Is it acceptable for a married man to call on a single woman after the pub shuts?

[harman]

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depends. on whether the married man makes a pass at single woman, at what his intentions are (and hmm, not sure they would be honorable at closing time tbh if they've been talking and single woman is alone).

So yes, I prob would be pissed off if it was my husband.

No.

I mean: no, it isn't acceptable and yes, I'd be annoyed.

if they new each other prior to the evening no.
if not then yes

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that when harry met sally thing of men and women can't really be friends..true sometimes.

What do you mean when you say 'call on'? he went to her house?

Why not just go home to his dw?

Why?

Well it could be acceptable - say if they had a long-standing friendship.

If they just met, or don't know each other well, then I'm not sure what is supposed to be "all purely platonic. I would not find that acceptable.

If I were the single woman I would not allow a married man into my house at that time of night unless we were friends (and if we were friends, then obviously I'd know his wife and know she'd be OK with it).

Obviously this rule doesn't extend to my own husband , although he might qualify as a friend and I suppose I do know that I'm OK with him visiting me.

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I would assume one of the four wants to get laid but can't tell which one

TBH if my husband was a regular down the pub then I'd probably expect this sort of thing

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Ah, but if two men came by together, that's different to one on his own, iyswim.

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I was the other friend, and there REALLY is no suggestion of anything, from any of the 4 of us.
But I wouldn't fancy being the married ones wife.

I wouldn't be happy of it was my hubby. Not to mean I'd think he was up to something but it just wouldn't sit comfortably with me (unless the single woman was someone who was a longstandng friend of both of us whom I knew well).

I'd be pretty p-ed off. that he hadn't come home, not specifically about the visit.

I don't see anything wrong with it, and it wouldn't bother me if it were my dh.

No, it's not on. So 3 of you are single and one is married? I would go beserk if this were my dh. He's in the company of 2 single women and he chooses to go back to one of their houses? Not acceptable.

Turn the tables - If you were a married woman with a single friend and you met 2 single blokes, would you go back to their house? I wouldn't because I know dh wouldn't like that at all, it's disrespectful.

If the guy's wife knew you and he had phoned her to make sure it was ok, then fair enough. But I think it's a fairly safe bet to say that if she knew, she wouldn't be too happy about it.

What you should be asking is, if it's all innocent, does his wife know where he is?

If that were my husband, I would be furious.

And you, Harman, are being very naive.

If dh phoned me to make sure it was alright before he did it I'd be annoyed that he'd woken me up.

I can think of only one reason a married man would call on a single woman after the pubs shut, and it's not for coffee

So you'd have no issues about your dh going off with 2 single women and his single mate to one of the women's houses?

None whatsoever?

Wouldn't bother you in the slightest?

Not even the fact that he only sees them in pub, so he doesn't actually "know" them?

Would you want to know where he'd been or would you not be bothered if he didn't tell you either?

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I'd cut off his balls and wear them as earrings and slap you upside the head.

but that's just me.