor daughter

omg bonkerz.... so thats both sides of the coin i am tossing!! shit!! thats dreadful

mrsjammi, if you read the thread you'll see that the OP has voiced her doubts to her daughter, sadly.

yes ria i fully take that on board and am now so much clearer in my head than when i joined this hours ago!

WTF are you, OP?
I can't even call you hurtandworried anymore. You appear to be neither!